Would you feel upset if......

[MelandBen]

I had a really big argument with my mother last week and I haven't spoken to her since.

My dad & I get along fantastically and I have seen him twice since the argument as he works away during the week,

So easter came and I didn't expect to hear from my mum. Got a lovely call from my eldest brother who said dad had just been there to visit them and my 15 month old nephew for easter and told him about the argument.

All sides of the family tell me that it is ok and that I did the right thing in the argument (my mum suffers from mental issues unfortunately)
So I thought that I would at least have a visit from Dad yesterday as it was DD's first easter and that when I heard from my brother who lives an hour away from mum, dad & I, I thought, oh well that means he is on is way then.

He never showed up.

He never called.

And I know it had nothing to do with mum, as mum & dad are separated, but still live together in the same house.
I'm trying to be detached to this whole situation, so I don't get emotional. Cause when I get emotional I feel that I do not justice for DD.

I just wanted to know... would you feel hurt? or am I possibly over reacting due to the argument with my mum.

[Tam-I-Am]

I can see WHY you're hurt...but if you didn't organise anything with him, maybe he just assumed that you'd be busy with your inlaws - or maybe he got stuck at your brother's house, or maybe 1 of 100 other reasonable explanations happened.

Personally I'd just ring him and say something along the lines of "oh, we missed seeing you yesterday! Maybe we could catch up sometime this week?" and then move on.

[hayleylea]

I agree with Tam I am - :hugs: Im sure your Dad didnt meant to hurt you. And as for your mum - i hope you can work that out too.

[MelandBen]

:D Thanks, thats what I did and he came around this arvo.

Sometimes I think things through too much!!

hayleylea - thanks, things will be ok with mum.... one of those things hey... I have to make ok even if she is nasty to me as I want my DD to have a relationship with her.

Sometime I think it would be easier to move away and not have to deal with this stuff but poor DD will then not have her rellies around and I think that is important for her. So it's SUCK it up time :D

[Lastcenturymum]

Sometimes we need to make the contact or we can read things into a situation that aren't there. Glad you saw him.

Is it time to offer an olive branch to your mum?