I am not an idiot.

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Well my DS1 has only just turned 6 months old. And the clucky feeling is coming back full swing.
I have been bringing up topics like names. (I just love picking names) and when we should think about TTC
My DH is getting worried, mainly because he doesn't want me to be getting this way just yet.
The way he talks to me about the topic, keeps giving me the feeling that us having more children is a banned topic.
I KNOW neither of us are ready just yet. We are still getting on top of being new parents. Financially we probably couldn't stretch to another child. And I physically am probably not ready for it. I am NOT an idiot. And people I have mentioned this too, have made me feel more or less like I am, for even thinking about it.
Some don't know why I am thinking about it, because of how much I complain about being tired all the time with DS1.

I think about it though, and I often wonder if I actually want another child, or if I actually miss being pregnant. Shocking, seriously, I hated being pregnant, especially near the end. But the excitement of having a baby, going to appointments, hearing heartbeats, finding out if we are having a boy or girl. All those things, was wonderful.

I am more or less feeling trapped I think, cause I really just want to talk about having another baby, but no one to talk to it about.

[kuddles]

Ahh the mother instinct is soo powerful. It doesn't mean you are an idiot.
I'm very clucky atm. DS is 10 months old.
I had a shocker pregnancy for morning sickness but loved knowing and feeling bub inside me. There is nothing wrong with that.

We always planned to start TTC when DS is 2. I am going to wait because financially we really can't afford it yet. Doesn't stop me from secretly wanting another sooner than that though.

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We always planned to start TTC when DS is 2. I am going to wait because financially we really can't afford it yet. Doesn't stop me from secretly wanting another sooner than that though.

I am exactly the same, I want to wait 2yrs, My aim is 2012.But yeah, secretly wouldn't mind it earlier.

I am just tired of being scolded for thinking the way I do.

[brogeybear]

You cant help the way you feel, other peole arent emotional vested though so they are looking at the practical side of things and are worried that you want one NOW when really you know that you arent ready but you still wouldnt mind IYKWIM.
The cluckiness thing is so uncontrollable and it brings with it a rollercoaster of emotions. Dont feel bad for feeling it, but try not to let it overwhelm you either. You have a gorgeous bub and he is still so little and it goes so fast, my DS is 2 next month and we ar TTC the month after YAY!!!
They grow so fast, so just absorb yourself in him and maybe that will distract you a little. I too had shocking MS etc. but adored being pg and cant wait to be utd again! Its such a special time in your life!
*hugs* and dont take the negativity to heart, it isnt meant to upset you, like i said, they just are thinking with only their head, wheras you have your heart involved as well!

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I just keep it to myself or say ahhh... but not for a few years.
Good luck with it. Don't let anyone get you down. It is perfectly normal. :)

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You cant help the way you feel, other peole arent emotional vested though so they are looking at the practical side of things and are worried that you want one NOW when really you know that you arent ready but you still wouldnt mind IYKWIM.
The cluckiness thing is so uncontrollable and it brings with it a rollercoaster of emotions. Dont feel bad for feeling it, but try not to let it overwhelm you either. You have a gorgeous bub and he is still so little and it goes so fast, my DS is 2 next month and we ar TTC the month after YAY!!!
They grow so fast, so just absorb yourself in him and maybe that will distract you a little. I too had shocking MS etc. but adored being pg and cant wait to be utd again! Its such a special time in your life!
*hugs* and dont take the negativity to heart, it isnt meant to upset you, like i said, they just are thinking with only their head, wheras you have your heart involved as well!

Thank you for hearing me out.
My DH is more worried about me getting to invested with the idea that I will get very emotional about it. He honestly doesn't know what to do or say to make me feel better when I get that way.

Good luck with you TTC adventure.


I just keep it to myself or say ahhh... but not for a few years.
Good luck with it. Don't let anyone get you down. It is perfectly normal. :)

I tell everyone quiet often that I plan on waiting. And it usually is the first thing that comes out of my mouth, to reassure people I am not planning to jump into another pregnancy.

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I tell everyone quiet often that I plan on waiting. And it usually is the first thing that comes out of my mouth, to reassure people I am not planning to jump into another pregnancy.

I often wonder why I bother telling them. I get cranky that I have to explain myself when I shouldn't have too. Frankly it is none of their business really, but I still say it...
Take care :hugs:

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I often wonder why I bother telling them. I get cranky that I have to explain myself when I shouldn't have too. Frankly it is none of their business really, but I still say it...
Take care :hugs:

It's really weird though, people ask me, do I plan on having anymore. And when I say yes, they go on about how I am not ready! It's really stupid. So I really dread/hate that question.

[jadee22]

I know how difficult it is to have that yearning inside. Sometimes I wondered if it was because all of the anticipation was over.

My bub was about 7-8 months when it started with me. That is when a lot of the ladies in my mothers group fell with their second baby. For some reason their news and ms made me re-think my yearning and look at it realistically. I see them now trying to control a just-two year old who is testing their independance and breastfeeding at the same time. That is a reality check.

I am the last one in the group to fall with number 2 and it is a relief that I made it this far. DS will be 2 1/2 when I have this bub. I used to yearn for a baby by day and pray for my period by night, everytime it would arrive i'd work out how old our DS would be if I fell in the next cycle. It makes me giggle now.

Just ride the waves and don't be ashamed of your feelings. Maybe you should write it all down in a journal and get the feelings out. Or you and your husband could make a decision about when you will start trying for number 2, just so you can stop focusing on it. Good luck!