Feeling so guilty

[second time mumma]

I am 9 weeks pregnant, and have been suffering from morning sickness since I was about 5/6 weeks.

I just feel so guilty that all I am able to do is lay around and feel sick all day - my almost 3 year old daughter is missing out on doing things because Mummy is so sick all the time.
I cant even take her to the park as I am worried about being out in public and needing to rush off to vomit.

I have been prescribed maxalon, but this has the added side effect of making me sleepy, so again DD misses out because I need to sleep.

Then add into the mix that DD is so aware of what is going on, that she regularly tells me to just go vomit and lay down and then I will feel better - what kind of an example of being pregnant am I setting for her!?!

I have broken down a couple of times, as I just feel so sick and the added guilt is not helping.
I dont really know what the aim of my post was, but I guess I just needed to get it out.

Has anyone else felt like this? How did you cope?

[LG]

*big hugs* no advice but I hope it passes quickly for you. Your DD sounds very understanding, what a darling.

[Opaque]

**Hugs**

I haven't been in the position of having one around whilst being pg but what I can tell you is that maxalon didn't work for me.

Still vomitted badly, made me sleepy etc - I just could not function.....

My Dr prescribed Zofran (ondansetron) it was the absolute BOMB!!! I still vomitted but down to a couple times a day and I felt more human again. I could actually function.

Perhaps try this....

My Dr has said when I start trying in a few months to take it as soon as I get a BFP so that I don't get as bad as I did last time.

But it like an INSTANT fix - within 20 mins of having it you feel so much better.

Hope this helps....

[second time mumma]

Thanks for your responses :)

I think I will be going back to the doctors tomorrow, obviously the maxalon isnt working if I am still feeling this bad on it.

My DD is very understanding, and says that she doesnt mind playing at home when it's just me and her, and DH is really good and will take her out to the park when he gets home from work - I just feel terrible that I am no fun for her at the moment. Hopefully in the next couple of weeks I will start to feel better and can return to being a good Mummy, not the zombie I am at the moment.

[amiee]

firstly big :hugs: and i hope your ms eases up soon

i could of written the exact same thing a couple of weeks ago, but my ds is 9 months old. i used to sit and sing to him, and we would play games and finger paint and do all that fun stuff, and then the morning sickness hit me bad and i would put some toys on the lounge room floor and turn on cartoons and then i would lay on the couch and try not to vomit, plus most days i had diarrehoea (sp) as well.

i felt like the worlds worst mum. i didnt even have the energy to cook for him anymore so i brought him jared food.

but now some days i feel good, so on the days i feel good we take full advantage of it. even if we just go and sit out the back for a picnic lunch.

i really hope you start to feel better soon.

[sweetsugardumplin']

Oh love :hugs: :hugs: :hugs: children are very understanding and forgiving (especially when they know what's going on)

Do what you need to do (rest and perhaps change your medication) a few weeks/months of watching TV and DVDs is not going to bring on any long term damage for your DD. As long as she can come and snuggle with you and know that you are there.

You are growing a new life and that takes a lot of energy, even without MS. :babydust2:

Don't be so hard on yourself, and good luck with your GP :hugs:

[Mum2Mimi]

GBH :hugs:

im going through exact same thing atm and have the guilts too :cool:

its not fun at all but its only a short period of time and will hopefully pass soon u just have to keep telling yourself

i have no advice on how to deal cause im exactley same and spewing so much to the point my throat is so sore and dry and hurts to swollow water and its making me baul my eyes out and i never cry! which is also making me be snappy mole to everybody as im just so drained with the tiredness on top of it!

my routine the past two weeks has been


morning sickness starting around 5amish stil dark am woken with a feeling to run to ensuite and :barf:

sit at bottom of shower til 630-7am spewing crying spewing more, then dd will wake and come into my room looking for me so i try to pull it together and we have a shower together

then i make her a bottle of milk and sit her on her fold out lounge with cartoons whilst i die on couch for an 40mins or so

then drag myself to kitchen and make her breaky and try to do some cleaning if possible depending on how bad i am that particular morning

then sleep from 12-3 and take a ginger travel calm tablet before bed and i wake feeling much better but still queasey...i find im only spewing early in morning, its strange
lucky dd is sleeping 3 hrs the past few days usually she only naps for 1 & half-2hrs


im sure she happy to just sit next to you and read a book or watch some telly, although it would be nice to take her out to park it is truly nly a short period of time and ul be back doing lots of fun activitys before no time!

[drevs22]

No great suggestions just sympathy here too.

My DS is 4 and rubs my back while I throw up and tells me just throw up and you'll feel better. He also wants to stay home from school so he can take care of me. I feel aweful. My 4yr old feels he needs to take care of me :(

He does get a little bitter about not doing fun things with me when I am just lying there feeling sick without actually getting sick.

Finally at 17 weeks I started feeling 'better'. I only throw up usually once a day and I have good days where I don't feel sick in between. But still so tired and have no energy to do anything!

On the up side - DS is so excited to be getting a sibling. He talked about the baby all the time.

I forget who mentioned being sick with a 9month old - my mom was in the same position. Hung out in the bathroom. The up side of that was my sister was potty trained by 10months :)

[second time mumma]

I forgot all about this post :o

Since I last wrote things got worse. I ended up in hospital due to dehydration, I was given 2L of fluid and had a shot to stop me vomiting.
I was also given a prescription for the zofran wafers, as I kept vomiting up the tablets.

Im just trying to take one day at a time, and hoping that when I hit 12 weeks (less than a week away), I will magically wake up feeling better - I can dream, right.

Im sorry to everyone else who is suffering too, it's not a lot of fun, but I just try to keep my eye on the 'prize' (the baby at the end).

:hugs: to you all