Bullying at school

[MummaBear03]

I don't know if it's bullying towards my child as such, it seems to just be whichever child is close enough to lash out at.

The child pulled DD's shirt, which is now missing a button because I don't know how to sew anything at all, he also threw a full, large water bottle at the middle of her back which bruised her for days after, and he took her hat. All in one go, water bottle first then pulled on her shirt to pull her close enough to get her hat off. It was at school finishing time so I saw it happen but couldn't get through the parents to get to her in time to do anything about it.

I went to let the supply teacher know and she asked DD if she knew which child it was. When DD said the name of the boy, the teacher rolled her eyes and said "He always does those thing, you'll be ok" and I was like :eek: and told her it is not ok.

We went to the office and the Deputy Principal said she'll talk to the supply teacher, make sure she never has DD's class again, and on the Monday she was to speak with the regular teacher, the child and his parents.

Today I realised that the mother is a worker at a centre I get some work at. Makes it hard to talk to her about it!

Anyway, DD said the child lifted her dress up today and told her that he likes her knickers and wants to take them!!! So I've asked for an appointment with the Principal to try and sort something out, he's making her feel very unsafe at school.

So far, 3 weeks into the year, she's missing a button on her new school shirt, she had a bruise on her back that lasted days, she had her hat taken but it did turn up the following week, and she's been asked for her knickers all by the one child! He does it to other kids though and is sometimes nice but it just seems to be when he gets it in his head that he wants to bully a child, he'll simply choose the nearest one.

I just need some tips on how to help DD at school when these things happen to her.

[RaryGirl]

My DD suffered at the hands of emotional more than physical bullies in Year 4 ... it was a shocking year.

The thing I kept telling DD was to tell a teacher IMMEDIATELY something happened. I know we don't want our kids to be 'dobbers' but the teachers are meant to be keeping them safe, so they need to be aware of what is going on and deal with it immediately.

Next thing I would chat to DD after school to see how her day went ... I'd ask her if she felt safe that day. No matter how trivial the incident I'd keep a diary of it, as the trivial things were building up to bigger things.

Don't let the Principal or Teachers brush you aside as this what they did to myself and DD. They even had to nerve to say - exact words "She brings it on herself" ... NO child brings bullying on themselves and there should be ZERO tolerance to bullying, especially at the younger age.

:hugs: for your DD ... I hope you and the Teachers can nip it in the bid immediately so she feels safe at school.

[MummaBear03]

OMG I can't believe they said she brought it on herself! I haven't spoken to the Principal yet, but the Deputy was pretty well on top of it when I spoke to her the first time and was just as horrified as I was at the reaction from the supply teacher. I think her normal teacher will be much better at dealing with it, but DD just doesn't tell her teacher about these things. She just doesn't mention much at all. She was bitten by a snake one day (mother of the year award right here :o) and didn't tell me so I didn't know until bath time that night and I saw her with the snake and saw her scream but thought she just freaked out. she didn't tell me it bit her and she does that with other things too like bullying.

[meggs]

My DD suffered at the hands of emotional more than physical bullies in Year 4 ... it was a shocking year.

The thing I kept telling DD was to tell a teacher IMMEDIATELY something happened. I know we don't want our kids to be 'dobbers' but the teachers are meant to be keeping them safe, so they need to be aware of what is going on and deal with it immediately.

Next thing I would chat to DD after school to see how her day went ... I'd ask her if she felt safe that day. No matter how trivial the incident I'd keep a diary of it, as the trivial things were building up to bigger things.

Don't let the Principal or Teachers brush you aside as this what they did to myself and DD. They even had to nerve to say - exact words "She brings it on herself" ... NO child brings bullying on themselves and there should be ZERO tolerance to bullying, especially at the younger age.

:hugs: for your DD ... I hope you and the Teachers can nip it in the bid immediately so she feels safe at school.


:iagree:

Even as a supply teacher those issues should not be brushed off! Id never let that slide or respond that way so please dont think all supply teachers are that bad...

Maybe you can encourage DD to be able to trust her teacher so that she can tell her about incidences... as you know teachers dont see everything and unless students tell a teacher things will slip past...

[MummaBear03]

:iagree:

Even as a supply teacher those issues should not be brushed off! Id never let that slide or respond that way so please dont think all supply teachers are that bad...

Maybe you can encourage DD to be able to trust her teacher so that she can tell her about incidences... as you know teachers dont see everything and unless students tell a teacher things will slip past...

Oh I know, she had 3 regular supply teachers in Prep and they were awesome. When Year 1 teachers had their training day and they had supply teachers, the other 2 classes had supply teachers that I know to be fantastic. Also one of the mums does supply teaching but only for that school, otherwise it's too hard for her, so last week when the teacher was called away for her own kids by 9am this mum simply took over as she was still there doing things in the classroom anyway. She's really good with them. This is the first one I've had a problem with.

I do know that teachers can't see everything, even as her mother I miss things when I'm right there with her and we're working on her telling people what the problem is.