Is it ok to have a bub shower for #2

[clarebear1983]

I am almost 20 weeks pregnant with bub #2 and still not sure whether or not i should have a baby shower.

Mum says i shouldnt have one. Bub #1 was only born in 2004 and people might not like buying pressies again.

But: This bub is most likely going to be a girl and all Bub #1 stuff was for boys as he was a boy. I wouldnt mind a few pink things.

I would really love nappies and dummies and all the practical stuff....................plus i have to buy a double pram when the bub comes to take both kids walking (DS is small for his age) and now i need a new change table due to several problems with the one i have so in some ways having a baby shower could help out if i didnt have to buy some of the practical things.

Also the other shower i had was all my mums invitees. I had like 2 friends there and the rest were my parents church friends (we barely knew them) and people that mum wanted to invite (And cos she picked the day she picked the one that my friends had dance classes and it was like the week before the concert and they couldnt miss the class-i told mum not to organise it for that day and stil she did). This time i would like to have MY FRIENDS there......................

Is it wrong to want another baby shower when they are going to be two different children (and two different genders)?????? I dont want to do one thing for one kid and not the other but I also dont want to offend people.........................

HELP!!!!!

[~Danni~]

I had a baby shower last year in october and will be having on nearly exactly a year later, I think of it more as a celebration of your new baby than an excuse to get pressies, I think it is fine to have another one:D :thumbsup:

[~Emmylou~]

I'm in the *exact* same position as you :)

Babies of the opposite sex born less than 2 years apart...I had a shower for my first.
My mother is insisting on having this one, I feel a bit strange about it too. But she reallly wants to do it because my stepmother beat her to the punch and threw the one I had for DD.
My compromise is that I'm not letting her invite anyone that was at my first one (it was in my hometown, this one will be in Brisbane so we shouldn't offend anyone I hope).
I really don't need anything but its only going to be small so hopefully we will get away with it :o

[clarebear1983]

I'm in the *exact* same position as you :)

Babies of the opposite sex born less than 2 years apart...I had a shower for my first.
My mother is insisting on having this one, I feel a bit strange about it too. But she reallly wants to do it because my stepmother beat her to the punch and threw the one I had for DD.
My compromise is that I'm not letting her invite anyone that was at my first one (it was in my hometown, this one will be in Brisbane so we shouldn't offend anyone I hope).
I really don't need anything but its only going to be small so hopefully we will get away with it :o

I think my mum has finally come around today when i said i was only going to ask people for practical things like dummies and nappies and baby wash etc not cute toys etc. She is now starting to talk about food..........and this time i am going to have it on a sunday so my friends that are doing dancing can come too. DH & i will organise it and maybe the invites can come from DS (i.e "Come celebrate my 2nd birthday and the fact that I am soon going to be a big brother to a lil sister") Mum said have a "wishing well" and so people can give money if they dont want to buy presents so we can use it to buy what we need as well as a gift "suggestion" list.............Presents definately wont be mandatory...come to think of it, with her suggestions i can almost imagine she is actually getting excited about the prospect now. Probably because shes found out its going to be a girl not a boy again!

Because bub is due on the 13th of dec by c-section and DS's bday is the 17th of dec and i will most likely still be in hospital at that time i have decided that the baby shower will be early December and it will be a baby shower/2nd b'day celebration for DS so he feels special too...............

[Mum&bubs]

I dont think there is anything wrong with it. I only had my baby shower for Summer last year & am going to have another one for this bub soon too :smiliedance:

[Blairsmummy]

I think one per bub is absolutely fine. Don't worry about inviting those you invited the first time. They are there to celebrate this time with you..... and give advice on how you should raise the bub (just kidding!!).

Have a great time and enjoy being spoiled. Your friends will want to show their love for the new bub, just as they did for your first. Don't take this chance away from them.

[Sheer Bliss]

I don't think there is anything wrong with it! Especially since it sounds like most of your friends missed out last time. As someone else has said - it is a great excuse to celebrae this new bubba.

My sister had one for her third! There was a big gap between him & her first 2 (both girls) so she needed new things, plus blue things.
Go ahead & celebrate without any worry! I always love buying things for bubbas, regardless of 1st, 2nd, 3rd etc!

[Bessie]

I had a church one for bub 2, my pastors arranged it and some of the women I hardly knew and lots of my friends weren't there! Still, it was very sweet of them to think of me.
For bub 3, I had 2 baby showers... the first was arranged by a group of friends and it was lovely. They all wanted to make a fuss as I'm new to Aus and don't have family here and they are all very clucky. Then my pastor arranged one with an older lady in the church. I didn't tell them about the other baby shower as I didn't want them to make a fuss and then they kinda sprang this one on me! I didn't know people that well and was a bit embarrassed but felt like I couldn't say no.
For the first baby shower I told everyone not to go mad with presents, that I had lots of stuff already, but they still wanted to buy stuff. It's all been really useful though. I'm sure if people don't want to buy presents they will just back out anyhow. Hope it goes well for you.

[iamstephyc]

I just wanted to say that I have a had baby shower for all 4 of mine, and I will have another for this one...:D
I think that all babies are special and should be celebrated. Granted the 2nd - 5th ones weren't/won't be as big and organised as the first one, but it will be a group of my friends getting together to celebrate the impending birth of a new baby!!
And I don't ask for presents, although my friends all usually get something, and they would if I had a shower or not!

[suemp]

i had one with both mine. being 5 years apart, we'd generously given everything away for free to most of the friends attending so whats wrong with them returning the favour? and i only asked afew of my closest friends who'd of bought me something shower or not. i enjoy buying friends presents and im not made of money so let your friends enjoy spoiling you.

[1+1=5]

i think a baby shower is a celebration of the baby-to-be adn why not have one for each baby. i'm having one for no2 even though its the same sex.....people don't know that though/