I ♥ My Only Daughter.

[Pinkzy]

I am posting this here because it'll be my last and only chance to post in this section...and also because I'm somewhat of an emotional mess right now and need to get this out somewhere.

I spent the day with my daughter today over at my parents place. My almost 8 year old lives with her daddy and step-mummy, I see her most weekends but in this case I hadn't seen her for 2 weeks (she's a little social butterfly and couldn't fit me into her busy schedule last weekend :laughing:).

The minute I got to my parents place - she did something she hasn't done since she was about 3 years old. She came running out the door to the car and threw her arms around me. For the first time during this entire pregnancy, she kissed my belly and looked up at me with this great big smile :o I gave her a huge cuddle back and we went inside.


Usually when we're over at my parents place, my daughter will want me to run around with her outside, go swimming, do drawings, sometimes bake a cake - that sort of thing. She also usually spends a lot of time playing with her grandparents but today...for some reason...it was all about me :). All she wanted to do was snuggle up to me, cuddle me, play her violin and recorder for me. She kept rubbing my belly as we were watching the Spongebob marathon on TV and it's just almost as if she knew that today would be the last time we spend together as mummy and daughter, before her half brother arrives.

It was just so special. My 8 year old who's usually so grown up and so sarcastic and witty was just an absolute angel today...she clung to me the entire day like she did when she was a baby and toddler and my heart's still melting even though she's back at home with her dad now. When it was time to go home my parents were quite jealous as she gave me a massive cuddle, kiss and then kissed my belly. We held hands with the window opened as her dad drove away...I don't know why but I just felt like breaking down on the side of the road as I watched the car move away..with her hand still waving to me out the window.

She's just such an angel, the most perfect little girl in the universe and I've always known that, but today it was just so much more apparent to me. I know my love for her won't change when my baby boy is here, I'll still spend as much time as possible with her and never treat her any differently. But the fact is she's not my only child anymore and as excited as I am about meeting my beautiful baby boy in a week (or less)...I have to admit, it stings a little knowing she's now not my only baby. She'll always be my little girl though, that won't change when she's 13 or 30 :goodvibes:

Anyway, sorry for the long post. I mainly just put this here so I could get it off my chest and just wanted to document somewhere what a beautiful, perfect, amazing little girl I have and that I am so incredibly proud of her. I love my daughter so much ♥.

[Oblena]

That is amazing.

My vote is to write what you just wrote here in a letter to her, and add how it made you feel, how much you loved it, how much it meant and how wonderful she is.

Get it printed on nice paper and include a nice pic of you and her together.

Frame it and give it to her.

I lost my mum when I was 11 (def not saying that will happen to your DD), but if my mum ever felt like you just did I will NEVER know.

When she's 13, 14, 16 and grumpy, moody. hormonal etc, she will look at this and remember you love her no matter what even if she never says it.

When she is a mum, she will re read it and feel the emotions for herslef.

When she is old and you are gone, she will still have this little piece of love that you managed to campture and give to her.

I am so glad that you had a wonderful visit, and hope that you have many more to come

[MummaBear03]

That is amazing.

My vote is to write what you just wrote here in a letter to her, and add how it made you feel, how much you loved it, how much it meant and how wonderful she is.

Get it printed on nice paper and include a nice pic of you and her together.

Frame it and give it to her.

I lost my mum when I was 11 (def not saying that will happen to your DD), but if my mum ever felt like you just did I will NEVER know.

When she's 13, 14, 16 and grumpy, moody. hormonal etc, she will look at this and remember you love her no matter what even if she never says it.

When she is a mum, she will re read it and feel the emotions for herslef.

When she is old and you are gone, she will still have this little piece of love that you managed to campture and give to her.

I am so glad that you had a wonderful visit, and hope that you have many more to come

I agree with this and enjoyed reading this post as much as I enjoyed reading the OP.

[JabberJaw]

NAWWWWWW :goodvibes:

As the other ladies said, print it off, she will love it.

I know how you feel, my eldest DD lived with her dad and step mum for sometime (her choice) but since we moved she has come back to me fulltime. I saw her often, but i missed her heaps. She is a fantastic big sister to her sisters and brother and i am too proud of her. I recently gave her a few of her keepsakes that i had put away, letters i wrote when i was pregnant and on other occasions, and she really enjoyed reading through them

Your DD sounds lovely :goodvibes:

[Justboys]

:hugs: I agree with Oblena put on paper with beautiful pic. Sound like you had a beautiful day :skywriter:

[Pinkzy]

Thanks ladies :):hugs: It was such a lovely day with such a lovely girl.

Oblena - that is a wondeful and beautiful idea. I just copy and pasted my post and will print it out once I add a bit more to it.

I've also been writing letters and poems (and have 2 diaries full of entries) to my daughter since I was 4 weeks pregnant with her. I have about 3 books full of them, they include all of her birthday/xmas/Easter cards and photos of both her as a baby and of me as a baby. I plan on giving all of this stuff to her when she's 16-18 years old, basically when she's a grown up.

I will print out the above post though (on some pretty paper) and include my favourite recent picture of us both together, her birthday is coming up in May so I might give it to her then along with her presents :)

[emmwill]

I have tears and that dosn't happen often.

It reminds me of when I went into labour with DS. I just laid in bed with DD cuddling and sobbing.

Write it down if not for her then you.

[Pinkzy]

Thanks emmwill :) I'm still sobbing on and off lol...all good though, I think it's just hormones :laughing:

Oblena - I am sorry you lost your mum so young. If your mum was anything like you sound, I have no doubt she would of loved you with all her heart (and she still would now). My husband lost both his parents very young, but he knows his mother adored him and his sister. That is such an important thing I agree :hugs:

[Oblena]

Hi Pinkvanillaz,

I was thinking last night that maybe you cold let your daughter know that you got all that stuff for her and plan to give it to her when she is older. Have areally special box for it to sit in, and maybe have some 'select' ones that she is allowed to look at and read whenever she wants at your house.

I think that will make her time at your house really special, especially with the new baby coming, maybe when you're feeding him or busy with him, she is allowed to sit beside you with the box and remember how much you loved her etc, all the while sitting with you and her new brother.

[sockstealingpoltergeist]

That is amazing.

My vote is to write what you just wrote here in a letter to her, and add how it made you feel, how much you loved it, how much it meant and how wonderful she is.

Get it printed on nice paper and include a nice pic of you and her together.

Frame it and give it to her.

I lost my mum when I was 11 (def not saying that will happen to your DD), but if my mum ever felt like you just did I will NEVER know.

When she's 13, 14, 16 and grumpy, moody. hormonal etc, she will look at this and remember you love her no matter what even if she never says it.

When she is a mum, she will re read it and feel the emotions for herslef.

When she is old and you are gone, she will still have this little piece of love that you managed to campture and give to her.

I am so glad that you had a wonderful visit, and hope that you have many more to come

Great post. I did this for my DD when she was about 11 or 12 and whenever we have a big clean out her room together I see it there. She keeps it and I know it has great sentimental value to her.

[Pinkzy]

That is a really good idea Oblena!! You seem to have a lot of them :)