When you offer to take someone else's child somewhere...

[MummaBear03]

If you had a child doing a particular sport, and offered to take another child who wanted to do that sport but had no transport, what would you do if your child decided not to do it anymore?

Would you force the issue so the other child could go?

Would you take the child and sit with your child just watching?

Would you tell the parent she needs to find another way of getting there because you aren't going anymore?

[~BEXTER~]

I really have no idea.


That other child joined because they knew you would be taking them.

But it is a waste for you to go if your child isn't doing it anymore and it wouldn't be fun to force your child to do it if they didn't want to.

I think I would try and find someone else near by that could maybe take the other child?

No idea sorry, interested to see what others would do

[Chunkydunks]

I would ask the other mother to find another way for her child to get there. if possible I'd ask around the other parents at that activity if anyone lived in the area and if they could possibly take the child and pass on their details to the mother.

[Refresh]

This happened to us just last week. I offerered to keep taking them until they could find an alternative arrangement.

[Mathermy]

I think I would ask my child to finish the season, and let the other parent know that from next season they will need to find another option.

[MummaBear03]

It's a pay by the week activity, not one where there are term fees.

[Fuchsia!]

If i was able to i would and at the moment im currently doing that.

I look after a boy a fair bit for a friend. She is as slack as a person gets and her son decided to do rugby this year. So i take him to training and i assume i will be taking him to his games as well when he starts. My son doesn't play rugby at all and doesn't intend to.

I also drive this boy to gymnastics and his sister and my DS. I was also taking them to indoor soccer earlier this year as well.

I do it because if i don't he doesn't get to play.

[SalTheGal]

I think I would ask my child to finish the season, and let the other parent know that from next season they will need to find another option.

^^ What she said! :D ^^

I wouldn't just leave them in the lurch, I'd like to give them some notice, so that they aren't out of pocket for paid fees etc.... but I wouldn't think it my responsibility to continue to take their child forever.

[Chunkydunks]

It's a pay by the week activity, not one where there are term fees.
if that's the case I'd be letting the mother know and seeing if she wants to continue. She may well be happy to give it a miss.

[MummaBear03]

It also means leaving here at 8:30am and getting home at 11am because it's so far away and goes for 1.5 hours, from 9am to 10:30am. I'm not getting fuel money for that because I thought DD would be going anyway. As it is, we had to skip last week because I didn't have enough fuel to get there, but DD was happy that we weren't going because she finds it boring anyway.

[moozle]

If it was something that you had to sign up for, I'd make my child complete the term and let the other parent know that we wouldn't be continuing. But as you said in your case it's a pay by the week thing so I'd just tell the parent that your child is not enjoying the activity so you have decided not to go anymore. If she's that desperate for her child to participate, she'll find a way to get there.

[Sheer Bliss]

If it was something that you signed up for a term/season for - i'd have a talk to my child about finishing what they started. If my child comitted to a team, and then the team would be left short - then i'd probably make my kid keep doing it until the end of term/season. If it's something different, and it wasn't letting a 'team' down - then i'd not make them keep doing it.

I'd ask the other parent to try and find alternative transport, but keep taking them until then. BUT as you have said in a PP it's causing you financial difficulty to take someone elses child - then i'd let the mum know, and stop taking their child.

[MummaBear03]

It's also 2.5 hours out of day and me trying to make DD sit still in a place she'd rather not be, watching without being disruptive.

[JabberJaw]

I wouldnt do it, i would tell the other parent my child isnt attending so i wont be able to take their child....type this easily, in real life it would be harder, i am a softie.

A lady at school always palms her kids off to me in the arvo if she sees me, and i have to drop them home as she does not have a car. I dont like driving other peoples kids around for one and secondly my kids always fight with these children....yet i am to gutless to say no :)

[kuddles]

It also means leaving here at 8:30am and getting home at 11am because it's so far away and goes for 1.5 hours, from 9am to 10:30am. I'm not getting fuel money for that because I thought DD would be going anyway. As it is, we had to skip last week because I didn't have enough fuel to get there, but DD was happy that we weren't going because she finds it boring anyway.

I'd ask around and see if anyone could take her child. Then I'd be honest and say that I can't really afford for DD to play X sport anymore so we won't be going. I know I promised to take your child but I'm sorry I can't anymore. I have talked to (one of the other parents) and they said they would take your child.
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