Do you think about the bub you lost in utero and wonder how your life would be now?

[MummaBear03]

I lost a twin when pregnant and only had DD. I often read the threads from twin mums and wonder what life would be like if I had 2 of them. I think it would have been really tough for about the first 3 years, but often really wish I'd been able to carry both of them to term.

I also have a giggle to myself because DD's father had a girlfriend who was pregnant when I was and she had twins so he would have had 2 sets of twins born within a couple of months!

But mostly I just wish both had survived. How unfair that only one could live til birth.

[MelandBen]

:hugs: I do all the time.... must be harder for you though as they were twins.

[MothersMilk]

Yes, i do.
I have lost twins also and whenever anyone mentions twins i think that could have been me.

[Just Add Water]

Yep, but mine is only recent.. I had a m/c last month (was only 5 weeks...) but bubs would have been due on my birthday so it made it even more exciting... I would be through my first trimester now. I know it's different to what other people go through but I do find it hard some days.

[Amara]

Yes I do. I would have a 12 year old now. Hard to imagine actually. I don't think about my other two losses in the same wan though as both of those pregnancies happened just before my son was conceived so he would not exist if one of those had gone ahead.

[trishalishous]

Im in the same situation, lost twin 2 at 9 weeks.
my older sister has twins, and shes really good and not mentioning my angel, or the fact that Im only having one baby :)

[Bellini]

Yes, I think about it most days. I lost bub 7 weeks ago, so I would be about 13 weeks pregnant now. I will often be playing around on the floor with DS and wonder if my belly would have gotten in the way, or wonder if DS would be poking it by now etc. I daily think about how far along I would be if I was still pregnant, and how big my belly would have been at each week. It's so hard.

[waterlily]

Yep!!! I lost 3 babies in a row before I had my little angel. Each time was worse than the last. I always wonder!

[TrulyBlessed]

Yep I certainly wonder how life would be now. We would of been enjoying newborn cuddles as he was due last month but now I'm in the early stages of a new pregnancy trying not to be scared & enjoying every moment but I also catch myself pleading to who ever it is that listens to not take this baby away too. :rolleyes:

[MummaBear03]

Yes I do. I would have a 12 year old now. Hard to imagine actually. I don't think about my other two losses in the same wan though as both of those pregnancies happened just before my son was conceived so he would not exist if one of those had gone ahead.

:hugs: I don't think it's ever easier or harder, I think the loss of a baby is a tragedy.

[lambjam]

I miscarried my 3rd pregnancy and went on to conceive DS3 a few months later. Lately I've found myself thinking about how if I hadn't gone through that miscarriage I wouldn't have him. I know I would have another baby who I would love just as much, but I find it a comforting thought... that a part of me is actually glad it happened, as it made way for him to be born. I hope that doesn't sound too weird :o.

[Rileysmuma]

Yup all the time.

I gave birth to my Daughter at 24weeks but she was to premmie and didnt make it. I always think about her. When i watch DS, who is now 8 months do somthing new its always bitter sweet. I always think this should be the second time i see this but then again im so proud of my little man. She would be three in september :-) But im so happy i had her, If i didnt fall pregnant with her i wouldnt now i have an incompatant cervix and i would have lost DS
She is my little mirical baby :angel:

[CookiesRYum]

yep the last few weeks I have as my bub would have been due in 4weeks.. and I have a friend due in 3weeks..

so it plays on my mind a bit..

[Tls5431]

I miscarried my 3rd pregnancy and went on to conceive DS3 a few months later. Lately I've found myself thinking about how if I hadn't gone through that miscarriage I wouldn't have him. I know I would have another baby who I would love just as much, but I find it a comforting thought... that a part of me is actually glad it happened, as it made way for him to be born. I hope that doesn't sound too weird :o.

Same. I always think that if I hadn't of miscarried before DD I would never have meet her. I was meant to have her :yes:

[Benji]

:hugs: to you all. I'm so lucky to not have suffered what you beautiful women have but my parents lost my brother to SIDS when he was 6 months old. They still, 24 years later, still wonder and talk about what he may have been like, how he would have fit in with our family dynamics, how he would have played with my other brother and I to this day.

[kylza]

:yes: Every single day.

I would have been due in 8 weeks and I have a friend who is due the same time so its a constant reminder.
We lost a little girl and every time I see little girls clothes I nearly cry.

I'm pregnant again and just know its a boy, I would be happy either way but will always remember the little girl we lost.

Everyone else seems to forget the lost little ones once you fall pregnant again even DH has stopped talking about it, but a mummy never ever forgets her little angel :angel:.

[SpecialPatrolGroup]

I miscarried my 3rd pregnancy and went on to conceive DS3 a few months later. Lately I've found myself thinking about how if I hadn't gone through that miscarriage I wouldn't have him. I know I would have another baby who I would love just as much, but I find it a comforting thought... that a part of me is actually glad it happened, as it made way for him to be born. I hope that doesn't sound too weird :o.

I feel much the same. I think falling pregnant with DD the next cycle really helped me. After having several significant loses such as my parents, I tend not to look back on things like that, it would send me around the bend.

[Leisa21]

:hugs: I think about it daily. I feel so guilty for not being able to give my son a sibling :( it's a dark thought for me.

[Pax]

Seeing as I have lost 5 pregnancies I would be a mother of 10 :eek:

No i would not try to imagine what that would be like :laughing:

[TheCatsMeow]

Same. I always think that if I hadn't of miscarried before DD I would never have meet her. I was meant to have her :yes:

I feel the same. I m/c but found out I was pregnant two months later. It was meant to be, and my angel paved the way for DD to be born.

[sweetseven]

I had an early miscarriage about twelve years ago, and regret that I didn't get to properly mourn the child. My husband insisted it was best to pretend it never happened and not speak of it to anyone.

About seven years ago, my mother insisted that I was pregnant with a boy and said hello to Daniel (the boys name I had picked out) every day. When my daughter was born, I felt like I had lost her twin, Daniel. This was another loss that I had to mourn alone, especially as there really wasn't any child lost, merely the concept of one. But occasionally, I still think of what Daniel might have been like now.

I know it seems odd. The real child I lost has always been nothing more than a baby in my memory, but the imagined one continues to grow with the years.

[loving6]

Yes I do wonder from time to time. It seem to be less with each passing year. I would have a 15 yr, 14 yr and another 6 yr old (one of twins).
They all have names and the children often talk about them. Even though they are here with us they are certainly still part of our family.