Am I insane?

[Alatariel]

I guess even if everyone answers with a resounding 'YES!' I'm not going to change my mind on TTC, but I'm a 4th year law student with 2 years to go and we are trying for our first bub. I plan on having junior looked after by mum, or MIL during classes (12 hours a week) and doing my study at home with bub.
My reasoning, and I think its logical, is that I'm almost 27. I'll be 29 when I graduate. By the time I've done the junior lawyer thing, got a decent position somwehere I'm secure, I'll be 32 or so. Then I face the 2 things I don't want - having to take maternity leave at a job I havent been at for long (and the law business is pretty cutthroat for women who want maternity leave), and having my first bub in my 30's, something I've never wanted to do. I want one NOW! Plus, maternity leave propbably wouldnt be long enough for me, I want to be home for a long time with my little one!
I'm in a good financial position with my partner, and he is totally supporting and excited.
so... Am I mad for thinking I can finish my degree and have a baby at the same time?

[jessgray]

no i dont think you are mad :D
i just started a course when i am 29 weeks preg with #2 lol and my ds1 is 15 months old. i have foudn the day care centres my ds1 goes to very flexible,which is greta coz my course days got changed at the last minute lol
i am still getting used to 3 days of tafe and i knwo when ds2 comes i will be going to tafe half dead from night feeds hehehe but i just keep reminding myself next year i will be able to work :smiliedance:

[anna's mum]

No, that sounds pretty good to me. I was pregnant in my second year of uni, luckily the baby was born November, I went back part-time for the first semester of the next year, and since then I have done full-time uni, now just started PhD & planning for another baby next year (3 months paid maternity leave :)
I had lots of help, I'm not sure how much study at home a law degree entails (I would imagine a lot) - you may need someone to look after the baby while you study at home, depending on how much attention your baby needs - I have never ever been able to study at home with dd until just recently (she is 3), although other people do it!
Good luck :thumbsup:

[amandaw]

I hope not, because I'm doing it!!! Mind you, I'm in a slightly different situation, but I've been studying towards my masters part time for the last 2 1/2 years, and only have my final subject to go. Thought about taking the semester off (am due next week), but I just want it over with, and everyone has said that it's definitely better to study with a baby (despite the baby brain, they sleep lots, stay where you put them etc) then study with a toddler! If you have the support, I definitely say go for it:yes:

[*Sparkles*]

I think your plans sound very responsible and, well... perfect!!
Good luck with TTC'ing :fingerscrossed:

[Holly_Golightly]

I think it is an excellent idea. I started uni when bubs was 5 weeks old. Mum watched her. I'm sure you know all about which classes you can skip or get the notes offline or how to manipulate your timetable so you are only there for a few hours a day or like I did, squash all your classes onto the same days so you have more days at home with bub.

I think go for it. Thinks may not happen as quickly as you had planned etc so it is good to get started. We somehow manage to squash it all in.

I loved uni and wished I was still there sometimes rather than at work.

[lovemybub]

If you're mad then so am I - I am doing my DipEd and have spent several weeks saying to people "Next time I decide to combine Uni and a baby, please slap me!"

Don't be fooled. It's hard work. I have been feeling like my life's totally out of my control - it's totally ruled by assignments and my baby. But having said that, if you have the support, and it's what you really want to do, I'm sure you will manage. The only reason I have managed is because I have a wonderful DH, and plenty of supportive family around me when I'm pulling my hair out because DD only wants mummy, and I have three assignments due that week :eek:

My advice is think about it carefully, but if it's what you want to do, go for it. You'll make it work, like I have.

[fertilethoughts]

THE HEART WANTS WHAT THE HEART WANTS.

:thumbsup:


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