getting closer to my scan and I'm not sure if i can cope

[1+1=5]

I feel sick with guilt so please don't post judgmental posts here. I have a week till my 20 week scan and I have been pretty relaxed up until the last couple of days. a friend asked me if I was ok today and i broke down, I haven't been able to recover since.

i feel so immature. I desperately would love to have a little girl after by two boys. I go through each scenario in my head of the sonographer telling me I'm having a boy or girl and allow myself to react which i think is not being helpful anymore. i'm afraid of being disappointed because its not right to be disappointed in a healthy baby.

I don't know what to do, I'm starting to lose it and I hope I don't have an anxiety attack over this. Its so silly. the worst part it, DH doesn't want to know the gender so the pressure is on me not to let my demeanor give it away to him AND i have no one to discuss it with afterward. its all on me. not finding out is not an option.

Has anyone been in my position???? how did you get through it??

this is so difficult for me to write. i have come online several times over the last couple of days and I haven't had the strength. i'm scared people will read this and ignore it. I have no one to talk to at the moment. I have tried catching up with a couple of close friends this week but they are both so busy. this is my last resort.

[boysrgr8]

I understand your anxiety, maybe if you could do some meditation?

[boysrgr8]

I am sorry, I haven't really any ideas, I think you will just have to go with the flow until your scan. I suggested Meditation so you can find a way to calm yourself when you are going into a panic.

[brogeybear]

Hi darl! I couldnt read that and not post! *hugs* to you sweetie. You know that deep down you will love your baby no matter what. Hell I hardly know you and I know you enough to say that!

Please don't feel bad if it is a boy and you go home and cry for a while. It doesn't mean that you don't or won't love bubba - just that you are greiving the loss of your dream for a girl. It would be healthy to greive that IMO.

Oh and I think it is good that you ARE finding out now, I would rather get the emotions out of the way at 20 weeks than be "disappointed" when bub is born.

Please don't feel bad hon!

[Nowhere]

:hugs: hope you are having a lil girl, a perfectly healthy little grl

[Theophania]

Hey there

I can understand the way that you are feeling, I have never been there myself, but I can imagine the guilt etc. Don't beat yourself up over it though, you can't help the way that you feel and I am sure even if you found out you were having another lil fella you would love him just the same.

I know you said not finding out was not an option but I thought I would throw it out there that maybe you could reconsider... That way you can connect with your baby first and maybe if you were to have another boy, already having made that connection might help?

I am thinking pink for you :cloud9:

[honeydew]

:hugs: Gender dissapointment is very real, and you have no reason to feel guilty for the way you are feeling :hugs:

If you do end up finding out you are having another boy, go home and have a good cry about it- GUILT FREE. Allow yourself to grieve never having the little girl you really really want.

Then do whatever you need to make yourself feel better and able to look forward to another little boy- perhaps decorate the nursery again or go shopping for all those gorgeous little boys clothes that are out at the moment.

Don't let anyone make you feel bad for the feelings you are experiencing :hugs:

Good luck for your scan :goodvibes:

[raisingthree]

Hi,

I understand completely and please never ever feel guility about how you "feel". I was the same and I think it actually takes strength to be completely honest and say "hey, I would like a girl and yeah I will be dissapointed". A lot of people judged me with my second boy when I wanted a girl.

Just a suggestion - ask the stenographer to write it down and read it when you feel ready? That way you can read it privately if you wish?

I did that with my second pregnancy although I ended up asking anyway:o

[BlueLips]

I would practice some deep, slow and calming breathing. It's normal to be excited, anxious and terrified for something so long anticipated.

Get in there and take a moment to relax and focus on your breathing. You can get through this.

I am thinking pink for you
:cloud9::baby:

:babydust2:

[Sparklydreamer]

[QUOTE=brogeybear;4640755]

Please don't feel bad if it is a boy and you go home and cry for a while. It doesn't mean that you don't or won't love bubba - just that you are greiving the loss of your dream for a girl. It would be healthy to greive that IMO.

Oh and I think it is good that you ARE finding out now, I would rather get the emotions out of the way at 20 weeks than be "disappointed" when bub is born.
[QUOTE]
:iagree:

You poor thing! :hugs:

Don't feel guilty and don't feel bad at all. It's entirely natural to feel upset at the thought of unfulfilled dreams. If it turns out that you are having a boy and you find it hard to cope perhaps seeing a counsellor would help? I'm sure your doctor would be able to suggest someone appropriate. Its nothing to be ashamed about at all - everyone has dreams for their future and it hurts if that doesn't look like happening. Talking it through and getting some support now before the birth would probably be a good idea.

But - fingers crossed for you that your dream comes true and you get your little girl.

[DoneAndDusted]

Hi huge :hugs::hugs:

I am going through the same thing right now. I have two beautiful little men who I love more than anything however have recently found out I am pg with #3 (and our last) I just keep thinking over and over we only make boys :(... I'm sorry I have no advice and wonder too how I will react if I find out we are having another boy, I feel horrible and guilty and I know I will love him as much as anything but I will forever grieve the little girl that I never got, if that makes sense?..?..

I keep having people saying to me, "oh I hope
you get a little girl, you must really want a little girl after two boys"....... ah no sh#$! but then finish with, "but I think its another boy" - seriously I could slap them!

I love the advice about splasing out on a new nursery and some new bubby clothes.... I guess after two little boys clothes maybe a little shabby and in need of replacement.

I am thinking pink for you and I so hope you get your little girl!! I wish you all the best for your scan :goodvibes:

[1+1=5]

Thanks to everyone who has replied. there are some really good suggestions that are helpful...I can't think straight like i normally can. I think if i get too stressed out on the day, I will ask the sonographer to write it down. that way i can react in private and in my own time. I hope that this is possible, i have heard somewhere before that some sonographers won't do it out of fear of litigation :confused:...if they get it wrong or something. I will try though if I don't feel ready at the time.

I think I feel better having written it down and getting it out there, going away and having a breather. I was a bit nervous about reading the replies.

i have no doubt in my mind that we will love this baby to bits regardless of the sex, I just felt so awful for crying about it last time with Noah that I didn't want to go through that again. Noah is passed out on the couch next to me, looking very cute so thats helping too lol.

this is going to be a very long week :(

[Pulp Fiction]

Has anyone been in my position???? how did you get through it??

I'm in your position right now. I have a DS already and I would really really love a little girl this time. I think I'll probably be quite disappointed if this one is a boy too, as horrible as it sounds to say that. And to make matters worse absolutely everyone I know knows how much I want a girl this time around so they are all hoping its a girl too.

In the meantime I am trying to subconsciously train my brain into not being disappointed by telling myself all the reasons why having a boy would be better. My fear now is that my plan will work tooo well, and I will end up being disappointed if its a girl. :laughing:

I think you're doing the right thing by finding out the gender early because it gives you the whole rest of your pregnancy to come to terms with it.

Seriously, I DO understand where you're coming from. My first pregnancy I wanted a girl and got a boy but I wasn't disappointed because I was convinced I was having a boy anyway (and he is the lovliest sweetest boy ever.)

This pregnancy I really really want a girl but am starting all my subconscious preparation now so I won't be too disappointed if I get a boy instead.

But next pregnancy if I have two sons already and I find out I'm having another one I will probably be REALLY disappointed.

I think its natural to be disappointed if you don't get the gender you were hoping for. Don't beat yourself up over it.:hugs:

[1+1=5]

I keep having people saying to me, "oh I hope
you get a little girl, you must really want a little girl after two boys"....... ah no sh#$! but then finish with, "but I think its another boy" - seriously I could slap them!



i have had this more times than i can count. i can understand why people would say that but it does rub it in that much more.

i do feel the same way as you though, we only make boys here.

[mordygordy]

I found out 3 weeks ago that I was having another boy and I so desperately wanted a little girl this time. DH couldn't come and I knew I was going to be so upset if it was a boy. (I was kinda glad DH didn't come bc of this) I took my mum with me and I cried as soon as I got out and continued crying while we were shopping down the steet (and I am telling you now that I don't like to cry infront of people so mum was shocked).

That night I got up at night and went out into the loungeroom and cried a little more bc I didn't want DH to know how upset I was. After that I feel fine about it. I searched and search for names until I found one I liked (hope DH is going to agree) and I have been fine ever since. I can't wait to meet him. ALTHOUGH the ultrasound lady wasn't totally sure so I am still holding out for some hope that she had it wrong when I have my next scan. AND I will be trying for a girl next time. Don't know how I will react if its another boy?

Just wanted to let you know that it is totally normal and there is nothign to feel ashamed about.

My suggestion is try and take your friend you cracked with for support so you can get it all out before seeing DH.

[1+1=5]

And to make matters worse absolutely everyone I know knows how much I want a girl this time around so they are all hoping its a girl too.


i think this is my issue as well. too many people know how much i want a little girl. i'm dreading the look on my mum and sister's faces when i say its another boy...it really annoys me. i know they are disappointed for me but disappointing someone else and feeling the guilt for it is not something i need.

[Lozie]

Hey i know exactly how your feeling! With my 3rd pregnancy when i had the 18-20 weeks scan i argued with the sonographer when he told me we were expecting another boy, then when we were in the car i yelled at DH and cried a bit cause it was his fault lol he's the one with 3 brothers! GUH! Anyhoo i just wanted to tell you it's OK to be disappointed, to have a cry and deal with the prospect of 3 boys, but it does pass and every day you will feel better about having another boy if thats the case. HUGS! And i felt the same way this time but the sonographer at my last scan couldnt tell what the sex was this time so i am bracing myself for another boy but hoping like hell we get a little girl. I cant shake the feeling that if its born a boy i will have a cry and yell at DH about it in the birth suite that would be not very nice huh? I would feel soo horrible reacting like that to my child but i know it will pass and i will love this baby with all of my heart anyways so 2 minutes of maddness is nothing compared to a lifetime of unconditional love :) I hope when you have your scan they tell you you are having a girl! good luck !!

[Pulp Fiction]

ALTHOUGH the ultrasound lady wasn't totally sure so I am still holding out for some hope that she had it wrong when I have my next scan. I did the same thing when I was pregnant with DS. Every scan I had after my 20 week one, I would ask the ultrasound person 'Is he still a boy?' :laughing:

[1+1=5]

I found out 3 weeks ago that I was having another boy and I so desperately wanted a little girl this time. DH couldn't come and I knew I was going to be so upset if it was a boy. (I was kinda glad DH didn't come bc of this) I took my mum with me and I cried as soon as I got out and continued crying while we were shopping down the steet (and I am telling you now that I don't like to cry infront of people so mum was shocked).

That night I got up at night and went out into the loungeroom and cried a little more bc I didn't want DH to know how upset I was. After that I feel fine about it. I searched and search for names until I found one I liked (hope DH is going to agree) and I have been fine ever since. I can't wait to meet him. ALTHOUGH the ultrasound lady wasn't totally sure so I am still holding out for some hope that she had it wrong when I have my next scan. AND I will be trying for a girl next time. Don't know how I will react if its another boy?

Just wanted to let you know that it is totally normal and there is nothign to feel ashamed about.

My suggestion is try and take your friend you cracked with for support so you can get it all out before seeing DH.

i'm not a crier either! I have the lights off in the lounge and DH is sitting accross from me, watching telly and playing on his Iphone so i know he cant see me. Lucky I'm not a loud crier, i just go red and teary.

I had a good cry the night of the ultrasound with Noah and after that, I was fine. i know i will be okay eventually. i'm just afraid of my own reaction.

I have my student middie and Owen coming with me to the scan. its the day after Owen's birthday and he really, really wanted to come. DH can't come as there is a restriction of two people to come to the scan and there is no one to look after Noah. I will be ok. The idea of writing down the gender is sounding more and more like the right way to go. i can drive down to the beach and open it in peace and some where where i can be alone.

[1+1=5]

Lozie, I have my fingers crossed for you :)

[Pulp Fiction]

i think this is my issue as well. too many people know how much i want a little girl. i'm dreading the look on my mum and sister's faces when i say its another boy...it really annoys me. i know they are disappointed for me but disappointing someone else and feeling the guilt for it is not something i need.
I know what you mean. This pregnancy I have been getting morning sickness and everything that I didn't have with DS, and all my friends and PARTICULARLY family keep saying 'oooh. Thats because its a girl this time.' Its like...yeah, I know you think you are doing the right thing and being encouraging, but really all you're doing is setting everyone up for a big fall if its not.

[DoneAndDusted]

I dont know how to 'quote' you, OaN, but where you said, "i think this is my issue as well. too many people know how much i want a little girl. i'm dreading the look on my mum and sister's faces when i say its another boy...it really annoys me. i know they are disappointed for me but disappointing someone else and feeling the guilt for it is not something i need"

I feel the same way, deep down I know they know I would want a little girl, after all I'm only human, but I keep lying and covering up with "oh but three little boys so close in age (3 under 4yrs) will be so wonderfull, they will be best friends" I know it will not change the way I feel, however hard I try and convince myself, I know I will be dissapointed but I just don't want the pity nor them going on and on about it... I can't totally explain it but that is how I feel... I can't tell you how many times I have done the ring test or pee'd on draino... unfortunately I have no idea how far I am or when I have conceived, but I have done the chinese calendar which says boy or girl depending on the assumed months of conception, however DS2 was meant to be a girl too.

"i have had this more times than i can count. i can understand why people would say that but it does rub it in that much more"
It does rub it in much more and i dont know why they do it either, in my case though NONE of them have been in this situation, I gues they think they are helping...

I have everything crossed for you to break the trend and not be a baby boy only maker!

[1+1=5]

I know what you mean. This pregnancy I have been getting morning sickness and everything that I didn't have with DS, and all my friends and PARTICULARLY family keep saying 'oooh. Thats because its a girl this time.' Its like...yeah, I know you think you are doing the right thing and being encouraging, but really all you're doing is setting everyone up for a big fall if its not.

hah I've had that too. no ms with the boys but i did with this one. i have stopped telling people how different this pregnancy is and i don't even talk about the pregnancy with my mum. i don't mind if people are dissapointed for me, i just don't want it written all over their faces. be happy for me, that whats i need.

[Pulp Fiction]

Well I hope everyone on here gets the gender they want. :fingerscrossed: Good luck guys.:)

[1+1=5]

I can't tell you how many times I have done the ring test or pee'd on draino... unfortunately I have no idea how far I am or when I have conceived, but I have done the chinese calendar which says boy or girl depending on the assumed months of conception, however DS2 was meant to be a girl too.


i have done the ring test and i have ph tested FMU so many times and looked at the chinese calender (which said girl for the adjusted dates but also said my eldest is a girl). the ring test and ph tell me girl but i can't allow myself to fantasize about it, just in case. i can see myself arguing with the sonogrpaher no matter what they said. if they said girl, i would probably insist on a second opinion :laughing:

[Pulp Fiction]

hah I've had that too. no ms with the boys but i did with this one. i have stopped telling people how different this pregnancy is and i don't even talk about the pregnancy with my mum. i don't mind if people are dissapointed for me, i just don't want it written all over their faces. be happy for me, that whats i need.
Well I'm the queen of stupid when it comes to that. I got my MUM (who really really wants this baby to be a girl for me) to do the ring gender test on me. It said girl. And mums a BIG believer in in and now she just kind of presumes I am having a girl. What an idiot I am.:rolleyes: I mean, great if it is. Too bad if its not.

[1+1=5]

Well I hope everyone on here gets the gender they want. :fingerscrossed: Good luck guys.:)

yep, good luck to everyone! I hope this is everyone's year :yes:

[1+1=5]

Well I'm the queen of stupid when it comes to that. I got my MUM (who really really wants this baby to be a girl for me) to do the ring gender test on me. It said girl. And mums a BIG believer in in and now she just kind of presumes I am having a girl. What an idiot I am.:rolleyes: I mean, great if it is. Too bad if its not.
:laughing: my mum lives three hours away thankfully. as much as i love her, she wears her heart on her sleeve and doesn't hold back when she has something to say

[Pulp Fiction]

I dont know how to 'quote' you, OaN.
You just go to her post and click the 'quote' button at the bottom. :thumbsup:

[RedPanda]

I think it's a really good idea to find out because it's going to give you another 20 weeks to come to terms with the result. No matter what you do, you can't prepare yourself for how you are going to react. I have two sons and until two weeks ago, was pg with baby number three (sex unknown). I never gave a HUGE amount of thought to its sex because I really didn't care, but towards the end of the pregnancy, I started to worry that it might matter. I started to wish I'd found out just in case I cared. It's hard because everyone around you starts asking you if you care what the baby is and you start to feel like you should care. Just let yourself feel how you feel. Your baby will never know if you had an adjustment period after finding out. If this is a boy, you know that you'll be a bit disappointed in the short term and you just need to let yourself feel that. Go out and buy some new cute things. I know when I had DS2, I found the lack of clothing/blankets etc as gifts was a bit hurtful. People would say "Oh, you have everything" and it's not as though I wanted stuff because I was greedy, I just wanted some recognition for bringing a new little life into the world, even if that little life had a penis! Spoil yourself and your new little son! It has to be one or the other and you'll soon know. If it's a girl, you'll have your wish and if it's a boy, just think of how close your little troop will be. I'm from a family of three girls and honestly, the bond between same-sex siblings close in age is amazing. I think it's a real gift for boys to have brothers, and you'll get so much joy watching them grow up as mates.

Oh, and I ended up having a girl. Having two boys first is no indication that you're going to have a third one. You might, but there's every chance it's a little girl!

[melbryan]

Unfortunately I have been where you are and having that third boy made me sad. I had worked myself up into a state and felt sick I was looking to the universe to tell me what it was. I knew everyone knew I wanted a girl but knew deep down it was another boy. I had done all the tests and I just didn't want to believe it. We found out and my heart sank a third boy for me I wanted to cry but didn't becasue I still wanted this baby.
So you know what we went back for a 4th and I was not leaving it to chance this time I did the diet the timing the BBT and I thought this was my last shot it could be another boy but I was ready for it. The pregnancy was the same as 2 of my previous ones so I thought another boy. I wanted a girl and waited for that 19 week U/S and I made them check and check again I didn't believe it we had made a girl. She was coming.
SO don't be too hard on yourself others will not care when the baby comes and yes they will ask if you will have another. BUt you know what my 3rd boy is 2 1/2 yrs and he is just a beautiful little boy you'll look back and think how silly was to think like that and time will pass and you will become so in love with the children you have created whether they be boys or girls. I just know now I would never have felt complete if we never had a girl as a part of our family. I feel so complete now it is the best feeling cause I know I am finished.

[pinkgirl]

I have been where you are. My first baby was a DS and when I was pregnant with my 2nd I wanted to find out the gender cause I really wanted a girl. The scan showed a boy and I was really disappointed but felt guilty cause he was healthy. All the same emotions you are going thru. To this day I am glad I found out at 20 weeks cause by the time my DS was born the gender didnt matter to me anymore. I had 20 weeks to deal with it.
When I got pregnant again 14 years later !!! (different dad), I had a scan done and found out it was a girl. I was so excited but made her check 4 times !!! Then I went into labour at 30 weeks but they managed to stop it but I had to have scans done every week until she was born at 36 weeks. At every scan I asked if it was still a girl. When she was born I still didnt believe it until I saw for myself that yes, it was a girl.
So even thou with my DS I was disappointed for a while it was ok in the end and with my DD I didnt really believe it until she was born anyway. lol
What you are feeling is normal human emotion so embrace whatever you feel and dont be ashamed because either way in the end, once you see your beautiful baby, none of it will matter. :hugs:

[RHJ]

:hugs: Gender dissapointment is very real, and you have no reason to feel guilty for the way you are feeling :hugs:

If you do end up finding out you are having another boy, go home and have a good cry about it- GUILT FREE. Allow yourself to grieve never having the little girl you really really want.

Don't let anyone make you feel bad for the feelings you are experiencing :hugs:

Good luck for your scan :goodvibes:

Very true!
I have been exactly where you are. I didn't find out the sex of my first 2. I wanted boys. But for my 3rd (and last) i was DESPERATE for a girl. I was really really dreading finding out that i was having a boy. I got quite anxious about it. It was the first thing i found out during the scan. Unfortunately the sonographer skimmed over it and just said, 'its a boy" and went on to other things. but it wasn't a bad thing now that i look back in it. I was able to watch my little man on the screen, and be amazed at him. That helped me to hold it together while at the hospital, all the way home, and until i was alone. I spent a long time getting it into my head that i was never having a daughter. That i was a mum to boys only.DH didn't know if it was a boy or girl, he didn't want to, so i really had to keep my emotions to myself, but i was very thankful for some close internet friends who allowed me to get it all out to them! When my DH and i chose his name (we had to choose boys and girls names though as DH didn't know) it really helped me. I was able to speak to Joel by name. I was able to really start to get that he was a boy, and it really helped.
Of course, i still had a small bit of me that hoped for a girl when his birth came, but, really, i don't think i thought about it again for ages after his birth!
I think finding out early is certainly best if there is some gender preferences. Fingers crossed for you for a little pink healthy one!

Am always happy to listen if you ever want to get the deepest of feelings out, because trust me, i know how you feel, and it isn't fun!:hugs:

[1+1=5]

thank you to all who posted such thoughtful posts. it really helps to read through them again and again as no one around me understands where i am coming from. i have friends with both sexes telling me to be happy with what i have...easy for them to say, they have one of each.

I have calmed down a lot now and i'm just not thinking about the scan day anymore which is making time go faster. i'm still liking the idea of writing it down on a piece of paper and looking at it when I'm ready and away from others so i can react how i need to react. i might have to open it while i'm online with the hubbers as everyone around me seems to be too busy at the moment.

its also comforting to read how many mums had boys and then a little girl. Mel, I followed the guidelines you sent me months back to TCC this little one and sway things in our favour. fingers crossed ;)

[melbryan]

Good luck don't assume anything until the time comes, I believe your children are sent to you so whether it a boy or girl they were meant for YOU.
Hope the diet worked , I think alot comes down to chance although if you can sway the odds what have you got to lose. Your gaining a beautiful baby. It can depend on your length of cycle that month, when you ovulated when you BD's, Ph levels the food you ate that day or few days, lots of variables I think.
It just seems like everyone is having girls my SIl had on withint he last year, 2 best friends had girls and a 3 friends have had girls so I think it is girl season. I had mine within the last year so it must be the time for girls.
Good luck for your scan try and stay as relaxed as you can.

[Pulp Fiction]

Good luck again and :fingerscrossed: for you and don't forget to keep us posted!

[1+1=5]

Good luck don't assume anything until the time comes, I believe your children are sent to you so whether it a boy or girl they were meant for YOU.
Hope the diet worked , I think alot comes down to chance although if you can sway the odds what have you got to lose. Your gaining a beautiful baby. It can depend on your length of cycle that month, when you ovulated when you BD's, Ph levels the food you ate that day or few days, lots of variables I think.
It just seems like everyone is having girls my SIl had on withint he last year, 2 best friends had girls and a 3 friends have had girls so I think it is girl season. I had mine within the last year so it must be the time for girls.
Good luck for your scan try and stay as relaxed as you can.

it is the season for girls! i know 5 of the 6 pregnancies that have happened around me have been girls! DH thinks its funny and says that the girl quota has been taken up :mad:.

i did the diet, ph testing, timing and BD positions. i also believe that we are given the children we are meant to have...i was just hoping that that includes a little girl :D

[1+1=5]

Good luck again and :fingerscrossed: for you and don't forget to keep us posted!

i will! tank God for Bubhub, i would be so lost without everyone here. i don't think people realize how much they have the potential to change a persons world by posting and being supportive on here. you all rock my socks.

[raisingthree]

Just letting you know I am thinking of you and please know that we are all here to support you either way! PM me if you need to - I will not judge you at all as I have been there.

I hope they do let you write it down, I'm glad I could help with that suggestion.

[Maisymouse]

:hugs:

I know how you feel. I am pregnant with my third girl that we very much wanted to be a boy. I was upset and I did cry.

After many weeks I have come to terms with the fact that we are having a girl. I love her very much and if you happen to be pregnant with a boy I am sure you will love him like you would of her.

It is completely normal what you are feeling it does not make you are bad person. :hugs:

P.S I hope you get your little girl.

[1+1=5]

Just letting you know I am thinking of you and please know that we are all here to support you either way! PM me if you need to - I will not judge you at all as I have been there.

I hope they do let you write it down, I'm glad I could help with that suggestion.

thanks :)..that was a good suggestion



Amy, right back at ya :hugs:


thank you too Princess :hugs:

[Ffrenchknickers]

I never thought I would be able to relate to this but I soooooo can :( I feel very anxious about finding out the sex this time and I am scared how I am going to feel :no: I have had many a nights lying awake thinking/praying about it.

I will have you in my prayers on Friday, I know how you are feeling :hugs:

[sarahsboys]

Oh hugs hun. I can totally relate, we found out in Jan that we are expecting our fourth boy!. I had told everyone that I was sure it was a boy, when deep down I really thought it was a girl, this pregnancy is totally different. I still search the web for people that have been told the wrong sex at their scans. But the sonographer, said 100% boy, so chances are very slim. I am also going for a 4D scan today just to be sure. My reasons are totally selfish that I want a girl, when I know a 4th boy will fit into our family so much easier. My boys are very active, and I know a girl may hate that she has 3 brothers. But I cant help but still feel twinges of jealousy when I am out and see other mums with their daughters all dressed in pink, with their hair clips and dolls and just think this will never be me......

Anyway I really hope you get your little girl!!

[chaiseandlarasmummy]

I have really loved reading this thread.
I am the opposite to you have 2 girls and am hoping for a boy to complete the family (this is definately my last)

I think i'll be nervous at my 20 week scan also and i'm worried that if it's another girl sometime down the track my family will tell her we were hoping for a boy.

We will love another princess just as much as we'd love a little prince but as someone said it's grieving the dream of having a boy/girl.

Goodluck

[1+1=5]

I never thought I would be able to relate to this but I soooooo can :( I feel very anxious about finding out the sex this time and I am scared how I am going to feel I have had many a nights lying awake thinking/praying about it.

I will have you in my prayers on Friday, I know how you are feeling :hugs:


you have a girl frenchie :p. I really hope that you can have a little sister for her. I'm still so excited that you're preggas, can't wait till your scan! but seriously, there has been a lot of praying here as well and something tells me its another boy in there for me and i need to make peace with that.


Oh hugs hun. I can totally relate, we found out in Jan that we are expecting our fourth boy!. I had told everyone that I was sure it was a boy, when deep down I really thought it was a girl, this pregnancy is totally different. I still search the web for people that have been told the wrong sex at their scans. But the sonographer, said 100% boy, so chances are very slim. I am also going for a 4D scan today just to be sure. My reasons are totally selfish that I want a girl, when I know a 4th boy will fit into our family so much easier. My boys are very active, and I know a girl may hate that she has 3 brothers. But I cant help but still feel twinges of jealousy when I am out and see other mums with their daughters all dressed in pink, with their hair clips and dolls and just think this will never be me......

Anyway I really hope you get your little girl!!

i still remember reading your post, i really had my fingers crossed for you guys as you were trying gender swaying too? i know what you mean about another boy fitting in better. i had a sister and i really needed that when i was a teenager. i don't know if we would have any more after this one so she would be an only girl. what you described is exactly how i feel. i hate feeling jealous for those having little girls :(


Yo Andrea!!!!
I just read this in your journal "baby's heart rate was between 140 and 145 which apparently means boy "

That's not necessarily true, I don't know who told you this. DD's HR was in that range, and she came out a girl. Don't get hung up on the numbers girl :hugs:

Okay here's some various google evidence:

"Some say that if you look at the fetal heart rate that you can predict the gender of your baby. The old saying is that above 140 is a girl and below is a boy. "


"Heartbeats
One belief that has been around for some time, and even had some acceptance in the medical community at one point, is that the fetal heartbeat differs for boys and girls. If you're having a girl, then the fetal heart rate will be above 140. A boy will have a heart rate below 140. However, that pesky science has reared its little head again to say that this is complete fiction. A baby's heart rate is not affected by its sex until it is born, when a girl's heart rate will increase considerably compared with boys during labor."

i love ya Amy! it was the middie who said "oooh looks like another boy in there, you'll have half a dozen of them", my student middie winked and said "its probably a girl". bless her


I have really loved reading this thread.
I am the opposite to you have 2 girls and am hoping for a boy to complete the family (this is definately my last)

I think i'll be nervous at my 20 week scan also and i'm worried that if it's another girl sometime down the track my family will tell her we were hoping for a boy.

We will love another princess just as much as we'd love a little prince but as someone said it's grieving the dream of having a boy/girl.

Goodluck

i think if i had two girls, i would like to have a son as well. I really wanted one of each but more than anything, i really, really want a daughter. best of luck with your scan too!

[RoarsomeMum]

Totally with Optimus on the HB..

and Big Fat empathetic :hugs::hugs::hugs: Let yourself feel however the heck you feel.. denying it changes nothing (We all know you will love whatever your carrying:thumbsup:)

Sending Pink vibes your way, and extra hugs, becuase that conflicting emotional yuckness blows.. (as natural as it is!!!!)

We were told Boy for Roar (and I was heart set on girl) I bawled for days even though ANY pregnancy was a blessing.. I felt so guilty, and I should not have.. being blessed with a child does not mean you can't have dreams for what you would like the child to be.. guilt free:hugs: - He turned out to be a SHE by the way!;)

[chaiseandlarasmummy]

i think if i had two girls, i would like to have a son as well. I really wanted one of each but more than anything, i really, really want a daughter. best of luck with your scan too!

I was happy i had a girl first as more than anything I wanted a daughter too, my hope for a boy i am sure is much different to your hope for a girl..

I noticed your in Geelong.. me too, wanna do a baby swap??? :laughing:



(i hope everyone knows i'm kidding)

[Ffrenchknickers]

you have a girl frenchie

Doesn't make the way I am feeling any less real. I didn't feel this way after my 2 boys :no: But now, I am really, really struggling, it keeps me awake at night and I feel so nervous about finding out.

Only a couple of days to go for you, I hope you can hang in there :hugs:

[1+1=5]

Totally with Optimus on the HB..

and Big Fat empathetic :hugs::hugs::hugs: Let yourself feel however the heck you feel.. denying it changes nothing (We all know you will love whatever your carrying:thumbsup:)

Sending Pink vibes your way, and extra hugs, becuase that conflicting emotional yuckness blows.. (as natural as it is!!!!)

We were told Boy for Roar (and I was heart set on girl) I bawled for days even though ANY pregnancy was a blessing.. I felt so guilty, and I should not have.. being blessed with a child does not mean you can't have dreams for what you would like the child to be.. guilt free:hugs: - He turned out to be a SHE by the way!;)

thanks, thats really nice. naww you're making me cry now

[1+1=5]

Doesn't make the way I am feeling any less real. I didn't feel this way after my 2 boys :no: But now, I am really, really struggling, it keeps me awake at night and I feel so nervous about finding out.

Only a couple of days to go for you, I hope you can hang in there :hugs:
:hugs::hugs::hugs: i'm messing with you, every girl needs a sister so i totally get wanting another little girl. i spend some nights and days freaking out as well. i know where you are coming from, this happens to me so often. i have my scan on friday and then we drive up to Mornignton straight after to visit people all weekend. i won't have the time to sit and think about it. i wish i could just go to my scan and then be alone int he car with my laptop so i can process it with everyone here lol. this can't be healthy.

[1+1=5]

I was happy i had a girl first as more than anything I wanted a daughter too, my hope for a boy i am sure is much different to your hope for a girl..

I noticed your in Geelong.. me too, wanna do a baby swap??? :laughing:



(i hope everyone knows i'm kidding)

lol...yeah we can swap! i have noisy but really smart boys :D


stupid batty middie :laughing: Talking to a middie on FB and she said it's bullllllllloccks

oh well, they said something soooo similar to me when I was in labour with DD.

