how do you deal with it?

[bubsintum]

How do u deal with the hurt betrayals, lies etc. Ive been doing really well untill 2nite. Im just not coping well at the moment and dont know what to do?!?

[Edweena]

I don't know. I haven't dealt with that yet.

I do know that I had given 7 years of my life I refuse to let him take any more than that.

I know for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction but I hope the betrayal makes me pick better next time and not afraid to pick.

[murrythecat]

I don't know either.. I think, in time, it gets easier.. perhaps we learn to trust again.. but I doubt it.. once that trust is broken I think it's nearly impossible to trust another man.

the thing that bugs me.. is my ex doesn't seem to make the connection between action and effect.. sometimes he does sometimes he doesn't.. it's very frustarating.

for me I know it's been 2 months.. and it's still kinda raw but is slightly better.. I think you stop thinking about it as much over time.. least that's what I hope!

[mumof22010]

it has been 2 weeks since my partner left us.
i would say that im trying to cope for my kids sake but deep down im really not.. he left me over the phone and still has not given me a reason..
i dont know why or anything.
we are currently moving out of the place that we were living in together cause i cant stand to be here. but once i am all settled in i think it will hit me and hi me hard.

[havingfunus3]

It is really hard sometimes you think you have delt with it and then it all comes crashing down again,

Edweena - I to hope that we can pick wiser next time and do hope that we will let ourselves pick.

Murrythecat - as time does go on there you don't think about it as much of course it is always there (and wlways will be cause we had children with these horrible people lol) but it doesn't consume you as much, well that's what I have found.

Mumof22010 - I was the same as soon as my XH left I just wanted to get out of that house and start a new start someplace else and have things my way, that was the best thing I did to help move on, just things like we had a big 4wd and I got rid of that and got a nice small girly car (lol) just made me feel like I could and was making my own decisions on what I was doing and having in my life

Like you said Edweena they have taken up to much time as it is we can't let them take anymore.

Take care