Need advice, crying baby.

[Rike]

Since i had DD i've done everything on my own as my partner is in the army in another state and it's taken so long for everything to go through to apply for a house, my DD is 6 months.. today actually :smiliedance:
At the moment i live with his mother and she's a great, but it should only be a few more weeks till we get a house, then i'll be moving interstate and won't have any of the support i get here. At all.
I don't like t admit it but i have spoilt her a bit and she hates being put down.
I was wondering if anyone had advice on how to deal with a baby like this?
I'm just so worried about how i will cope when i'm by myself at home all day.

[Tam-I-Am]

I honestly don't believe that you can 'spoil' a baby by holding and loving her :) I think that what that creates is a firm attachment between her and you, and that allows her to feel safe and confident that if she has a need (and being held and loved and secure is just as valid a need as being fed or clothed or kept warm ;) ), you will respond to her.

All babies are clingy to a certain extent - their biology demands it. We're all essentially still cave people in regards to our instincts, and babies are no different - her instincts tell her that she's in danger if you leave her alone, and that she's at increased risk of death. She therefore wants and NEEDS to be close to you.

Personally, I would be investing in a good sling (like an Ergo) and wearing her when she needs you to. She will sleep in the sling and it leaves you hands-free so you can get stuff done still. She will eventually grow out of her clinginess and she will do it far quicker if she feels secure and loved than she will if she feels frightened and rejected.

Good luck :) And ENJOY this time - they're only little for such a short amount of time! :)

[BabyPaparazzi]

You can never give to much love or cuddles. Most will go through a stage when they dont want to be put down and usually grow out of it. You may find once she is mobile herself she will be more interested in exploring her new found freedom. I also recommend a sling.

[Rike]

That made me feel a lot better.
People always say to me i spoil her but i'd rather her feel loved than anything else.

I have a sling i got off an ebay store, but she was a big baby and it's a size 8.
I think i'll definitely look into getting one for when i move.
I think the last few days were so bad because she's been costipated, and she doesn't sleep much throuh the day so i hardly got a break.
She's been down all morning and in her jumper and has been fine.

I was just wondering on those days that she wants to be held all day and cries as soon as you try to put her down.. do you let her cry?
I have let her a few times, but i'm right beside her and stand her up and hug her until she cries get bad.

[jo101]

My boy is 7 months and has been doing this lately also as his first tooth is about to break through any day now ;)
I bought an ergo so I could carry him around the house and still get things done and wow, I soo wish I'd bought it ages ago!! its so comfy and easy to use and he loves it even though it was quite late to be introducing bub to a sling! I have a baby bjorn but never quite got the hang of it so this is just a revelation! it will make things so much easier for you. Good luck :flowerz: