how to deal with it

[Chunkydunks]

This morning I applied for 3 jobs and put in expressions of interest at 3 other places. Applications haven't even closed for the jobs and I'm already starting to feel all those things come flooding back to me.

Every time I've had a job there is always a point where I can no longer handle it. That point varies with each job depending on a few things. Basically I become so anxious about going to work that I feel sick, I've ended up in hospital (just emergency) because of these anxiety related illnesses too. They're usually something to do with the bowel which has been connected to anxiety. If I just try to work through this then the other issues start. It got so bad a few times that was was actually self harming to try and get out of going to work. I've gone as far as trying to break my own foot and even downing a box and a half on nurofen (not fun....hate the charcoal stuff :barf:).

Different things have triggered it. At times it can be the bosses being a bit harsh on me for what I see as stupid reasons. Other times its been feeling like I don't fit in with the other staff. Then there are the times when I've felt like the other staff are bullying me.

I don't know how to get past all this. But I have to.

I have a choice to work but not working will mean that we'll be struggling for a very long time. Working means we'll get on top of things easier and eventually get ahead. I really don't want to work but I'm realising I need to.

I really just don't know how to deal with all these issues.

[faroutbrusselsprout]

:hugs:Wow....so could have written your post....
:hugs:
I'm seeing a councillor once a week and slowly coming to terms with some of the same issues.
You really should think about talking to someone...it comes from somewhere and you really can't move forward until you find out where and work through it.
Good Luck
x

[Chunkydunks]

I've got about 6 or 7 sessions with my theropist. It'll be talked about no doubt.

[CocktailBubba]

Hi mumma tissy, I have a lit of the same problems u have described... I have been at my job for 6 months now and the beginning was so hard :( I used to think it was t worth it and had the same feelings that u described but talking to my DP about my feelings helped heaps, just knowing that if I decided I was going to quit he would be cool with it if that makes sense?

Could you please explain your anxiety and how it relates to your bowels? I have had an ongoing problem with my bowels and anxiety since the middle of my pregnancy. I cant catch trains, if we go for long drives I HAVE to be the driver so I distract myself and concerntrate on the road and before we leave the house I HAVE to go and TRY to empty my bowels. I can't go on trains and dread going somewhere unfamiliar because as soon as I don't know where a toilet is or how long it will be until I can get to one I start to panic and then I feel as though I need to get to a toilet asap or I won't be able to hold it... But then if I get to a toilet I don't actually need to go :(

It was getting worse and worse so I finally ended up seeing a lovely shrink who is helping me with techniques and coping methods which I must say are helping ms a lot :)

Is this similar to what u are talki g about? I havnt heard of anyone else suffering with something like this- it's so hard to explain to someone and embaressing too so I hope it will go away in time.

[Chunkydunks]

Just tried to talk to DH about it and all he could say was "well, just deal with it"

:hair::hair: could he be any less sensitive lately

[sweetsugardumplin']

Just tried to talk to DH about it and all he could say was "well, just deal with it"

:hair::hair: could he be any less sensitive lately


Oh love :hugs: :hugs:

Does anything you do decrease your feelings of anxiety?

P.S. Wanna send you a dress, still at the same addy I sent CD to?

[CocktailBubba]

Just tried to talk to DH about it and all he could say was "well, just deal with it"

:hair::hair: could he be any less sensitive lately

hmmm that's no good...! He needs to listen to u.. It's seriously such a debilitating problem if you don't have support and ways to manage the anxiety- u probably know this already though. I don't know what else to say but I hope he listens- I know how hard it is.

[Chunkydunks]

They've found a link with some IBS sufferers and anxiety. With IBS some people get diarrhoea and others can be constipated. Some switch between both of them. Then there is a the bowel spasms and what not.

[Chunkydunks]

Oh love :hugs: :hugs:

Does anything you do decrease your feelings of anxiety?

P.S. Wanna send you a dress, still at the same addy I sent CD to?

You're an angel :hugs::hugs: Yeah same addy.

When I was working I never put it together that it was anxiety. I just thought I hated working. The anxiety of it all has only come back today with applying for the jobs and thinking about what it'd be like to go back to work.

[Guest]

That sounds like me! I've had alot of this same issue in the past, the last job I had I ended up having such severe bowel problems (ibs) due to anxiety that I had a panic attack and it took me a year to recover from constant panic attacks after that.

I've dealt with this along time, I changed jobs and started working for myself which took that pressure off. I know this is not easy for everyone, and the best thing to do is deal with the anxiety rather than change your life to suit it. However, stress is the main trigger factor, having anxiety and a little bit of stress will just about do it. The gut also produces many hormones, stress changes this balance and thus things stop working as they should, your bowels become irritaed etc. Then you feel sick and not well and the cycle begins of anxiety.

Stress is a real thing, it's not just in your mind, it releases hormones and chemicals and you become inbalanced, having as less stress in your life is best. Many things you can try is meditation, this teaches your mind to calm your thoughts and relax your body, so in stressful situations, your body learns to relax through this, it's like re-wiring your brain in how to deal with your stress triggers. Yoga is also good or tai chi. And any form of exercise on a regular basis. Diet is very important, try to cut things out of your diet that may contribute like coffee, chocolate, lots of salt or unhealthy or sugary foods. Also green tea is excellent.

If you see a therapist, make sure it includes some type of ctb, there may be reasons for your anxiety, however knowing those reasons doesn't cure the anxiety, so you need some tools in how to deal with anxiety when it arises.

I know how hard it is and have struggled myself for many years. It's a long process, but takes some work too :( Good Luck and if you need a chat, pm me.

[sweetsugardumplin']

However, stress is the main trigger factor, having anxiety and a little bit of stress will just about do it. The gut also produces many hormones, stress changes this balance and thus things stop working as they should, your bowels become irritaed etc. Then you feel sick and not well and the cycle begins of anxiety.

Stress is a real thing, it's not just in your mind, it releases hormones and chemicals and you become inbalanced, having as less stress in your life is best. Many things you can try is meditation, this teaches your mind to calm your thoughts and relax your body, so in stressful situations, your body learns to relax through this, it's like re-wiring your brain in how to deal with your stress triggers. Yoga is also good or tai chi. And any form of exercise on a regular basis. Diet is very important, try to cut things out of your diet that may contribute like coffee, chocolate, lots of salt or unhealthy or sugary foods. Also green tea is excellent.

If you see a therapist, make sure it includes some type of ctb, there may be reasons for your anxiety, however knowing those reasons doesn't cure the anxiety, so you need some tools in how to deal with anxiety when it arises.

I know how hard it is and have struggled myself for many years. It's a long process, but takes some work too :( Good Luck and if you need a chat, pm me.

:yelclap: fantastic info and great advice :yelclap:

[Chunkydunks]

Thank you MyBabyLeo.

I'll definately be talking to the therapist about this and working through it with her. I don't know the reason behind it but I'm starting to think it may not be just work but the responsibility of getting things done on a whole. I tend to avoid a lot of housework and that sort of thing too.

Working for myself is actually an option. I have ideas that the people at the job search place have said should get approval for the NEIS thing. Something to look into further though.