I'm sure she was having a joke not realizing how much this meant to me. my student middie who i have met before and discussed this with saw the look on my face straight away...lol.

[1+1=5]

That's not very good therapeutic communication :shame: :no: from the mid at all.

lol...other than that, she was quite nice. she said there is no reason why i can't have my waterbirth and she supported me in my decision not to have bloods done. it was just the comment about having half a dozen boys...i get that so many times "you'll have a football team before you get your princess"...:no:

[1+1=5]

FYI from the sounds of it your student middie sounds super dooper. :D

she is! i emailed the unit chair of midwifery at my campus putting my pregnant body up for the 'follow-through experience' and apparently they drew straws and my student won :laughing:. as a student, i know how hard it is to get participants so i thought it would be nice for someone else, turns out she has been more of a support for me than me for her. she is tops!

[HART]

Fingers crossed for you on Friday... that you will be blessed with the girl you so dearly want. This was us last year and we were very lucky to get our girl after two boys - though she was a complete "accident" so no gender swaying was involved at all.

Just wondering if you ever got your friend to do the ring test on you as I recall reading how it wouldn't work for your husband?

Good luck...

[1+1=5]

Fingers crossed for you on Friday... that you will be blessed with the girl you so dearly want. This was us last year and we were very lucky to get our girl after two boys - though she was a complete "accident" so no gender swaying was involved at all.

Just wondering if you ever got your friend to do the ring test on you as I recall reading how it wouldn't work for your husband?

Good luck...

i asked her but she wouldn't do it as she believes is witch craft. i didn't even think of it that way but i can understand her position.

its really comforting to read how many mums had boys and then a girl, makes it seem like a possibility :thumbsup:

[danni3]

Hi just wanted to give you a hug! Fingers crossed everythign goes well for you with your scan!

Although I certainly have not felt what you are going through with each of ours we wanted the other, funnily enough I never looked back from when they told me what it was...

I am sure a few people would have mentioned it but I would see if the tech would write it down on a bit of paper for you. That way although you will still have the smae stresses you will have removed the worry of how you react in front of DH 'giving away' the surprise. One less worry maybe?

I hope you have a lovey healthy (pink :p) bubs growing in there!

[Herchy]

Big hugs hun and all the very best for Friday!
If you need someone to talk to, I'm more than happy to PM you my Number. xxoo

[1+1=5]

Big hugs hun and all the very best for Friday!
If you need someone to talk to, I'm more than happy to PM you my Number. xxoo

thanks Nicky, i'm pretty good now. i need to stay chillaxed and all will be good.

[faroutbrusselsprout]

It's all been said but I couldn't not reply as I will be in exactly the same position when I'm pregnant with #3.
If it is a boy....I think it's important to let yourself grieve and try not to feel guilt as you come to terms with your third blue bundle..everything will be fine....
And, if it's a girl, well... I for one will be a doing a little dance for you..
Stay strong..:hugs:
x

[chuppa chup]

Hi Owen&Noah's_mum,

I just wanted to wish you all the best for Friday's scan. I'm currently pg with #2 and I'm already anxious about finding out the gender. We plan on having 3 children either way but I would really like a pink one.

Thought you might be interested to see this. By this table I would think that you have a pretty good chance of having a girl :)

Here is the number of all same-gender families we would expect to see, purely by chance:
Family Size - Same-Gender - Mixed-Gender
2 Children - 50% - 50%
3 Children - 25% - 75%
4 Children - 12.5% - 87.5%

I know quite a few people that have had 2 boys and then gone on to have a girl - I hope come Friday you can join that group. If you don't, I hope it doesn't take too long for you to adjust.

Good luck

[1+1=5]

Hi Owen&Noah's_mum,

I just wanted to wish you all the best for Friday's scan. I'm currently pg with #2 and I'm already anxious about finding out the gender. We plan on having 3 children either way but I would really like a pink one.

Thought you might be interested to see this. By this table I would think that you have a pretty good chance of having a girl :)

Here is the number of all same-gender families we would expect to see, purely by chance:
Family Size - Same-Gender - Mixed-Gender
2 Children - 50% - 50%
3 Children - 25% - 75%
4 Children - 12.5% - 87.5%

I know quite a few people that have had 2 boys and then gone on to have a girl - I hope come Friday you can join that group. If you don't, I hope it doesn't take too long for you to adjust.

Good luck

hey, that made me smile :D. i know families where there are 4 or more of the same sex kids and i'm like this :eek: at the odds.

ta for your post too faroutbrusselsprout...i LOVE your user name :)

[smog]

goodluck o and n's mum, ill have everything crossed for u.

[1+1=5]

goodluck o and n's mum, ill have everything crossed for u.

and me for you and your HPTs!

[jessicana]

Im so glad I found this thread, I thought I was a horrible mum already. I found out yesterday at 15W+5 that im having twin boys - I feel horrible saying this but im devistated. I wanted a girl so bad. Im going to feel left out in the family with DF and now two boys. I never had a sister and I just wanted a girl to take to dance class and buy dolls for do her hair etc
DF doesnt understand he is off bragging to all his mates how he is having two boys - he thinks i should just be grateful for getting pregnant as it took as 18 months and fertility assistance, and i am grateful just really dissapointed

[1+1=5]

Im so glad I found this thread, I thought I was a horrible mum already. I found out yesterday at 15W+5 that im having twin boys - I feel horrible saying this but im devistated. I wanted a girl so bad. Im going to feel left out in the family with DF and now two boys. I never had a sister and I just wanted a girl to take to dance class and buy dolls for do her hair etc
DF doesnt understand he is off bragging to all his mates how he is having two boys - he thinks i should just be grateful for getting pregnant as it took as 18 months and fertility assistance, and i am grateful just really dissapointed

:hugs::hugs: its good to be surrounded by people who understand. my DH doesn't care what we have (i wish i wouldn't either) so he doesn't understand my obsession :o. there is so much i always wanted to do with my daughter, growing up it never occurred to me that i may never have a little girl. Its a really tough thing for me to accept. will you be having any more children after your twins?

also, 15w and 5 days is a bit early for gender determination isn't it? hmmm, never say never ;). I would keep asking at subsequent ultrasounds for them to double check that for you.

[sandy cheeks]

:fingerscrossed: You get a healthy girl.
I had this with ds I so wanted a girl and was very disapointed for the rest of my preg but when he was born I was stoked.
Good luck with the ultra sound and gender dissapointment is real there are plenty of others who feel the same so dont feel horrid for feeling how you do it's normal.

[1+1=5]

:fingerscrossed: You get a healthy girl.
I had this with ds I so wanted a girl and was very disapointed for the rest of my preg but when he was born I was stoked.
Good luck with the ultra sound and gender dissapointment is real there are plenty of others who feel the same so dont feel horrid for feeling how you do it's normal.

this is why i want to find out now so that i can adjust to the idea and be excited by the time he gets here. thats how it went down with Noah, it took me a day or so to adjust and then i was ok. i'm not sure how i will react this time, we weren't planing on going for any more but we also haven't said a definite no either. i always thought i would have two and here i am thinking of having 4 :eek:....or more :eek:

[Ffrenchknickers]

2 days to go :fingerscrossed:

[1+1=5]

2 days to go :fingerscrossed:

i know :crying: ....... :barf:

[kuddles]

Oh and I think it is good that you ARE finding out now, I would rather get the emotions out of the way at 20 weeks than be "disappointed" when bub is born.

Please don't feel bad hon!

I read your post and have only read as far as this reply... I just had to let you know that I agree completely.
:hugs:
I hope you get your little girl. Take care and don't be too hard on yourself.

[jessicana]

15W+5 is early but it was pretty clear little willy and we could see the cord at the same time, they were not close together. I will ask again at my 20 weeks scan to make sure but i think the errors occur when they say girl too early and it ends up being a boy rather than a boy being a girl.

I said to DF driving home from the scan, "well were having another one now, so i can try or a girl" he said "yeah but we might end up with another 2 boys"

I think ill see how it all goes when they are born before i start planning anymore :laughing:

[1+1=5]

15W+5 is early but it was pretty clear little willy and we could see the cord at the same time, they were not close together. I will ask again at my 20 weeks scan to make sure but i think the errors occur when they say girl too early and it ends up being a boy rather than a boy being a girl.

I said to DF driving home from the scan, "well were having another one now, so i can try or a girl" he said "yeah but we might end up with another 2 boys"

I think ill see how it all goes when they are born before i start planning anymore :laughing:

:hugs::hugs::hugs:

[angeldust86]

I really hope you get your little girl !! Im in the opposite boat atm, i really really want a boy and DH and I swayed quite heavily for 12 months for our little miracle, at 20wks told GIRL, 24wks told BOY, 28wks told BOY & 30wks told maybe GIRL again.... ahhh im just so confused!!!!:banghead: in the process of trying for 12 months i had 3 miscarriages and this is terrible to say but it makes you wonder what the gender of any of those babies were and if any of them were our little prince :( you think after all the losses that i would be happy for just being pregnant but i just cant shake the feeling....

i have my fingers crossed for you and pray you get your little girl :fingerscrossed: :)

[1+1=5]

I really hope you get your little girl !! Im in the opposite boat atm, i really really want a boy and DH and I swayed quite heavily for 12 months for our little miracle, at 20wks told GIRL, 24wks told BOY, 28wks told BOY & 30wks told maybe GIRL again.... ahhh im just so confused!!!!:banghead: in the process of trying for 12 months i had 3 miscarriages and this is terrible to say but it makes you wonder what the gender of any of those babies were and if any of them were our little prince :( you think after all the losses that i would be happy for just being pregnant but i just cant shake the feeling....

i have my fingers crossed for you and pray you get your little girl :fingerscrossed: :)

wooow, thats not very encouraging! you poor thing, i think the baby wants to be a surprise. i hope you get your little boy.

i've been feeling a bit sick about it all again today. Friday and i will be put out of misery.

[Ffrenchknickers]

You said you are going away straight after?? Are you going to be able to come online and put us all out of our misery BEFORE you go? :p :fingerscrossed:

[Ffrenchknickers]

You said you are going away straight after?? Are you going to be able to come online and put us all out of our misery BEFORE you go? :p :fingerscrossed:

I don't know how I am going to wait until Friday.....hehe.

[RedPanda]

I'm keen to hear too O&N'sMum! I have a pink feeling for you!

[1+1=5]

I'm keen to hear too O&N'sMum! I have a pink feeling for you!

ooooh bless, i hope you are right.


You said you are going away straight after?? Are you going to be able to come online and put us all out of our misery BEFORE you go? :p :fingerscrossed:

I don't know how I am going to wait until Friday.....hehe.

I will try. I have my scan at 10am and we're heading straight up for the weekend. i will see if i can get bubhub on my phone :)

[SCORPIOGEMINI]

Hey O&NMum, I'll be crossing my fingers and toes for you, and I have pretty long toes.
Take a box of tissues just incase or if you get your little girl then a non alcoholic bubbly to cheers.
Im feeling pink:yes:
:fingerscrossed: for me for a blue, I really think they're already chosen for us though.

Me:valentine:Hubby
DD1-7yrs:cloud9: DD2-5yrs:smiliedance: Blessed Twice:)
TTC#3

[1+1=5]

Hey O&NMum, I'll be crossing my fingers and toes for you, and I have pretty long toes.
Take a box of tissues just incase or if you get your little girl then a non alcoholic bubbly to cheers.
Im feeling pink:yes:
:fingerscrossed: for me for a blue, I really think they're already chosen for us though.

my fingers are crossed for you too. I'm glad there are people out there who are feeling pink for me, I hope i'm wrong. no matter what the result will be, i will be crying like a baby. not long now.....

[faroutbrusselsprout]

ooooh bless, i hope you are right.



I will try. I have my scan at 10am and we're heading straight up for the weekend. i will see if i can get bubhub on my phone :)

No no. You WILL get bubhub on your phone! :laughing:
You have almost hundred people waiting on this! :D

[Ffrenchknickers]

You WILL get bubhub on your phone!

:iagree::iagree::iagree::iagree::iagree:

[1+1=5]

No no. You WILL get bubhub on your phone! :laughing:
You have almost hundred people waiting on this! :D
:laughing: i have figured out how to do it so I will have to come online. its nice to have people caring

[1+1=5]

Did you find your results out today :confused: Somehow I thought it was Friday! :p
not today...friday at 10am

[chickenandfrog]

Oh i hope you get the little girl your dreaming of! :) fingers and toes crossed for you friday :)

[brogeybear]

Yes, yes, you must come and tell us all...we are anxious to find out as well! Now get some sleep!

[1+1=5]

Yes, yes, you must come and tell us all...we are anxious to find out as well! Now get some sleep!
look out for my thread then, I will def post something on friday then.

dh was looking over my sholder before trying to see what i was writing and i said it was to do with gender disappointment. some of his comments were so horrible and he made me feel like an idiot. he does not understand that people can feel disappointed by the gender of the child and that they should just be happy with what they have. That broke my heart, I'm so alone in this if i didn't have BH.

I'm tempted to tell him to go away for the weekend and i will stay at home (we're going away to visit his friend and mum...thank God my mum can pick me up as things get a bit claustrophobic at MIL's). i just want to be alone to deal with the news :crying:

[MissWinter]

Oh hon I hope you start to feel better soon.
You don't know which way it will turn out, so please don't get too upset just yet.
I really have my fingers crossed for you - after seeing DP deal with GD I know how hard it can be, but remember, you WILL get through it!

[Sapphires]

I do feel for you! Im very lucky that I too have two boys and can honestly say i would not care if i had two more and never had a girl, yes it would be lovely but its not important to me. So I cant even say i know how you feel. I always remember my mum telling me about when she had me and the lady in the bed next to her was just so distraught as she was so so so hoping for a girl like you and had chosen not to find out the sex...well she got another boy. I think had she found out she would of been able to come to terms with it earlier. Another lady i know has 8 children and you can guess which number child is a girl as they stopped after 8. I think thats a bit silly but i guess it shows the extremes she went to get her girl! Hope it all works out for you, i know you will love this baby nomatter what and you will be ok after the initial disappointment if its a boy :)

[Aurora21]

Oh sweetie listen to you.
you sound as though you already know its a boy and are kind of grieving already. I think if they actually told you a girl you'd be saying "are you sure" "are you sure" and checking the pictures you get with others online (like a mad women)
I know because thats what I've been doing since being told I'm having a boy!! :laughing:
you have no higher chance of having another boy just because you have 2 already and you did gender sway this time so I would say yur chances a higher of having a little girl.

I completely understand your reaction if you were told another boy as I would've been the same had a been told another girl.
honestly i hope they tell (and show you) its a little girl and you burst into tears of happiness and delight that your lovely little family is complete.

xxx

[OJandMe]

If it makes you feel any better... anyone..

I had twin boys, then another boy, then another boy, and now I'm having another boy...

I was sooooooo upset when I found out #5 was ANOTHER boy...


But, you know... they just tweak your heart and boys are cool. :yes: Give yourself time, allow yourself to grieve the girl you wanted, but let yourself grow to love the boy you'll have.

ETA: Here's a thread I made about how I felt about the whole thing... it might help to know you're not the only one... Always the mother-in-law, never the mother. (http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?t=321418&highlight=mother-in-law&page=8)

[1+1=5]

Oh sweetie listen to you.
you sound as though you already know its a boy and are kind of grieving already. I think if they actually told you a girl you'd be saying "are you sure" "are you sure" and checking the pictures you get with others online (like a mad women)
I know because thats what I've been doing since being told I'm having a boy!! :laughing:
you have no higher chance of having another boy just because you have 2 already and you did gender sway this time so I would say yur chances a higher of having a little girl.

I completely understand your reaction if you were told another boy as I would've been the same had a been told another girl.
honestly i hope they tell (and show you) its a little girl and you burst into tears of happiness and delight that your lovely little family is complete.

xxx

I'm not usually worng with gender prediction and I'm convinced its another boy which is why I'm trying to accept it before the scan...but its just not sinking in. If i were told its a girl, I would go into shock and be blubbering through the whole scan and yes, i would ask them to triple check and then i would go and get myself a 4D scan :laughing:


If it makes you feel any better... anyone..

I had twin boys, then another boy, then another boy, and now I'm having another boy...

I was sooooooo upset when I found out #5 was ANOTHER boy...


But, you know... they just tweak your heart and boys are cool. :yes: Give yourself time, allow yourself to grieve the girl you wanted, but let yourself grow to love the boy you'll have.

i'm in awe of you. I don't know what to say other than OMG what are the odds??? the universe telling you that you are born to raise men, kind of like a purpose in life! probably not very helpful, sorry.

I agree, boys are very cool. as you know, its not what you have, but rather what you don't have which makes these emotions so complex. we're wrapped to have another bub but sad emotions mixed with that...it messes with your brain.

not long now.

[1+1=5]

.. Always the mother-in-law, never the mother. (http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?t=321418&highlight=mother-in-law&page=8)

this quote has been on my mind a few times...kinda depressing because I think of my MIL :dizzy:

[our3boys]

i have not even conceived number 3 yet and im already freaked out what if i dont do everything right for a girl what if what if im so scared that i will never have the experience of having a little girl. i cant give you any advice all i can say is i know what you are going through.

[Baldie's Mum]

Okay, so i got no idea on GD but everyone assumes with me that i want a boy, and when i say no i just hope for a healthy baby they say yeah whatever.....so (and here comes my suggestion)

I wrote down pro's about having a girl and pro's about having a boy...So when people say yeah sure, i can come back with all these pros on both sex's.

So maybe a simple list of all the pro's a baby boy will bring to you family may help.

As i said, i got no idea about GD.....so i hope my suggestion isnt too simple! :o

love love love :hugs:

[3lilcutipies]

Have my fingers and toes crossed for you tomorrow. I know how you feel, have been in your exact position. I will never forget the feeling when I found out I was having my DD. I was so convinced it would never happen that I didn't fully believe it until she was born :cloud9:
I hope you get to experience this too.

Good luck :hugs:

[1+1=5]

Thanks Ains, I like the new name :yes:. I go through the pros of another boy all the time, it does help.

[1+1=5]

Have my fingers and toes crossed for you tomorrow. I know how you feel, have been in your exact position. I will never forget the feeling when I found out I was having my DD. I was so convinced it would never happen that I didn't fully believe it until she was born :cloud9:
I hope you get to experience this too.

Good luck :hugs:
i get shivers when i read these posts. I hope i get to as well.

[OJandMe]

I knew before the scan that this one was a boy too...

even though I had 'tried' what I could for a girl..

Sometimes our bodies just don't allow it to happen that way.

The hard thing is, I miscarried about a month before.. and now I'm convinced that THAT was my girl... and I just can't carry girls. :no:

Oh well...

Honestly, the thought of not knowing what to do with pooplosions and a girl makes having a boy easier. lol.

[1+1=5]

Honestly, the thought of not knowing what to do with pooplosions and a girl makes having a boy easier. lol.

:laughing::laughing::laughing::laughing: that has never occurred to me...good point :detective:

[Baldie's Mum]

Thanks Ains, I like the new name :yes:. I go through the pros of another boy all the time, it does help.

Thanks.....i wasnt going to change my name till i had delievered.......i didnt want to jinx myslef! :o But i thought, okay, your nearly 18 weeks and you can feel the little mite in there, i think its okay to breath! :o

I found a pro of having a boy for you......the brotherly love and bond they will have. :goodvibes: Great mates! :hugs:

[1+1=5]

Thanks.....i wasnt going to change my name till i had delievered.......i didnt want to jinx myslef! :o But i thought, okay, your nearly 18 weeks and you can feel the little mite in there, i think its okay to breath! :o

I found a pro of having a boy for you......the brotherly love and bond they will have. :goodvibes: Great mates! :hugs:

my current two can't stand each other so that would be nice....maybe the son that unites them both :).

I'm sure your little one is here to stay, you are only about a week or two behind me with your dates :)

[Areca]

I'm going to be upfront and honest here and say I don't get GD but I have read this and don't feel like I can say nothing (it's not going to be bad I promise!)

I am one of two girls. My dad is a RAAFie and one of 4 boys. I'm 100% positive that he thought he was going to have a son one day. He didn't. However he got me. I was the daughter who went bike riding through bush tracks with him, I was the daughter who would entertain him on the dining room table as he taught me how to sky dive for when I was old enough to do it myself (which I never have btw!), I was the daughter that jumped at the chance to go on camping trips with my dad and my male cousins...just 'the boys' while 'the girls' (my mum and sis) went on shopping trips (I'd have rather poked my own eyes out). Not having a son did nothing to my dad...he had me. And none of us joined the RAAF or had an interest in planes like my dad would have loved but my oldest daughter absolutely loves aeroplanes. My dad is definitely coaching her to be a pilot :laughing: but she is just soooooo interested it's ridiculous. She knows what type of plane it is just by listening to it, she goes out to a place called Fighter World with my dad and sits and watches the most boring flight training videos with a twinkle in her eyes. My dad got his pilot, in the form of his grand daughter. My DD1 is 4.

My aunty desperately wanted a little girl....she had three boys. As soon as me and my sis hit our teenage years she couldn't have been more happier that she did not have a teenage daughter in her life! ;) Her DIL's love her like she's their own mother and my aunty says she has her daughters now...three of them. My aunty is the most involved grandparent in her grandson's life and will be in the future grandkids that are coming and in the making.

