Help!!!!!

[QueenSpesh]

Hi all but I need some advice. I just droped the boy to day care and was told that he has been biting other children! The worst part is it has taken the day care centre a week to advise us that he has been biting!!!:(

He is nearly 2 and has only just started doing this!! Any advice so I can stop it now before it gets out of control!

Regards

Kylie

[mummyb]

hi
well for a start what is going on tha tit takes them a week to let you know your childs behavior has changed ???
id be booking ameeting with the director making it clear you expect to be kept better informed and you wan tot know if anything else id going on you should be aware of.
i think biting is a hard thing to deal with it can be done in frustration and done out of anger my ds bit out of happiness so you need to find out exactly what was goin gon when he was biting ,eg if there are kids being mean or realy bothering him he may not know how to deal with it.
he may have accdentaly bitten got a great reaction fromthe centres staff and though hey this is great i get some extra attention if i do this .
he is a normal little boy most children bite at some point in their lives.
you know your child better than anyone so what do you think is going on ? hw do you think this behaviour can be stopped ?
i would also ask the centre what they do when the children miss behave.
NO BODY THINKS THIS IS YOUR FAULT ,REPEAT AFTER ME IAM THE BEST MUM I CAN BE ,BITING IS JUST PART OF CHILDHOOD PARCEL.!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
good luck ....everything will be fine. :D

[mumof2girls]

Queenspesh;

I would be concerned that it took them a week to tell you that he is biting, that just isn't good enough :mad:

However I have seen my fair share of biters (I work in childcare), and it can be for various reasons

1 Is talking (maybe not clearly) but not getting his point across and is getting frustrated

2 He has either bitten somebody or seen someone being bitten and seen the reaction it causes

3 Something/someone at the centre has unsettled him and he is just reacting.

Don't fret to much most children bite at least once and they usually all grow out of it. I would also be asking what their policy is for children that bite within their centre. GOOD Luck! know this is a hard one :)

[perrywinkle]

I use to manage a child care centre and every time a child bit/got bitten at my centre the parents were told by myself over the phone or in person when they arrived to pick up their children. Both parents have a right to know the day it happens. I also got my staff to fill in an incident form for the parents to sign as well.

Reasons for biting:

1) Teething
2) Bored at childcare. Ensure that the children have enough toys to play with thru out the day
3) Lacking supervision.
4) Defending himself against older children/rough kids

I would definately tallk to the manager!!!

Kylie

[QueenSpesh]

Thanks very much for all your advice, apparently he just had an interest in the child that he bit and the childcare supervisors told me not to stress over it and they see it often in children. Doesnt make me feel any better but if it happens again I will be questioning the child care centre to make sure I know what is going on.

Apparently, they have popped the baby in question into a playpen during the day so that ds and the other older kids cant get to him.

Thanks again your advice is very much appericated.

Kylie

[mumof2girls]

That may sound okay to some people but that's not dealing with the problem, now the poor baby is being locked up in a playpen all day so others can't get to him, that's moving the problem not dealing with it, I wonder if that child's mother knows what is going on? How are they suppose to learn to socialise and deal with conflict?

Sorry getting on my soap box here but they don't sound very professional at this centre!

[Melissa1983]

My youngest bites, but she only bites her sister. I think it is clearly frustrated as she doesn't really talk much. She has tired to bite me but than stops. I also find she bites when she is teething. So far daycare hasn't told me that she is biting other children, but she only goes there once a week.
I would be making an appointment with the director, because a week to tell you, thats not good enough. How are you meant to fix the problem :confused: