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CluckySC
12-03-2010, 19:42
:crying:

Not having a good day. DS is going to turn 2 next week and some of his behaviour is really difficult at the moment.

He's generally a good and kind boy but if he has to do something he doesn't want to (like get dressed, brush his teeth, come to dinner, get out of the bath, not go on the road etc) when we tell him to he's having massive tantrums and often resorting to biting, hitting, kicking etc.

Often we can talk him into it, explain why we're doing it etc and he's fine, but today we've had so many huge tantrums I'm feeling frazzled out of my mind.

He's also learned some obnoxious things, like spitting, and today spat in my face, then followed me around spitting. :(

He wont stay in a time out chair but I did put him in his room and close the door a few times today, wait for a minute then come back in and try to rationalize with him. Worked once, didn't work another time. Also when we were out today if I tried to make him walk in a certain direction or pull him away from the road he'd try to bite or hit me.

He does get a smack as a last resort (often it's the only thing that does work, but it's only used if I absolutely need to), but I try everything else first - I even have a good behaviour chart with stickers and if he gets 6 he can choose a little "present" from a lucky dip box we have.

It's just a new phase for him, intentionally being naughty. Grandma dropped in for a few min today and asked him if he was being a good boy. He said "No, making mummy cranky". :(

Advice??

Mathermy
12-03-2010, 20:07
Oh gees!:( I'm sorry you are having a tough day:hugs:

melannh
12-03-2010, 21:50
Does sound like 'one of those phases', but it is difficult to take... I have a DD - and she has moments of being all of what you said.
She wasn't much of a biter - but would hysterically cause major drama's out shopping etc...

I guess, i've just tried (as u are) to be consistent, and firm. Smacks were a last resort (like when she near ran onto a busy road and i thought she could be killed etc..)... I have days where it all just seems too hard.

I do the 'time-out' thing in the bedroom. She can kick and scream etc... for a very long time - but i just have to try and tough it out, otherwise, she has it all over me in the future.

I probably didn't help all that much - but wanted u to know - you're not alone....

CluckySC
12-03-2010, 21:57
Thank you both for your replies. And it is sooo good to hear I'm not alone!

I think it's just hard not to take it personally if you lean in to give him a kiss and tell him you love him and he gives you a kick in the face :( :(

I know he has a very strong personality, and I know that Grandma *not* being consistent when she looks after him has been a problem. Have dealt with that. I just need to find the code that works for him.

We're the same re smacking Mel... only if he is physically hurting another person (only daddy or I get it) and has not responded to multiple requests to stop, or if he keeps trying to do something dangerous, like a road or similar.

It's just so difficult because he usually has 5 good days in a week and 2 bad (though this week the odds have been much worse!!). One day angel child, next day 'who the hell is this and why does he look like my son??' :rolleyes: