soph'smum
31-07-2006, 11:13
...I'm starting to think boys are whisked off into some kind of hypnotherapy during their childhood which gives them the unique ability to ignore their mother's *****ing, nastiness and unreasonabless toward their wives/partners!
My mother-in-law is driving me absolutely nuts. It's funny, because PC (pre-children), I used to be able to simply turn off or tune out when she did or said something that grated with me. But now, even tiny things really get to me. Anyone else find this?
The straw that broke the camels back happened a few months back when we moved back to our home state with our little girl - so she could grow up close to her grandparents! Well, I'm beginning to think that was a huge mistake. Admittedly, we lived with MIL for a couple of months while the house we purchased went through settlement etc. Obviously this was an intrusion of both our personal space, but she really went out of her way to cause friction. Here's just an example:
Each night she would cook dinner for herself and DH, but not me or DD!
She'd selectively collect all of DH's washing from OUR basket (before i had the chance to get to it) and wash his, but not ours......then she'd tell anyone who'd listen how I refused to do DH's washing!!
Then she refused to put away, or refused to let us put away, anything that was a danger to DD (who was just 12 months), saying that she had to learn not to touch things! Well, since then, DD almost pulled a very heavy vase onto her head and if it hadn;t been for DH, who leapt six feet to catch it before it fell, i'm not sure what would have happened...MIL's response was that it's her house and she can do as she likes with what's in it... In the heat of the moment and frightened at what might have happened, I told her that was fine, but that DD would never stay there again because I didn't want to come home to a dead child!
Recently we ran into friends who are expecting a bub at the same time as us and MIL made a point of saying that the other expecting mum was lucky because she didn't seem to have experienced bum spread from her pregnancy as yet! :eek: Well, i took that as meaning, she's lucky and i haven't been so lucky....We have now been arguing (or hardly speaking) for weeks and DH seems to think I'm the one being unreasonable. Am I? At the moment, I'd be happy never to have much to do with her again. At the same time, I know that's probably not fair on DD, but I can't see how we can sort this out. Any suggestions very welcome! :banghead:
Michelle
Me: 29
DH: 30
DD: 14months
Bub #2 due 29 October
My mother-in-law is driving me absolutely nuts. It's funny, because PC (pre-children), I used to be able to simply turn off or tune out when she did or said something that grated with me. But now, even tiny things really get to me. Anyone else find this?
The straw that broke the camels back happened a few months back when we moved back to our home state with our little girl - so she could grow up close to her grandparents! Well, I'm beginning to think that was a huge mistake. Admittedly, we lived with MIL for a couple of months while the house we purchased went through settlement etc. Obviously this was an intrusion of both our personal space, but she really went out of her way to cause friction. Here's just an example:
Each night she would cook dinner for herself and DH, but not me or DD!
She'd selectively collect all of DH's washing from OUR basket (before i had the chance to get to it) and wash his, but not ours......then she'd tell anyone who'd listen how I refused to do DH's washing!!
Then she refused to put away, or refused to let us put away, anything that was a danger to DD (who was just 12 months), saying that she had to learn not to touch things! Well, since then, DD almost pulled a very heavy vase onto her head and if it hadn;t been for DH, who leapt six feet to catch it before it fell, i'm not sure what would have happened...MIL's response was that it's her house and she can do as she likes with what's in it... In the heat of the moment and frightened at what might have happened, I told her that was fine, but that DD would never stay there again because I didn't want to come home to a dead child!
Recently we ran into friends who are expecting a bub at the same time as us and MIL made a point of saying that the other expecting mum was lucky because she didn't seem to have experienced bum spread from her pregnancy as yet! :eek: Well, i took that as meaning, she's lucky and i haven't been so lucky....We have now been arguing (or hardly speaking) for weeks and DH seems to think I'm the one being unreasonable. Am I? At the moment, I'd be happy never to have much to do with her again. At the same time, I know that's probably not fair on DD, but I can't see how we can sort this out. Any suggestions very welcome! :banghead:
Michelle
Me: 29
DH: 30
DD: 14months
Bub #2 due 29 October