If you find out tomorrow that you are having another boy it does not mean that you won't get to do the things you imagined. I love my parents but my dad didn't walk me down the aisle when I got married, my DH did. I didn't organise our wedding, my DH did. I didn't have a high school formal to get dressed up for and my parents were away the weekend I got my first period. :laughing:

And yeah, my MIL doesn't get to babysit my kids but it's because she can't be trusted to look after them. She took my niece overseas for three weeks by herself....returned on xmas day. I'm not allowing her to baby sit because she's a chain smoking alcoholic who drinks herself in to a comatose even when my niece is in her care. If she wasn't a chain smoking alcoholic and actually took an interest in looking after my kids I would let her. We recently went on holiday with her....my parent's weren't invited. So you know, be nice to your DIL's...don't be a chain smoking alcoholic who would be willing to put your grandkids life in danger and you could play just as big a part in their life as their own mother.
:hugs: All the best for tomorrow. If you have a third DS on the way just try and remember that the little girl you are imagining probably wouldn't have been the little girl that was to be born if this baby was a girl. If you are destined to be a mother to all boys there will be a reason for it, even if the reason doesn't expose itself for many years to come.

[Aurora21]

:iagree: with Areca. what a beautiful post. :yes:

[1+1=5]

thanks Simba for your PM, I tried to message you back but your inbox is full. :)

cheers

[becca29]

Hi Andrea,

Saw you post :hugs: Please please please don't feel guilty about this at all, you're a really good mummy and you have two beautiful children.

It is a natural thing for you to be diasppointed if your dreams don't come true. By admitting your reaction to your DH or a close friend, or even being on BH be a great relief. By holding onto your feelings, you could greatly increase your disappointment.

Your feelings are not wrong or right, they're just emotions, that's all- and you're allowed to have them. What you do with your emotions is where it matters honey :D

Here's a few ideas

1. Talk about your feelings with someone you feel comfortable with, or maybe even your midwife
2. Give it time, hormones make you feel ultra sensitive when preggers
3. Just realise your feelings come and go

:hugs: We're here for you

:iagree:and :hugs:! Just know you are normal and that by talking about it you have probably eased the minds of many, many other mummas-to-be who feel the same way. You are one very strong woman to voice such a touchy, taboo topic that is so real for so many people. :yelclap: I pray everything goes well at your ultrasound.

[Ffrenchknickers]

I also just wanted to pop in and wish you luck for tomorrow :kiss: You will be in my prayers. Above all, I hope that bubs is perfect and healthy :goodvibes: I pray that whatever answer you get you will be filled with joy seeing your little bubba on the screen :goodvibes:

[1+1=5]

thanks, i need it. its going to be a long night. i couldn't sleep much last night so i'm nice and exhausted today :D. i'm feeling very numb about it all and this thread has become a real self-indulgent thing i never intended it to be. its been very helpful though.

[1+1=5]

I also just wanted to pop in and wish you luck for tomorrow :kiss: You will be in my prayers. Above all, I hope that bubs is perfect and healthy :goodvibes: I pray that whatever answer you get you will be filled with joy seeing your little bubba on the screen :goodvibes:

apparently bubby is measuring perfectly so he/she is growing nicely and my blood pressure was 'perfect'.... i have so much to be thankful for, which i am. trust me. i say it a lot to DH how blessed we are.

[smog]

good luck tomorrow:goodvibes:

[1+1=5]

FYI I didn't mention this, surprised...when I fell pregnant with DS I felt sure I was carrying a girl. I always had 'visions' of two girls, so I was extremely disappointed when I found out she was a he.
I just wanted to see little daughters...but after a few weeks, I adjusted to the idea, and now I'm really glad that I had a boy I think little boys are really cute, by the time his birth came around I was 'used' to the idea. I wondered 'what if' for quite awhile though. Your situation is a bit different though, as you have two boys already. I just had one DD...

If you need someone to chat too, I'm happy to PM you my mobile # even if it is just a text, maybe your DH won't understand and you might need to have an unbiased listener!

you are awesome Amy. like i said, very indulgent of me. feel free to txt me your no though...just incase my phone fails me on the weekend :laughing:

[Ritali]

Hi Owen&Noah's_Mum :wave:

I too just wanted to wish you luck for tomorrow (I'm still a bit of a newbie here, but I've been following....ok, maybe stalking...just a little bit :p). I have 2 boys myself and would dearly love for my next bub to be a girl, so I do know how anxious you must be feeling right about now.

Good luck Hun!!

:fingerscrossed:

[bellangel3]

Hi, I've been following your post also and I hope every goes well for you today. :)

[1+1=5]

Hi Owen&Noah's_Mum :wave:

I too just wanted to wish you luck for tomorrow (I'm still a bit of a newbie here, but I've been following....ok, maybe stalking...just a little bit :p). I have 2 boys myself and would dearly love for my next bub to be a girl, so I do know how anxious you must be feeling right about now.

Good luck Hun!!

:fingerscrossed:


awww that's sweet, thanks. i laughed out loud about the stalking. good luck with your next bub :hugs:

[1+1=5]

Hi, I've been following your post also and I hope every goes well for you today. :)

ta :)

and to everyone else too with well wishes

[Ffrenchknickers]

Oooh just want to say good luck once more :kiss:

[Love is all you need]

Good Luck tomorrow hun, have been reading along but haven't had anything constructive to add, am glad to know though if I experience GD with the next bub (when we are lucky to conceive) i'm not alone and it's a real emotion. Sorry OT

But big big :hugs: and good luck tomorrow :hugs:

[MellyMumma]

Goodluck :thumbsup:

[1+1=5]

Oooh just want to say good luck once more :kiss:


Good Luck tomorrow hun, have been reading along but haven't had anything constructive to add, am glad to know though if I experience GD with the next bub (when we are lucky to conceive) i'm not alone and it's a real emotion. Sorry OT

But big big :hugs: and good luck tomorrow :hugs:


Thank you :o. I need all the luck and good vibes I can get to just not over react. thats all i want...don't over-react Andrea :geek:

[tired*mummy]

Good luck for tomorrow Andrea :hugs:... i have my scan in the morning aswell.
I have everything crossed for you... :fingerscrossed::fingerscrossed::fingerscrossed:

[prjn]

good luck o & n's mum and to u too tired mummy. looking forward to reading about ur scans in the august threads :yes: i've been thinking about it all week O & N's mum. i was in the exact same place you're in atm. still cant believe that after two boys i'm going to be having a girl. i'll be :fingerscrossed: tomorrow for you

[RoarsomeMum]

Thinking of you today!:thumbsup::hugs::hugs::hugs:

[sueliz]

Thinking of you today - you have an entire forum it seems sending you pink, sparkly, girlie vibes!!!! Best of luck and remember you have lots of support here regardless of the outcome - and most importantly support with no judgement.

[kuddles]

Good luck today :) I hope you get your pink.

[chickenandfrog]

Good luck today, fingers and toes crossed for you! :)

[1+1=5]

Good luck for tomorrow Andrea :hugs:... i have my scan in the morning aswell.
I have everything crossed for you... :fingerscrossed:

wow, so I'm not alone! good luck to you as well


good luck o & n's mum and to u too tired mummy. looking forward to reading about ur scans in the august threads :yes: i've been thinking about it all week O & N's mum. i was in the exact same place you're in atm. still cant believe that after two boys i'm going to be having a girl. i'll be :fingerscrossed: tomorrow for you

did you guys try to sway as well? its comforting to know you got your girl.

thank you to everyone for being so nice and supportive, I'm bawling my eyes out.

my boys have been horrid this morning, they have pushed me far beyond what i can handle at the moment so its been a **** start to the day, I just want to :barf:

[Ffrenchknickers]

I can't stop thinking about you this morning. Bug hugs xoxoxoxoxoxo :kiss::flowerz::goodvibes::hugs:

Not long to go now, omgosh:hugs:

[Lillystar]

Good luck for today. Hope it all goes well and you get the result that you are after :hugs:

[1+1=5]

we are off in half an hour. I need to kill time till then. i'll come back to this thread once i know what we're having and I can get access to the internet. I freaked out a bit this morning, it took me an hour to get online, my modem just wouldn't connect. worst case scenario, I will be back on Sunday night :laughing:

[Ffrenchknickers]

I will be back on Sunday night :laughing:

Oh no you don't :no: We will all drop dead by then :laughing: You WILL get back online even if it means you have to go to an internet cafe :laughing:

[VegieK]

Good Luck!!!:fingerscrossed:

[oleander]

Good luck with your scan!

[1+1=5]

we're off! a big THANK YOU to everyone who has been following me, wallowing in self pity (as DH called it). The next time you hear from me, hopefully I will know what we're baking :wave:

[Ffrenchknickers]

:goodvibes::fingerscrossed::hugs:

[Kattus]

Good luck! I hope you have a great scan today :hugs:

[Maisymouse]

:fingerscrossed: GOOD LUCK

[Ffrenchknickers]

Waiting with baited breath....it's 10.39....tick, tick, tick.....:fingerscrossed:

[smog]

oooh i cant wait!

:fingerscrossed:

she might be a few hours im thinking?

[Herchy]

ALL the best sweetie!!!! Can't wait to hear!

[Love is all you need]

:fingerscrossed::babydust2: Can't wait to hear the results!

[Ffrenchknickers]

oooh i cant wait!

:fingerscrossed:

she might be a few hours im thinking?

I hope not, I have to go out at 12 :p

Babe, we are all here for you :hugs:

[QTB]

Iv only just seen this thread, and havent read it all.

But if you do find out its another boy, dont stress.

I found out #3 was a boy and was devestated. But now, im soooo thrilled to be having another boy. sure, id love a little girl - but it wasnt meant to be this time around. Feel free to PM me if you want a vent iv been here and remember the feeling oh so well!

[smog]

think im probably gonna be here hitting the new posts button till she comes back:laughing:

[honeydew]

I cannot wait to hear the news!! I've been following this thread for days and feel so anxious. I'm thinking pink :goodvibes:

[Ffrenchknickers]

Everytime I see this thrad appear at the top of new posts my heart skips a beat :laughing:

Luckily I am laid up with morning sickness so I feel justified in being here.

[Amphictyonis]

:fingerscrossed: waiting waiting.. :fingerscrossed:

[Ffrenchknickers]

Hey Choco :D Not long now for you :D

GIRls, what are we going to do to pass the time?

[Aurora21]

hahaha! this is so funny....I am constating hitting the refresh button!! aaahhhhhhhh!!!
she would know the results now and I'm nervous for her....damn why didnt we buy her an Iphone....with a bubhub application of course!! LOL!!

[Ffrenchknickers]

I want to go have a shower but don't want to miss anything :o

[honeydew]

I need to go and do the breakfast dishes and vacuum the floors but don't want to leave the computer :laughing:

[honeydew]

Hey Choco :D Not long now for you :D

Nope, not long at all!

[SCORPIOGEMINI]

I'm going to be upfront and honest here and say I don't get GD but I have read this and don't feel like I can say nothing (it's not going to be bad I promise!)



Firstly I want to say, you sound like an amazing person and while I was reading your post, I literally had tears rolling down my face, you sure hit a raw emotion of mine.
Thank you soooooo much, you really got me thinking for the better, thank you, thank you, thank you.
I was planning on doing some low tech gender sway but my husband is against it, I think he's pretty special.

Me:valentine:Hubby
DD1-7yrs:cloud9: DD2-5yrs:smiliedance: Blessed Twice;)
TTC#3:babydust2:

[SCORPIOGEMINI]

O&Nmum, you would of had your scan by now, I hope everything went beautifully.
You have fantastic support here with bubhub;)

Me:valentine:Hubby
DD1-7yrs:cloud9: DD2-5yrs:smiliedance: Blessed Twice:yes:
TTC#3:babydust2:

[1+1=5]

Go have a shower frenchie

[Maisymouse]

***Waiting waiting waiting***

I think I am more anxious about this then I was for my own :laughing:

[Baldie's Mum]

come on........where are you! :hissy:

Okay, so you may actually be having family time.....BUT WE ARE YOU FAMILY TOO!!!! :D

[Ffrenchknickers]

Go have a shower frenchie

I did...but :eek: You are back.....

[Maisymouse]

???????????????????????????????????????????

[OneMore4Me]

good luck, do come tell soon!

[Ffrenchknickers]

Are you ok hun? :hugs:

[Baldie's Mum]

for gods sakes!!!!!!!!! I am realy having issues with my last meal, and if you tell us what went on this morning, i can go vomit! So please!!!!!!!

[Love is all you need]

:hugs: :hugs: :hugs: As Ffrenchie said I hope you are ok

[1+1=5]

Lol....I still don't know ladies. The sonographer put the result in an envelope for me. We are in the car at the moment driving so as soon as I get a second to myself I will share it. She did say that she was 100% sure which I said 'so it has to be a boy then' to which she said 'not necessarily, I have been doing this for a long time'. That's all I have. Looking at the envelope now....

[Ffrenchknickers]

:hugs::hugs:

[Maisymouse]

Lol....I still don't know ladies. The sonographer put the result in an envelope for me. We are in the car at the moment driving so as soon as I get a second to myself I will share it. She did say that she was 100% sure which I said 'so it has to be a boy then' to which she said 'not necessarily, I have been doing this for a long time'. That's all I have. Looking at the envelope now....
:goodvibes::goodvibes: :fingerscrossed: :goodvibes::goodvibes:

[Love is all you need]

:goodvibes::goodvibes: :fingerscrossed: :goodvibes::goodvibes: also

[Aurora21]

WHEN ARE YOU OPENING IT????????

:fingerscrossed::fingerscrossed::fingerscrossed:

[1+1=5]

I love you all. I'm glad I have the mobile thing worked out

[scarymarygoldfish]

I'm here too!! hoping and waiting . . . it's like counting down eBay. nervous and excited . . .

[sueliz]

Jeepres - I don't know how you have lasted not opening it yet - we are all chomping at the bit ourselves here!!!!!!
:fingerscrossed: by a million for you!!
I assume everything else at the scan went great then???
Come on envelope..., say PINK!!!!!

[Baldie's Mum]

:goodvibes::goodvibes::goodvibes::goodvibes::goodv ibes::goodvibes:

[3lilcutipies]

This is ridiculous, I am fairly new on here and don't really know anyone but I am nervous as hell about your scan:laughing: Keep kicking my son off the computer so I can check how you went today! We are all with you :hugs:

[1+1=5]

WHEN ARE YOU OPENING IT????????

:fingerscrossed::fingerscrossed::fingerscrossed:

As soon as I can be alone, I promise. We are headed up to see mil which is 3 hrs away.

[bookwormmum]

Lots of :hugs::hugs: and got my fingers crossed for you hun :fingerscrossed:

[smog]

:hugs:good luck oandnmum:goodvibes:

[1+1=5]

Baby is PERFECT! Measuring big like my other two...lol. but its a beautiful bubba

[sueliz]

As soon as I can be alone, I promise. We are headed up to see mil which is 3 hrs away.

3 hours away!!!!??? You mean to tell us that WE ALL have to wait 3 hours???? Can't you open it with your eyes closed and take a photo and post it so we can know at least?????? :laughing::yes:

[Ffrenchknickers]

3 hours away!!!!??? You mean to tell us that WE ALL have to wait 3 hours???? Can't you open it with your eyes closed and take a photo and post it so we can know at least?????? :laughing::yes:

:laughing: I reckon :p

[smog]

Baby is PERFECT! Measuring big like my other two...lol. but its a beautiful bubba

aw that is fantastic news! :goodvibes:

[Aurora21]

are you not opening it because of your man sitting next to you??? LOL!! Im sorry but either way wont he know??? I mean if it says girl you will be jumping around and prob crying like a crazy banshee....hahaha! think he might be suss.
anyway so nervous for you i actually had a dream about you last night and it was girl (jesus I really think I've been stalking this thread a smidge too much) aaahhhhhh!!!!
:thumbsup::fingerscrossed::thumbsup:

[sueliz]

Baby is PERFECT! Measuring big like my other two...lol. but its a beautiful bubba

That's awesome news!! Knowing bubba is in perfect health is always such a relief. I now will keep my fingers tightly crossed for you to read you will be getting your much anticipated girl - it makes it hard to type with fingers crossed, but I can blame any typos on that now at least.

[1+1=5]

I will be back tonight! About to arrive in melbourne. Having had the scan I feel much better. I just need to be alone to open it.

[danni3]

Baby is PERFECT! Measuring big like my other two...lol. but its a beautiful bubba

fantastic! can't wait to know what you have cooking in there!

[Ffrenchknickers]

Originally Posted by Owen&Noah's_mum View Post
Baby is PERFECT! Measuring big like my other two...lol. but its a beautiful bubba

Awesome news :goodvibes:

See you tonight :wave:

[kayla Lilyz mum]

Good luck hun :goodvibes: have been following your thread and i wish you the best! Be kind to yourself!

[Bexta]

Baby is PERFECT! Measuring big like my other two...lol. but its a beautiful bubba:smiliedance:Great news!

Can't wait to hear the result!

[Baldie's Mum]

okay i :barf: feeling much better, and knowing your baby is perfect and healthy is just wonderful!!!!! Soooo.....i will stalk you tonight! LOL!!!!! :D

[honeydew]

ARGH, 3 HOURS!! :hissy:

Can you stop off at a public loo or something? :laughing:

Seriously though, I totally understand you wanting to do it in private. Will be thinking of you and waiting in anticipation for the news :hugs:

[GabberQueeN83]

***stalking***:laughing::smiliedance: so glad your little one is prefect & healthy!

[Lemonhead]

I had a dream about this thread last night!

I shall be stalking too....

[Cheekime]

Ok yes I am a stalker - good luck with the scan results. Had to come and post because the anticipation is killing me. It's dead quiet here at work and bubhub is my saving grace.

Will check back tonight

:hugs:

[chickenandfrog]

I too have been religiously stalking this thread ALL day, even though i knew the scan wasn't till ten... Anyways congrats on bub being big and healthy :) hope your ok after opening the envelope whatever it may say. I can't wait to hear!

[jade24]

Okay, you have no idea who I am, but like a lot of others I've been following this thread and your pregnancy diary for a while! Just wanted to say good luck and boy or girl, I'm sure he / she will be very loved. Having said that, I am sooo crossing my fingers that you get the little princess you have wished for. AnD a big congrats on bubba being healthy :)

TBH I actually had a dream about four nights ago and in my dream I saw your post about what you were having :o :laughing: Very sad, I know. Anyway, I am dying to know if I was right!

Good luck again :hugs:

[TurnedBatty]

And I am joining the stalking bandwagon :)

Good luck hun, good to hear bubz is measuring well!

[Love is all you need]

I will be back tonight! About to arrive in melbourne. Having had the scan I feel much better. I just need to be alone to open it.
:hugs::hugs: Take as much time as you need, I' so happy Bubs is perfect :cloud9::goodvibes:

And yes I'll be on the stalking band wagon tonight lol!!

[mordygordy]

I understand why you need to be alone to open it, good luck. So glad bubby is healthy, its a great feeling.

Will be back to see!

[SCORPIOGEMINI]

Oh Im so happy that bubs is well developed, thats great:yelclap:
For goodness sakes I have butterflies.
Everyone is going to hate me for saying this, BUT take as much time as you need, we'll be here waiting!!;)

[Poopandpee]

:cool:

[oleander]

Glad to hear bub is healthy! I hope you are pleased when you open the envelope!

[SCORPIOGEMINI]

:cool:

Great reply poopandpee, made me laugh:laughing:

Me:valentine:Hubby
DD1-7yrs:cloud9: DD2-5yrs:smiliedance: Blessed Twice:yes:
TTC#3

[alpacamum]

*stalking*
seriously suspenseful!:fingerscrossed:

[prjn]

glad to hear that bub is growing nice and strong for you owen and noah's mum. cant wait to find out if bub is blue or pink. fingers are crossed that bub is pink so that we can celebrate together in the august threads :yes:

[sandy cheeks]

Glad bubs is growing fine.
:fingerscrossed::fingerscrossed::fingerscrossed: hope you get a pink suprise.

[Poopandpee]

I must say I am experiencing all the same feelings I was the hours before our 24 week scan when I knew id be finding out the sex.

Gosh its so exciting though!

[1+1=5]

I don't know why I'm suprised but its a boy. I can't describe how crushed I feel. Keep thinking WHY? Why?

[Lozie]

Naw :hugs::hugs::hugs: hunni! It will pass! trust me! have a cry.. eat some choccies and you'll feel better about it by tomoro, sending you heaps of hugs and happy vibes!:goodvibes: :hugs:

Up side.....!! You wont need to buy much! You already have loads of blue ;)

[oleander]

Oh Im so sorry you are disappointed :( I know I would be too.

[Love is all you need]

:hugs: :hugs: :hugs: :hugs: :hugs: Big Hugs Andrea, We're all here for you when you can think of putting out to the world.

I'm so glad bubs is healthy, DH just must have very fast swimmers :o (sorry trying to help but probably isn't working)

[CHARLIEandNOAH]

Congratulations :)

.. and you watch, he will come to melt your heart and be the sweetest boy .. :yes:

.. take time to process it all .. and take care .. i know you dearly wanted pink, but you may end up with lotsa grandaughters xxx

[Lemonhead]

I understand you must be disappointed but how wonderful having three boys :goodvibes: they will all be best of friends and remember boys always love their mums just a little bit more than they do anyone else.

