Partner is a wierdo!

[DaughteroftheForest]

Okay, I'm new here so not sure if this is the right place to post this but I have a complaint about my DP. We went to the doctors today for me and our DD's 6 week check up (two weeks late cos I'm a procrastinator) and after checking out us and pronouncing her perfect (as if we didn't already know:o) he checks me out. He asked if I was due for a PAP smear and i said yes, actually I was overdue by a year (Cos I'm a procrastinator!) and I hestitated but said yes thinking "If I don't do it now I never will" Cos, you guessed it - I'm a PROCRASTINATOR!!! And I noticed DP giving me a wierd look. So after it's all done and we're walking out my DP starts on me, saying that next time it's got to be a female doctor :confused:, and joking about how the doctor got more action than he has :banghead: I know he was just joking on the second part but he is dead set serious about me seeing a female doctor for these things from now on. Now, I'm just interested to now if this is a comman feeling amongst the less fair sex???

[bbyrmsy]

I discussed this with my DH before I went into labour with DS.... he said that he would prefer a female dr to do anything like that and if it was a male dr he wouldn't be able to be in the room. And true to his word - the dr on rounds had to examine me to see if I was fully dilated yet and DH left the room for the entire thing. Female midwife did an exam and he was fine.
I think he said he just didnt want to see another man 'down there' lol didn't have a chocie in the end as it was a male dr that delivered DS!!

[OJandMe]

Nope. DH doesn't care at all.

I've had paps done by both male and female Dr's..

(I don't have internals at all during pregnancy.. so not an issue there)..

But all DH cares about is whether I feel comfortable with the Dr. or not.

[Bell & Bug]

DF has no issues as long as I am comfortable then he is. He was in with me when I had my last pap and the doctor even offered for DF to have a look at my cervix :o DF refused out of respect for me. But yeah like I said as long as I'm comfortable then he is.

[Bellini]

DH doesn't have an issue with it at all - he know's that it's the doctor's profession...they're not there to gawk at it, they're there to do a professional job. If DH had an issue with it I would feel as though he was being slightly possessive and immature.

[~Temet Nosce~]

I'm not sure if it would/has made dp weird, he has never said anything about it. Personally I myself would prefer a female doctor anyway.

[CookiesRYum]

nope dh couldn't care either way. He has been with me through everything and we never even consider if it's a man or women dr.

[StrawberryTheMilkshake]

With my DP, he likes to pretend its not happening.

We call it Ostrich syndrome, and its where he sticks his head in the sand so he doesnt have to deal with it. Im sure many of your men have the same illness...... it only affects men, like the deadly man cold.

Meaning, if i need a smear, or any gyny issues, he'd rather i just sort it out with who ever im happy with (without him worrying about it).

That said, I had a male ob and never gave it a second thought, and then ive had a male doctor check my breast lumps, and ive had a female doctor do a smear.

So i guess DP wouldnt care as long as he didnt have to watch or even think about it. KWIM?

Men. :rolleyes:

[Mathermy]

Dh has never brought it up but frankly I don't see how he has any say whatsoever :confused: I'm not his property, he has no right to tell me what to do or not to do with my own body and I will choose whichever care provider I feel comfortable with. End of story.

[Mummy2Kobi&Hailee]

Nope. DH doesn't care at all.

I've had paps done by both male and female Dr's..

(I don't have internals at all during pregnancy.. so not an issue there)..

But all DH cares about is whether I feel comfortable with the Dr. or not.

My DH is the same but i personally perfer a female but am happy to have my regular GP who is male do it if i can't get into see a female. ( currently no female GP a the practice)

[kylza]

Something I've never discussed and frankly I know would never be an issue.

Just like when DH gets a massage of a female I don't give two hoots! Its usually me who books him in anyway.

DH probably has no idea when I have a pap smear anyway.

[dreamtobeamummy]

DF doesn't care. Its the dr's profession, they are trained to do it.

As long as I am comfortable thats all that matters. Ive had female and male do Pap smears on me and couldn't care less.

My Gyno in the eastern states is a male and he operated on me, and GOD knows what he seen whilst on the operating table.. afterall I was starkers.. but he did put paper knickers on me afterwards :laughing: :p

[DaughteroftheForest]

I agree, it should be about who I'm comfortable with. The thing is I usually prefer a female anyway, but I needed one done and ironically enough it was DP making me uncomfortable! :shame:

[SassyMummy]

I don't think DP cares.

Well, actually, I think he does a TINY bit, and would rather that HE be the only person who touch me, but he doesn't care enough to complain or demand anything.

He's never said anything, I just think he's the type who might prefer I see a female to do it.

I couldn't care less if it's a male or female - just so long as I'm comfortable with them and they're gentle.

