US results say a girl now feel numb

[tlm68]

Hi. I'm 41 and this will be my first child. I'm 20 weeks pregnant and have been feeling elated since finding out I was pregnant. I have been googling all things baby and visited all the big baby stores and really not thought of much else since. 5 days ago I had my 20 week scan I was excited to find out firstly that everything was in the right place and then the baby's sex. When the USonographer said Girl I instantly felt flat and have since lost all those excited feelings I have had up until that moment. I now can only think how happy I would have felt if she had said Boy. I am extremely upset and confused by my reaction, I didnt think it would matter what sex the baby was and I can't bring myself to confess my feelings to my husband. Has anyone else felt this way and if so how did you get over it?

[4OnEarth1InHeaven]

:wave: and congratulation on your pregnacy!

I have never experienced these feelings but i do know people that have, all i can say is keep your chin up you will feel happy again and love your little girl like crazy, i'm sure others will post on here with those feelings and be able to help you. But for now :hugs:

[OJandMe]

How about we swap then??? :D

I'm having my 5th boy and am just over 19 weeks now. I bawled my eyes out for 3 days straight when I heard I wasn't getting a splash of pink.


In the end... you will love your baby, no matter what gender they are. Once you start buying stuff and getting the nursery set up you will get excited again.

It's OKAY to feel like you do, and talk to DH about it... your feelings are valid too.

But girls are luffly... and I wish I'd heard 'girl'.

You'll be a great Mum and your daughter will adore you.




(Seriously though... if you wanna swap......... ;))

[spring]

Hi,
Sorry to hear you feel that way, I didn't experience any similar feelings but I know its not uncommon, Iv known & heard of quite a few people that have had issues with gender disappointment.

I have a girl & though she is into her dresses & princess stuff she is as tough as nails & definitively not catty or a sooky she loves sport, getting dirty & holds her own with the boys if anything she would put it over them!

Perhaps you could go & try some retail therapy? Girls do have some VERY cute clothes/toys/nic nacs:)

[Josh]

How about we swap then??? :D

I'm having my 5th boy and am just over 19 weeks now. I bawled my eyes out for 3 days straight when I heard I wasn't getting a splash of pink.


In the end... you will love your baby, no matter what gender they are. Once you start buying stuff and getting the nursery set up you will get excited again.

It's OKAY to feel like you do, and talk to DH about it... your feelings are valid too.

But girls are luffly... and I wish I'd heard 'girl'.

You'll be a great Mum and your daughter will adore you.




(Seriously though... if you wanna swap......... ;))

I'm with you OJandME, I have 7 sons and I so wanted my last bub to be a girl but not to be, when I laid eyes on my son 4 mths ago it all just went away, I love my sons no matter what and you will love your daughter the same as soon as you meet:yes:

[Bambibambino]

I had the opposite.

I was convinced I was having a girl, and when I heard 'boy' at the ultrasound I could barely hold back the tears. I think you need to let yourself grieve the baby you thought you were having before you get excited about what you have actually been blessed with.

When he was born I couldn't have cared less what gender he was and now he is 5 months and I am so besotted I wouldn't swap him for all the girls in the world. You'll be the same :yes:

[The Girls Only Club]

First :hugs:.
I am experiencing gender dissapointment too.I found out at 20 weeks that Im having a girl and I cried on the way home,I am just starting to get use to another girl.DH asked me the other day what will we call "her" and I think coming up with girl names has helped make me come to terms with another Princess,makes her seem real now.I still hope and pray that it is a boy and Ill hear that magic word when bubs is born,but im not as sad anymore when I think about a girl.

DH has decided we should call this bubs Shudda Beena Boy.

Give yourself time you will love your baby when the time comes.

[Jesska]

When i found out that DS1 was a boy i was really really upset, didnt last long though.
And when DS2 was born i was a lil dissapointed for a split second, but as soon as i held him i was soooo inlove.
When i was told DD was a girl i was over the moon.

[mummyjac]

I have just had my second boy, and like you I was very upset after the 20 week ultrasound. But I had the rest of the pregnancy to deal with it, and when I met him I fell in love immediately. I was glad I found out at 20 weeks and had time to process it.

[veve]

I had the opposite.

I was convinced I was having a girl, and when I heard 'boy' at the ultrasound I could barely hold back the tears. I think you need to let yourself grieve the baby you thought you were having before you get excited about what you have actually been blessed with.

When he was born I couldn't have cared less what gender he was and now he is 5 months and I am so besotted I wouldn't swap him for all the girls in the world. You'll be the same :yes:
:iagree: that was me .. I sobbed ... both times :laughing: .. but now I love my boys to bits ...

there are good things and not so good things about each gender ... embrace the good ... :hugs: you will love your bubba ..

I'm truly glad that I found out the sex of both babies at the ultrasound - as it gave me time to appreciate the fun aspect of having a boy... you will in time find the wonderful things about having a bubba girl ..

xx
JEn

[veve]

I had the opposite.

I was convinced I was having a girl, and when I heard 'boy' at the ultrasound I could barely hold back the tears. I think you need to let yourself grieve the baby you thought you were having before you get excited about what you have actually been blessed with.

When he was born I couldn't have cared less what gender he was and now he is 5 months and I am so besotted I wouldn't swap him for all the girls in the world. You'll be the same :yes:
:iagree: that was me .. I sobbed ... both times :laughing: .. but now I love my boys to bits ...

there are good things and not so good things about each gender ... embrace the good ... :hugs: you will love your bubba ..

I'm truly glad that I found out the sex of both babies at the ultrasound - as it gave me time to appreciate the fun aspect of having a boy... you will in time find the wonderful things about having a bubba girl ..

xx
JEn

[Mummy2Kobi&Hailee]

I had the opposite.

I was convinced I was having a girl, and when I heard 'boy' at the ultrasound I could barely hold back the tears. I think you need to let yourself grieve the baby you thought you were having before you get excited about what you have actually been blessed with.

When he was born I couldn't have cared less what gender he was and now he is 5 months and I am so besotted I wouldn't swap him for all the girls in the world. You'll be the same :yes:
:iagree:
Im was convinced i was havin another boy and was so excited to be havin a boy then i had my US and the lady said "Congrats you have now got your pigeon pair coz this 1 is a girl"
I dont think i have cried so much in my life. Hubby thought they were happy tears but they werent they were infact tears of dread and i felt like i didnt want this baby anymore.
I felt this way right up until they held my precious daughter up over the curtain in theater (I had a c-section) and it was like " oh shes cute i guess i could love her"
Hailee is almost 11 weeks now and i love her to death and would never want to swap her for a boy.

Once she is here you will feel different towards her. I never told hubby how i was feelin/felt until recently and he said he wishes i told him while pregnant coz he would have supported me through my feelings and in the first few days of bondin with Hailee.