This feeling will pass and you will see that gorgeous little boy and be overwhlmed with love for him :hugs:.

[RoarsomeMum]

:hugs::hugs::hugs::hugs:the news SUCKS even though the reality will indeed ROCK!!!!!!!!

Oh your boys will be exactly who I want my girl to meet.. Loved and cherished and embraced and encouraged as human beings..

You are indeed a Brilliant Mumma Noah/Owen and soon to be's Mum!!!!!!! :hugs:

[Lozie]

Your awesome Em!!! :D

[Lilahh]

God Bless you for being so strong and for being able to share your true feelings!! :hugs::hugs: You have real courage. Maybe thats why you have been destined to have boys? :hugs::hugs:

[Silverbaby]

you know I think it's good that you found out so at least you can prepare yourself.

Once he's here, you really won't care.

Three healthy boys is a wonderful gift.

GL!! and congrats on your healthy boy!!

[MummaFug]

:hugs::hugs::hugs::hugs:the news SUCKS even though the reality will indeed ROCK!!!!!!!!

Oh your boys will be exactly who I want my girl to meet.. Loved and cherished and embraced and encouraged as human beings..

You are indeed a Brilliant Mumma Noah/Own and soon to be's Mum!!!!!!! :hugs:


EXACTLY what I wanted to say !!

[smog]

:hugs::hugs::hugs:

[3lilcutipies]

Oh, i'm sorry you didn't get the news you were hoping for :hugs:I would be devasted initially aswell. But thats why it is so great you found out now. By the time this little man is born you are going to be so excited to be having 3 boys. Let yourself cry and grieve, don't let ANYONE make you feel guilty about it.

Congratulations on your beautiful, healthy little boy. You guys are gonna have sooo much fun with 3 boys. And like a pp said, nobody can love their mummy like a boy :cloud9:

[3blue&1pink]

Oh I know how you feel!

:hugs:

I even wore pink undies to my scan with my 3rd! I had all my family wearing pink undies too!!!

Bub turned out to be a boy!

You will discover how amazing three boys really are! You really have been blessed it just takes some times to sink in. :thumbsup:

I went back again once more and finally got a girl! :laughing:

[SCORPIOGEMINI]

Hey N&O'sMum, firstly Congratulations your soon to be a mother of a beautiful healthy baby boy.

Cry all you want, let it all out, but in the end you were chosen to be his mother and I think thats pretty special in itself.

DD1 and DD2 and if I get another girl, well let it be.

:hugs::hugs::hugs:

[Liddy]

Awwww:hugs: It'll be ok! I also admire your honesty and openess with how this experience has been for you. I say there is no harm or shame in letting out your emotions, and i'm sure when he's in your arms it'll all be worth while. Hang in there! I think a Congratulations is in order regardless, you're one lucky lady!:cloud9:

[RedPanda]

I'm so sorry you're feeling disappointed :hugs: In time you'll feel better. Three boys is so lovely. I truly feel that same-sex siblings have a special bond. While you may feel disappointed that you don't have a girl, the bond your boys will have will be amazing. You've given this baby, and his big brothers, an incredible gift. A sister would also have been amazing, but brothers are just a different kind of special!

[kuddles]

I don't know why I'm suprised but its a boy. I can't describe how crushed I feel. Keep thinking WHY? Why?

:hugs:
Just one of those unexplainable things in life. I hope you find peace with your GD.
Take care and don't be too hard on yourself.

[RoarsomeMum]

Your awesome Em!!!

Right back at ya! :hugs: and ALL of you lucky enough to be raising boys. When I shed happy tears for my Roar is tis because I KNOW!!!!!!! people like you and NoahOwensMum and OJ and many others who are raising human beings with the ability and WANT to treat themselves and partners with respect.. It means more than I can ever say, and I thank you all.

Owen/Noah and little boy Blue's mumma I am glad you started this thread, so Mums like me can give :hugs:'s and understanding and most of all a Giant THANK YOU for the boys in the world that will be respectful without question to the girls, cause they have the best Mumma's ever. :goodvibes::hugs::thumbsup::smiliedance:

[brogeybear]

Oh my goodness! I just got home and have never read 10 pages of thread so ferociously in my life!

:hugs::hugs:Owen&NoahsMum :hugs::hugs:

I am so happy that you have a healthy little bubba growing inside of you. Im so sorry that the answer was not the one that you had hoped for but I know that you are a gorgeous strong Mumma to two wonderful little boys and you will do just as brilliant a job with another one as you are doing with Owen and Noah!

If you need to cry, cry and when you're ready to laugh, laugh. Let no one tell you how to feel, just feel! :hugs:

[1+1=5]

i really thought we had a good chance this time. i'm in denial, i keep thinking she got it wrong and then i can hear her saying that she was 100% sure...she even included a picture of his little bits and pieces. i can't describe how sick i felt when i saw male...boy on the page. ####

MIL and DH have taken the boys out for a walk so i'm using the time to have my breakdown. MIL gave me a catalogue of kids toys and every page had a cute little girl on it. this is going to follow me for the rest of my life :crying:

[smog]

awww i wish there was something i could say
:hugs::hugs::hugs: that could make u feel better

[DoneAndDusted]

Huge :hugs:

Congrats on another healthy little man

All I can say is you must be a wonderful beautiful women and such a fantastic and loving mummy... this little soul has chosen you to be his mummy.

Thankyou for sharing your journey, I feel more at ease and accepting of my own feelings having followed this thread and your feelings with my own journey :hugs:

[1+1=5]

i'm hyperventilating how do i stop????

[smog]

i'm hyperventilating how do i stop????

u prob need to have a good cry and grieve :hugs: it will take time

[Ffrenchknickers]

Oh babe, I don't know what to say. Huge hugs, take your time :hugs::hugs:

[1+1=5]

looking for a paperbag and i couldn't find one but it got me to stop. sorry guys

[littleleos]

get a bag and breath in and out a few time... do u have tingling too... try and slow down your breating. just wanna jump into the computer to give u a big hug

[RoarsomeMum]

:hugs::hugs::hugs::hugs::hugs::hugs:and millions more..

[sandy cheeks]

:hugs::hugs::hugs:
As pp said let it all out. Sorry I cant help more.
I dont know about the hyperventalating but is there someone you can talk to IRL? Is DP home?
:hugs::hugs:

[Love is all you need]

:hugs: :hugs: :hugs: I think the only way to let it stop is to just let all the emotions fall out and not try to hold up and be strong.

[1+1=5]

calming down now.

thanks Roar for your posts, once i can calm down it will sink in. this just feels like some kind of sick joke at the moment. what are the freakin chances???? 3 boys???? omg...we even DTD 4 days before O, I did EVERYTHING right...omg

[1+1=5]

I started feeling like I was going to pass out, tingling arms. its okay now though, in a panic o find a bag and it took my mind off.

lucky he was looking so cute....even writing HE is making me hysterical

he had his finger up his nose the whole time, that was a dead give away, just like Noah

[ElizaDoLittle]

Oh Hunni :( I wish your DH was supportive in this...... I wish there was someone you could hug.

[sandy cheeks]

How cute lol

[brogeybear]

Sweetie! I agree just feel however your feeling and cry like theres no tomorrow if you need to! I just wish so much that there was someone who could sit with you and cry with you in person! Sending you lots of hugs, some chocolate and tissues!

[3lilcutipies]

he had his finger up his nose the whole time, that was a dead give away, just like Noah
:laughing: Thats so cute! Hope you got a picture of that :)
I'm glad you have some alone time to let it all out :hugs:

[1+1=5]

i'm better off alone when i'm like this, i don't have to worry about my face. i look terrible when i cry. i think i might go off line and just let it absorb and a find a way to get past this today.

thanks guys for giving me the opportunity to get it out. i don't know what else to say :(

[my-fab5]

:hugs:

[brogeybear]

We'll be here when you're ready to come back. Take care of yourself until then darl!

[sueliz]

Oh Andrea - I am so sorry for your sorrow and sadness right now. Be sure you take the time to mourn the loss of your idea of having a girl this time, allow the sadness and tears, and then your heart will be free and open to embrace the joy of your third son. You are an amazing, honest, brave and strong woman. To come on to a pregnancy and parenting forum and admit your fears and your sadness would allow others to know their is no shame in GD, but there is a hell of a lot of confusion, sadness and mixed emotions. (I only speak from reading other's experiences here so I hope I have not spoken out of line - I was the opposite and was desperate for my third bubs to be a boy and as you know, he was).

On a lighter note, many cool people on here are mother's of 3 boys. And as mentioned in another thread cool people have also named their son Owen. Now we can start an exculsive club of mother's of 3 boys with one named Owen. :yes:

Many :hugs: to you - I hope you are able to enjoy the idea of a third boy soon.

[Pulp Fiction]

Awww...I really don't know what to say, but I do agree with this:


I understand you must be disappointed but how wonderful having three boys :goodvibes: they will all be best of friends and remember boys always love their mums just a little bit more than they do anyone else.


And look on the bright side. At least you know! Can you imagine if you went there after waiting so long to find out and bubby was being uncooperative and kept his legs shut! That'd be torture. (And there'd probably be a whole lot of frustrated hubbers here too):D

[Love is all you need]

Oh Andrea - I am so sorry for your sorrow and sadness right now. Be sure you take the time to mourn the loss of your idea of having a girl this time, allow the sadness and tears, and then your heart will be free and open to embrace the joy of your third son. You are an amazing, honest, brave and strong woman. To come on to a pregnancy and parenting forum and admit your fears and your sadness would allow others to know their is no shame in GD, but there is a hell of a lot of confusion, sadness and mixed emotions. (I only speak from reading other's experiences here so I hope I have not spoken out of line - I was the opposite and was desperate for my third bubs to be a boy and as you know, he was).
:iagree:

:hugs: and we'll be here if you need to chat some more!

[Baldie's Mum]

Oh sweetie. I am sorry the scan results werent what you wanted! :(

Much love sweetie. :hugs:

[chuppa chup]

:hugs:

[mordygordy]

I am so sorry you didn't get the result you were after. I know how you feel I did the whole BD 3 days before O, taking calcium and magnizium, no fizzy etc all the stuff they say and I to am having another boy.

I think I posted in here before I can't remember. But I took mum with me and as soon as I left I cried and cried. I even cried down the main street which is unlike me bc I HATE people seeing me cry (when I dislocated my kneecap I wouldn't cry infront of people). Mum was so worried about me. I cried again that night when DS and DH where asleep in bed. Since then I have felt ok. The next day I search for names and started to feel better. I am still kinda in denile and think that maybe they got it wrong bc they were not 100% sure and am waiting for my next scan to make sure but am ok with it now. I have found the perfect name and I hope DH will agree with it.

:hugs: I am sorry. Just wanted to share my story with you.