After the excitement dies down

[JJJRain-crew]

Ok so I've moved explored every part of new hometown in a few weeks, got new house, met a few locals... old friends from home have moved on with thier exciting lives back home...
found a few playgroups ect, I like it here... but nothing feels like home :( I miss thursdays when my bestie came over and we went out for a swim at the beach, a visit to the pet shop and cold rock... I miss saturdays when my sister would come over and we'd go to an A league soccer match and watch movies...
My new life is dull and lonely atm... but I am getting by the best I can... at least we are not worrying about how we are going to afford to eat now!! I have made a few aquaintences... but miss having someone to just hang out with and talk about crap with, listen to daggy music in the car on a pointless drive to destination unknown...
Anyway I am having a long period of self reflection HAHA... at least my soul is having time to reflect and evolve...
sigh... it gets easier to be a gypsy hey?? LOL...
:hugs: hugs self LMAO

[pennylane]

were In WA after leaving Wagga last Sept,I dont find it gets any easier unfortunatley but you do get used to it. :)

I still get really homesick for my home town.

[Dreambeliever]

we just moved from Townsville to Adelaide. I was lucky enough to know another couple from recruits that have been here for a couple of years, so thats helpful. :yes:
I've found that it does get easier the more you get out and make friends. It does take some time though. This is the second posting for us and i found the first alot harder because i fell pregnant straight away and didnt really get a chance to meet people.
Hope it gets better for you :hugs:
And if all else fails...just come on here and talk to us :thumbsup:

[pennylane]

Yeh I should clarify I am happy here,I just miss the familiarity of where I grew up because I know it like the back of my hand.

I also struggled in our first posting because I was pregnant for most of it.We have some friends that posted here from Wagga too and they live three houses up so were lucky in that respect and I do need to make an effort to get out more but with 2 under three it's hard.

You'll be okay :)

[JJJRain-crew]

:flowerz:Feeling more posative today! Just have to try and keep really busy LOL and make an effort... the other day I was really bored at home, just got of a long convo with my best mate back home and started thinking DP went off to the pub with his mates so I was a little jealous that he has a social life... LOL, pretty stupid, I know! sooo much easier making friends when your six LOL it takes so long to form that trust bond with people, then by the time you do your on the move again...
Hey DB... me and my DP are the same age as you and your DP, our little girl was born one month after your son too...
Thx for your replies everyone!!

[KJEmum]

You're funny JJJ lol. You're certainly not sounding down in the dumps and making the best out of the situation. That's all you can do really.

I found the younger I was the more restless I was but as the years went by ..and the kids grew, I was more settled. It's so much easier to make friends when you have kids .. common question 'how old is your child'. You do 'evolve' but it takes some time. You need to be flexible as a Defence spouse and adapt .. yeh the ups and downs are there but you just plod on. It's like ground hog day in my house .. same routine .. arrrgh.
I grew up in Sydney and our first interstate posting after 5yrs together was to Cairns. My bestie and her family, my dad, mum (divorced) and just my comfort zone was left behind. My bestie moved to the USA a day later.
I wasn't the happiest but tried to make the best of the posting. I made friends and life was good but yeh being away from that place I grew up in was rough and now .. I don't care to move back to Sydney except to have a cuppa with my buddies. My dad died, mum is in Tweed Heads and yeh .. don't want to ever go to Sydney again lol.

Ya do get a little envious of the other half ****ing up at that pub when you're stuck at home with kids or just noone to go out with .. I told my DH not to ring when he's drunk as it rubs in the fact that I'm not out enjoying myself. Mind you these days I don't even do that when he's home lol.

Great thing about internet and phones you can always catch up with ya mates .. and it gives you some comfort knowing you can still have a good laugh and things haven't changed even though you're states apart. I have two friends I do that with .. and I would kill to just get together for a cuppa and chat with them but that's not going to happen.

Keep smiling JJJ, your attitude towards it all is great and positive, your partner will be proud :)

We are in Rockingham WA and this is our 3yr and to have the luxury of the beach a km away is bliss. It's truly gorgeous here :) Friends ..well I keep to myself but still get out to playgroups and invites to tupperware parties and so on. Don't get too involved in the hole Navy family scene anymore cos there are soooo many gossipers.