[Dancerlove]

My DH is fine with male doctors, its just a job they see a million vajayjays a year after all LOL

[danniiyoung]

Nope I dont think my DP would care either way... Although he just kinda zones out when he hears these kinda topics!!!!

I personally prefer male docs as ob/gyno's... from experience the last 2 docs who did my paps were men and they were so gental and really supportive, but found the femals gp's who did these before to be kinda rough I guess???

[Mum2Mimi]

My DP doesnt care, a dr is a profesional there not looking at it and thinking any thoughts.... Ive had my Male Dr in the past 10weeks stick his finger up my bum to check for hameroids on 2 occasions and gave me a papsmear on a third and they were all seperate times i went to the drs, feels like everytime i go there latley im taking me dacks off :laughing:

I dont really get y someone would have a problem with it, i dunno maybe because my partner doesnt say anything

[Mum2Mimi]

I personally prefer male docs as ob/gyno's... from experience the last 2 docs who did my paps were men and they were so gental and really supportive, but found the femals gp's who did these before to be kinda rough I guess???

yep same they are so much nicer and tend to not hurt as much

[Pinkzy]

I too prefer male doctors for this kind of thing...I trust them more than female doctors because of my own experiences.

DH doesn't have an issue with it at all.

[trishalishous]

Neither of us are fussy either way, BUT I have had half the world up my hoo-haa, during the last 10 years, with cancer treatment, biopsies, video cameras etc and DH has been there most of the time, and even watched a few of my ops, and talked medicine with the surgeon.
He was more weird about a testicle and prostate exam, he wanted a female doc and for me to be ther, cos he felt wierd with his bits being handled if he was alone with a stranger :)

Every one has thier own comfort levels :)

[Basil]

Interesting! Dh didn't comment about thr fact the ob that came in to vacuum ds out was a male. All he said was that he was really using some force and all his stremgth to pull ds out!

Pmsl about half the would up your ho ha tris! It felt like that for my birth - everyone wanted a piece of my pouncey!

Might mention this to dh and see what he thinks!

[trishalishous]

Nat, I had cervical cancer from the age of 17, and the privilege :laughing: of MANY medical students over the years.
Most recently I had a bleed at 34 weeks preg, due to my cervix, the ob was under my blanket, the students behind me, when I hemorrhaged, so off with the blanket and HELLO room full of people!
Im used to it now :)

[Basil]

Eeek!!! You are so brave dealing with cervical cancer from such a young age! What a terrible thing to have to get used to.

[Theophania]

I think DP was a bit weird when I was having my waters broken by a male dr and he had to have his hand up there the whole time to make sure there was no cord, but he wasn't angry or jealous... I suppose it was just a new experience for him.. The poor thing :laughing: He doesn't care though if I see a male or female doctor, they are just doing their job... They do see a lot of vagina's everyday and I am pretty sure mine is nothing special lol.. I mean maybe if I bedazzled :p

[delirium]

Nope, my DH has never blinked at eye and why would he? These people are professionals, it's not like you are cheating on him or something :confused: I had a male all the way thru pg 2 and DH didn't say anything. If fact he will say I need a smear and to book into my ob and family GP who is male.

Did he verbalise why it makes him uncomfortable?

[sockstealingpoltergeist]

I find this whole thing ridiculous and strange.

They are a Dr it's their job, I don't think it would even cross DH's mind.:confused:

I am shocked that some men even care.

[Pax]

I would find that really weird if DH said that to me.

How bizarre to be jealous of a Dr!!!

I prefer female doctors but my husband has been with me seeing male gyne's before and he never felt threatened by that.

[lil miss]

my dp is the same... I have a male gp and as we live in a small town there isnt much choice in who u see. When ever i go for check ups (im preg with my second baby) he always makes a comment about the dr looking at my bits (not that he does anyways), and that if he did, dp would go in and knock him out!! Its like 'hello, he is a doctor, its their job!'!

I had to get my breasts checked cuz i found a lump a few months before i was pregnant, and having a lot of cancer in our family i did the right thing. Dp hit the roof when he found out the dr had to touch me! Wtf!!

I did change drs once because he didnt like who i saw (i thought the was good), but this time round im not, he just has to suck it up and accept it.

[Bubs'n'Roses]

DH has never had an issue, except when the doctor who was stitching me after I had DD2 looked up at him and DH found it sort of weird and looked away.

He laughed later saying it was a bit uncomfortable to exchange a glance with another man when his head and hands were in 'such a place'.

Though thinking about it now, I'm not sure I would be entirely comfortable with a woman checking out DH's bits for an examination full stop let alone while looking up at me.

:confused: Hmm, guess I'll cross that bridge later lol.