Maiden name as a middle name ...

[Supermum]

Hi there

Just interested if anyone else has given their children their maiden name as a middle name or if you have a family name as a middle name yourself?

My daughter has a strong first name, Carter ... and at the time I thought it was a lovely idea as I'm an only child and wanted to carry on the family name.

Thoughts?

[Briannabear]

We havent done that (only because Wheeler isnt exactly a great middle name!! :o LOL!).
However, I think its a wonderful idea! Particularly because you are an only child! :D

[summerly]

One of our family names is Squire. My brother was supposed to get it as well but my mum put her foot down. However my cousins have named some of their kids after favourite grandfathers, though their kids are both girls - Georgia Leslie, for grandad Les and Saj, for grandad Squire Albert James. But I don't think I will be using any of those. And as I still go by my maiden name anyway (which is traditional in some asian countries - but I kept mine because I couldn't be bothered filling out any more forms) I don't think we will be using our surname for our kids. But it is interesting to see why people choose the names that they do and I think it is nice for a child to be able to say "I am called - fill in name here - after my mums/dads favourite great-great-relative because etc. It is good to make them feel they belong. But I really think it depends on the name. :p

[BlueGin]

I and my three brothers, and my dad, all have the same middle name, it is Grandma's maiden name, and they did it so that when I grew up and got married, I would always have a connection to the family. I love it, and DH and I are going to continue the tradition with our kids (same name)
It does give a wonderful sense of belonging, and I especially love it now that I am married and have changed my surname :)

[nemosmum]

We did it for our son, or should I say I did it as my dh didnt know about it till we recieved the birth certificate :p

As my last name is a little to long as a middle name I shortened it to just Dee which I think is really cute and gives him a connection to my side of the family. My dh really wanted us to give him his grandfathers name but as he gets his last name I really didnt think it fair and so just did the birth cert. myself....

I wont change my last name for any one including dh but thats just me, I feel its important for me to keep that connection to my parents, g.parents etc

My sisters were the same when they got married but when they had kids they changed their names very quickly which is fine for them

Any way back to the thread I think its really nice to include your maiden name :)

[Supermum]

I think I've posted somewhere here before about the conversations my daughter will have when she's older and was wondering if it was too much of a legacy ....

"Carter, yes it is unusual isn't it? The middle name, yes that's my mother's maiden name ... yes the surname is also a girls name"

I actually don't know why I changed my name when I got married ... I always said I wouldn't!

[xkwzit]

Hi
I decided that I would give my kids my maiden name as a middle name and so when I got married I actually changed my name by deed pole to add my maiden name as a middle name (giving me four names, which I always REALLY wanted). Well now, I sort of think that most of the time four names is a bit of a pain, so I haven't done it with my kids. Some places just don't acknowledge more than one middle name, so it gets hard to remember whether that organisation has your full naem or part of the name (whatever). So because I wanted my girls to have two girly names, my maiden name and a surname - its just too much - my maiden name had to go.

Cheers

[H&B'sMum]

My brother has my mum's maiden name as his middle name. My brother and SIL continued the tradition and named my SIL's maiden name as their daughters middle name.
I didn't do it as it was bad enough having it as a surname for 21 years, I wouldn't want to inflict it onto Harry as well. Couldn't wait to change my name when I got married.

[Chickadee]

My maiden name (still go by it) is a 2 syllable "M" name. So is DHs. I couldn't imagine attaching DH's to the end of mine: Martha Mxxxman- Mxxx. MMM. Not nice! I wasn't about to do it to Chloe!

But, if we'd had a boy then his middle name would have been Troyer, which is a family name.

[clairbear]

harry's mum, dare ya to tell us your maiden name that you think is so awful, ha ha! I know how you felt, could not wait to change my last name when I got married. All my life I wanted a normal name. My last name was GURNEY, and I was teased at school, called guernsey cow which I hated! :D Now it is Drew which is so simple and normal, it's great. My son has two middle names, the second two being my favourite grandfather's full name...bit of a mouthful but he is Patrick James Malone Drew (Malone being my mother's maiden name which I always wished I had!) I like the idea of using the mum's maiden name.....my sister in law has talked of using Drew as a first or middle name for her kids when she has them!

[nemosmum]

To Clairbear,

I too always loved and wanted my mums maiden name, Hunter (which I think is a cute name for a child ) as I used to get horrible nicknames too. But now that I'm older I love my last name, its exotic sounding and am proud I've kept it :D

[ThomasMum]

Oh gosh thankfully we didn’t have my mum’s maiden name, with my old man’s surname it makes strange combo i.e. a real English surname + real European surname = sounds very odd! People would pick on us! I was actually using both my maiden name & marital name for many years, but I decided not to use my maiden name anymore because with my 3 initials +my maiden name+marital name dear God it’s way too long! On my current photo ID for work because I use my maiden name+marital name it’s so long that my name is written in 2 lines!

For me, if its sounds OK then your kid should be safe having the ‘historical’ names

:D

[Shelly68]

How that's funny, I read the post heading and straight away thought
Hey, I know somebody that actually did that and it sounds great. But guess what, it's you Deb so I won't go any further, d'er. That'll teach me not to read further before I jump the gun.

Shelly

[Supermum]

My mum's maiden name is Cox. Carter Cox XXXXX - Nuff said.


My maiden name (still go by it) is a 2 syllable "M" name. So is DHs. I couldn't imagine attaching DH's to the end of mine: Martha Mxxxman- Mxxx. MMM. Not nice! I wasn't about to do it to Chloe!
MMM can you imagine the ribbing she would get at school - good call MMMum!

[draught]

My maiden name is a two word Dutch name so there was no way I could use it for my girls. Chloe's middle name is Lauren as both my grandfather and my husband's grandfather had Lawrence as their middle name.

I always swore that I wouldn't change my name when I got married and when I did jaws dropped right across the country! It didn't bother me for a while - I used to say that I felt secure in who I was and that my name didn't matter and my husband really wanted it - but lately I have been contacting old school friends for a reunion and using my maiden name so that they know who it is......and I miss it!! The ironic thing is that I always had to spell it and thought that changing to a nice easy Anglo-Saxon name would fix the problem - but it hasn't - people still get it wrong! :rolleyes:

[razzle]

If we had a boy we were going to give him the middle name of Fraser - DP's grandmother's surname, so his mother's maiden name. I think it's a lovely thing to do - as long as the name is suitable!!

[TwoBlue]

LOL .... My maiden name is VanDerHorst ..... so i dont think so !! hehe :p

[WeThree]

Cooper is my MILs maiden name and we decided that it would be nice to honour Nathans lovely grandfather, who sadly passed away not long after Cooper was born. It can however be quite confusing when we go to family/friend get togethers from that side of the family! (Nathans Nan: This is my grandson Nathan and his son Cooper' other person: 'Um so his name is Cooper Cooper?') :D

[ETsMum]

Our son has my surname "Curtis" as a second middle name. We will give all our children (if we have anymore) Curtis as a second middle name.