Baby refusing daddy

[arty1]

Just in the last couple of days, my 13wk old is refusing wanting to go to her dad. Every time I pass her over she screams. Wants Mum. I can understand she has a firm attachment and bond to be because I am with her pretty much 24/7. But he does stuff with her e.g. bath, change nappies, holds her etc. Granted he cant feed her -he doesnt have the equipment (.) (.)

So tonight, after he last feed I made her stay with him. I was determined he could get her to sleep without me taking her back all the time. He does try. Up to an hour sometimes. But by then she has been screaming so much she needs and wants a drink. So then she has to come back to me. And after her feed, I burp and hold until bed bout half an hour later. I have tried giving her to him to burp/get to sleep back it disrupts her.

After 1.5-2hours of screaming (and I refused to take her as I knew she just wanted me and not a feed) he finally got her to sleep.

But poor hubby, he is feeling very rejected. I say that he needs to spend time with her everyday to bond. Unfortunately, by the time he gets home sometime around 6ish, we have bath, feed, feed, feed, and cranky time. So he isnt getting a chance to be with her when she is in a better mood.

I dont know what has set her off. There have been no changes with him.

I know this is just a phase. Any ideas and how to make it better. I do try to reassure him but he is feeling really crappy about it.

[teacupbunny]

My son is nearly 10 months old and rejects his dad when it comes to feeding him food or changing his nappy o.o.
I'm unsure when he will grow out of it. In your case I think it's just a newborn thing, besides your bubs has known mum for so long but is still getting to know dad :) I'm sure they'll come around once they recognize him as dad more :)

[Bell & Bug]

Wash one of his shirts, and then wear that shirt for a few days, then get him to wear it when he is spending time with her. New babies tend to use their sense of smell a lot to determine who is who, and if she can smell you when she is with him, it will help a lot.
Definately get him to spend as much time with her as possible, and ensure he knows that her being so attached to you has nothing to do with him. Babies see themselves as part of their mum, so when mum is out of the picture they feel lost. It is something they grow out of at some stage. The tshirt trick should help her feel more relaxed with him, just keep renewing your smell on it and try not to wash it too often :)