How do you cope?

[babytoo]

Ok so this thread is about your feelings and what you do to copy while our DP's are away....

I have huge issues with it all at the moment....sometimes I feel really selfish but in someways I think its harder for us being at home than for them working.

For me....its the lonely house every night, even though there are 2 kids I still feel lonely and empty. Even though when DH is home, he goes to bed early anyway but its just the feeling of having him in the house that is gone.

I struggle for about 2 hours every night....getting baby bathed, dressed, bottled and bed....my DS shower, pj's, dinner, bed etc. I find it a nightmare by myself whereas when DH is home, he has a shower with DS, looks after him while I bath DD and arrange dinner, puts the bottles in soak etc. My DH says to ask for help from my mum, but in all honestly there is nothing she can do...its just having that extra set of hands around when you need them! My DS plays up sooooo much when he is away

The weekends are pretty bad...my DH usually spends so much time with DS, going the the tip (yes of all things) playing, cleaning the yard etc and I feel so heartbroken for DS when he is not here.

Then whenever he leaves I can't help but cry and cry and cry...my DS also sobs his little heart out when the car pulls away. I try not to cry but can't help it, I know it effects my son. One of the hardest things for me is that we never know how long DH will be away for.....

How do we all cope? Any tips?

[mythreelittlemonkeys]

i find not knowing when he will be back hard too...I not sure that I cope so much as get by day to day...DH been away since Tues...he had to have extra time off as I had an unexpected c section and have noone else here...gr8 in one sense as he spent lots of time with me an bubs but now even harder cos he away again...plus bub been really unsettled since he left...ah well counting days till he next home (i hope) in 2 weeks...

[Di-78]

I have the same feelings you all have.

My older kids are so naughty for me but really good for their Dad (figure that one out). I can't get them to do any jobs or behave and he just say one little thing and the job is done with out any hassles. Thats probably why he ends supervising any job he goes to.

Not having a regular structure is frustrating, you just live a day at a time.

Our phone bill is huge when he's away. Anyone else with the same problem. We changed to one of the deals where you pay $49 and get $120 worth of calls, so will see if that makes a difference.

I just try to get done as much as I can and the rest will get done another day!
The worst thing is when they do come home and say "the house is a mess" or "this job wasn't done". I am pretty disorganised with my time though but I do what I can!
That makes me so angry that they think they can do a better job then you. I hate having to justify my time and what I have or havn't done. At least the kids (and the rest of the animals) are feed and cleaned and looked after. Why can't they just come home and say "You've done your best and Thank you!". They get a cleaner in where they are staying and can just pop into the pub on the way home from work and get a meal (and have a few drinks) if they don't feel like cooking or shopping.
SORRY it sounds like I'm winging.....just need to vent. :ecomcity:

They work away so they can provide for us and we can have a more comfortable way of life and I appreciate all we have. We can spend quality time together when they are not working instead of just a few hours before bed and weekends (mainly sunday as most have work saturdays anyway) Remember if they didn't work away they would probably be getting home late at night anyway and are to worn out to be of any help. They wouldn't be there in the crazy hours of the afternoon/night when we need more sets of hands to help us a hand anyway!

If I have free time in the day I try to make meals. Some people use those slow cookers and swear by them, there is a post on here for recipies.

This thread is a great place to vent and talk to others!!!!!!!

Have a good day! :wave:

[mythreelittlemonkeys]

just to add and prove how unreliable my DH shifts are - he just rang to say he home next week early and only for a few days before he goes up to another rig for another 3 week stint so we dont get our 10 days together - he cant do any extra(much needed) work - and whats more the rig will be moving to a remote camp and hes not sure if mobile signal that good...so looks like I going to have a very lonely 3 weeks then! :no:
Oh by the way yes our phone bills are horrendous too 297 dollar bill is sitting on the blackboard and nope not paid yet and yup overdue!! but then in typical fashion hot water system broke totally when DH left, now found out have a burst pipe adn to top it my DVD player (not old) just given up on me...so I cnat even watch soppy movies as I feed the baby...times like this when being 1000's of miles from all friends and family who'd be there for me really sucks!! makes the DH being away all the time even harder!! sorry vent but really narked off!!!:banghead:

[Di-78]

thats what this site is for isn't it......to vent our issues with other people who understand.
Where exactly are you living? Pity we couldn't help each other with the tuff jobs. We learn to be handywomen (theres some things we can't fix but we give it our best shot). We have heaps of bill all came in the same week and all due at the same time. VERY FRUSTRATING. There goes one weeks wage. We just brought the kids new motorbikes to (bad timing for the bills)
Hope your week gets better and there is mobile coverage!!!!!!!
Sometimes calling family and friends makes the situation worst as they don't understand why they work away. You can always post here (or email me) and we'll listen.

By the way Matilda Rose is my favourite name (just couldn't get hubby to agree with me) but I LOVE it.:)

[babytoo]

OMG Georgiem...my hot water system blew up last week...$1000 dollars later too! I didnt know what to do...I was frantically trying to call DH and ask him what to do....like he could be any help!!! I just rang a plumber, they probably overcharged me!

This morning my cat decided to eat a bird! There was blood everywhere...I couldnt deal with it so had to get my mum's partner over to get rid of it!! I can't handle things like that and feel so useless!

Interested in hearing how the phone thing goes....I always just ring mobile to mobile so want to try and cut this down heaps!