Confused and need advise

[subaruforestermum]

At the moment I'm sitting here in tears....

:gloomy: I just logged into my partners email account, and signed into his msn to see who his contacts were, only to find that they are all females between 18 - 22 and live in surrounding areas to us........ I am hurt and confused, he said they are his brothers friends who wanted to talk to him, but I just dont feel I can believe him..

At first he said he never chatted to them, then he said he chatted to them when they added him to his contacts, and it was during a rough period we had when my son was 3 months old, and he was staying at his parents for a while:crying: .

I just feel so hurt, angry and betrayed that he didn't just come clean when he moved back in.. I am just so sad right now, and want to just walk away from our relationship, we've been together for 6 years and he has done this to me, and compared me having Bub hub contacts to his female contacts. I thought we were doing really well. It's just not fair what should I do, I am so confused right now............:crying: :crying:

[Mischief]

Hey Honey - 6 years is a long time to walk out on, as I'm sure you feel too.

Maybe he is telling the truth about not having chatted to these girls for a long time.

Sometimes you feel more *understood* by members of the other sex....if he was feeling depressed (and after the tramatic time you both had with the birth of your DS, its possible) he certainly would not want to admit such *failure* to his mates....men dont feel as though they are allowed to get depressed. :(

That doesnt make it right that he didnt tell you, I dont know how I would feel if Steven did it....but I know I've often had closer male friends than female friends, spent time talking to them on the phone, meeting them for lunch....ect, but it has always been just that...Friendship. It really could be as harmless as he says it is.

You and your hubby have been through some pretty ruff stuff.....tramatic birth, and just being a new parent itself, changes your relationship in a way I never imagined it could.

I know this sounds like a total cliche, but have you considered seeking counseling together? It might be just what you need.....dont walk away on your relationship before you have both really talked it out and tried to find a way to make it work....

Wounds like that take forever to heal, and always leave a scar. :no:

Hugs to you, its a very hard time, and such an emotional thing to happen. I'm here if you ever want to talk, just PM me. :hugs:

Kat

[subaruforestermum]

Just Closing this old news thread...:wave: