God parents???

[camcat]

DH and I want to have a naming ceremony but are having a few problems with the God parent issue (re. politics).
DH has a best mate that he wants to be a godfather. This guys wife used to be good friends with me but for some reason has been a bit funny over last year or so and so i'm not close enough to want her to be a GM also. On the flip side I have a good mate that I would love to have as a GM but don't know her DH very well. What do I do re: partners??

Another thing I'm unsure about is family. I have 4 sis and 1 bro but am much closer to 1 sis in particular. DH has 1 sis (who is engaged so there is alo a BIL) who we also see more. It would kind of be nice to be able to do something a bit special for these. Any suggestions on stuff and how to smooth way so other family don't feel to left out?

[Foxy]

Hi camcat, I think you can choose godparents individually, even if they are not married to each other if that makes sense. For example, we have DH's sister and my brother (but not my brother's wife - she is absolutley fine and understanding about this). You can also have as many as you want - so maybe consider including everyone that you feel is special enough? Hope that helps. :)

[Missus S]

Yeah didn't one of Posh Spice's boys have something like 12 Godparents??

It is very common to have Godparents who are not a couple.......we are going to do that ourselves.

[Ana Gram]

You also aren't restricted to having one godfather and one godmother

[JATS]

Tom's godparents are my little sister and DH's youngest brother! Their partners aren't bothered by it in the least!

[SuperWoman]

I had my brother, (DH sister) SIL and best friend as Godparents for my DS. No-one was bothered about that. I chose who I trust the most and who loves my child unconditionally. Thats what is most important I believe. Go with who you feel is right hun!:)

[TTannyaa]

Chloe has one of my sisters and BIL (husband to one of my other sisters - I have 5) and Simone has DH's sister and one of my nephews. We did have one sister who's nose was out of joint because she thought it should have been her - we are NOT close. Everyone else thought that we made great choices. We have all family members as godparents deliberately, we didn't want friends as we know other people who have chosen friends and they had a fall-out and now the ex-friends aren't active in the childs life which is a bit of a shame. Choose whoever you want, don't let anyone pressure you. GOODLUCK :thumbsup:

[Percy]

DS has two of each. None of them are in a couple though. I chose my best friend and a old family friend. DH chose his two best mates.

I did feel a bit funny at first about my best friends DH but my DH doesnt know him very well, so i didint expect him to be one.

Good luck deciding!:fingerscrossed:

[Tarnya]

both mine have 4 god parents as we are catholic it is actually for the purpose of custody if something should ever happen to us, that is where the whole Godparent notion came from, my DH wanted his Best Friend and his wife but same as your situation...I said no, we have my sister, the BF, An Uncle and an Aunty

[pixiesmums]

When we got DD baptised the priest suggested to us to have 4 godparents. We didn't as we had trouble deciding who to have. We went with my sister and one of DH's brothers. You can choose people individually not as a couple. Go with who you think would make great Godparents and would have some involvement in your child's live.

[sherryn]

i had the same problem a naming day is what you make it

i was going to a have all my family become guardians and just have them all promise to love support and guide my son through his life but i had a few who couldnt make it ( too far to travel at the time we were having it )

so in the end we had my brothers wife as godmother and my sisters husband as godfather

no one had any problems with that but there is no reason you cant have more then one

good luck hope it all goes well

[meli]

For DD she has 2 GM's and 1 GF. we chose My sister, DH's Brother and my best friend.

I think it is fine not to have people paired up, that way you can also share the love around a bit - IYKWIM.

We ended up choosing to have 1 from each side of the family as to not put peoples noses out of joint. I think one SIL wanted to be GM, as we are both godparents to her DD, but she is already god parent to 2 other neices. I also chose those that weren't god parents to other kids in the famliy because it seems that the same people keep getting asked.

[A Party of Five]

Yeah didn't one of Posh Spice's boys have something like 12 Godparents??

Are children have four each, two guys and two girls. And they don't share any of the same godparents.

[*~alegna~*]

My DS has 2 GF & 1 GM. DH's Best Mate & his DF & my DB.

if we were to have a girl in the future she would have 2 GM & 1 GF. Thats how we've always down it in our family:D

[LittleBoysRock]

My DS has 2 godmothers and 2 godfathers....we picked friends over family for the first child.

[AVR]

I am picking my best friend, who is like family anyway who is not religious but she is spiritual and my DH cousin who is catholic.

Both have partners of their own.:yes:

I am godmother to one of my nephews, my DH isnt god father , and he is godfather the another two of my nephews, I am not godmother.