3yr gap...help

[FourAngelKisses]

Has anyone had a 3yr gap before? I have had a 15mth gap and that was easy. I have had a 5.5yr gap, that was harder than the 15mth gap. There will be a 2yr and 10mth gap between Matthew and this baby.

I am terrified about how I will deal with a boy in the midst of the terrible 2's, plus a newborn. How did everyone else cope??

[bearsmummy]

we found that the 3yr gap worked great for us:thumbsup:
so much that the 2nd and the 3rd bubs were timed so that we would have them 3yrs apart too. plus considering having the next bub with the same gap as well.
our gaps were 3 and 3 months and 3 and 1 month.

i think that its easier, usually only 1 in nappies, still close enough in age to be able to play later on, and old enough to understand things like "mummy will be with you as soon as shes finished feeding the baby"

all the best for you, hope it works as well for you as what it did for us:D

[fozzie]

:wave: Hi I'm new to BubHub and I have 3 years between my boys, I found it wasn't too bad as DS#1 was pretty easy going but DS#2 is far from that. You have quite a bit of time when bubs is asleep to play and spend time with the other child and we made sure we bought him something nice from the baby and he was fine. DS#2 is now 4 and I want another now he will be starting Prep in Jan, he's been quite a handful and I couldn't really comprehend having another until now. I'm trying to convince DH at the moment as he isn't so keen, we've only been here 1 year and he's worried about finances as they do, but my main worry is if we leave it any longer the age gap will be too big and we'll regret it in another five years or so.

I must say the hardest thing for me having the boys 3 years apart was when DS#2 started to bum shuffle across the room 2 weeks after he learnt to sit up and was into everything, after having a great little man who would sit in one place and play to having what felt like a monster was one hell of a shock to the system.:rolleyes: But they are great mates as they get older and I don't think i could have coped with a smaller gap.

Anyway that's me sorry to witter on:ecomcity: .

Good Luck

[skyejax]

my dd was 2yrs 4mths when ds was born. i was really aprehensive how she would b. seing she had been the only child (i had planned to hav them closer, but with the need for fertility treatment i didnt quite work out that way, not to mention having abnormal cells treated putting a delay in my plan). she went fine. even when doing the whole terrrible two thing, i just try!!!! to ignore her and she gets the message and tries to b good. not always a fool proiof method, but u just do what u gotta do.
good luck

[FourAngelKisses]

Thanks everyone!! I'm sure it will all work out fine.....just nervous about it all.

[V8]

Well i have no experience as only have 1 bub, but just wanted to offer my Congratulations!! I'm sure you'll do great! You will really only have to deal with two kids all day as the other two would be at school i guess. 15 months sounds like a much harder age gap to me! :D :thumbsup: Goodluck and Congrats again! :)

[Hokey Pokey]

We aimed for a 3 year gap last time but we m/c and by the time we fell and gave birth again it was a 4 year gap which was great for my liking!!
Will be the same this time around maybe bit longer depends how long it takes for us to fall preg again. I do not think I could do it any less than 3 years! There will also be an 8 + year gap between # 3 and my eldest... I am wandering how that will go??

[kymmy]

:wave: Hey Jeanette!
Congratulations again!:smiliedance:
You know my view - I love the three year gap - I find it ideal for our family.
Next baby hoping for 3-5 year gap.:thumbsup:

[FourAngelKisses]

Feeling better about it all this morning, thanks. Just have to try and get my 2yr old to stop crying for 20mins straight each morning............

[flib]

We are in a similar position. DD will be 2 yr 9 months old when our 3rd child is born. There is a 4 year gap between her and her older brother which has worked out fine. He's at school so they have time apart. And they play together although he has to be understanding of her lack of understanding sometimes!

I'm a little worried this time because I think the whole new baby thing is very abstract for her. She sleeps in a big bed now but has developed the habit of coming and sleeping in our bed. We will probably co-sleep with our newborn to make feeding easier and because we like the closeness.

Anyway I'm sure it will resolve somehow.

Warm wishes and good luck with your family dynamics too!

Flib

[Insaine Laine]

I've just found out that i'm pregnant with #2, and that bub will be due just over 2 weeks before our little boy turns 3!! I really wanted smaller gap, but to be honest, i don't think my little one is ready to have another baby around just yet.. He is very dependant on me and this would have made it hard if we did have another one earlier..
I guess things just happen for a reason!! I think that by the time the new bub is born, my son may be alittle more willing to share mum..:fingerscrossed:

Best of luck.. i'm sure it will all work out for you!!

Lainy

[sugar n spice]

I have a 3yr and 5 month gap between my two which has been pretty good. handy as they help out with the younger one