suemp
12-02-2010, 15:57
My 3.5 yr old is truely doing my head in and i'm not sure if its because he is " a handful child" as friends like to put it, naughty, or due to problems he had as a baby.
To make a story as short as possible ds2 was born with a medical condition affecting his breathing. he didnt sleep thru till 2.5 and when i say didnt sleep thru i mean up 20+ times a night.
He also had afew lenghty seizures the first at 3 months old went for 20 mins, which can affect the brain causing delay however mri ruled out anything major.
And other stuff included like he couldnt walk for a month they thought he had cancer of the bone.
Maybe because of all this i caved in too much when he was little and wasnt firm enough that now he is a right pita at times.
His speech is really far behind. he says 3 word sentences at the most and hardly anywords come out correctly.
he is a very big boy, wears size 6 clothes and towers over his peers.
He is naughty at kindy including hurting other kids.
he does not listen at anything i say. i say no he laughs and does it anyway.
Time out is a joke. the only way i can keep him in his room is hold the door shut which he belts the other side with any object he can find.
We are trying a good behaviour sticker book atm. sometimes it works mainly not.
he tries to hurt his brother (8) and his friends all the time, throwing any object at them he can find sometimes its scary big objects.
he is obsessed with knives and stabbing his brother and the dog (be it butter knife or fork.) bigger knives are strictly out of reach. he can reach the others due to his size.
He is now refusing breakfast. its a fight all day he wants to graze all day and not eat proper meals.
Taking him out is an embarrassment. he will run the aisles in shops, run amok at friends houses hurting their kids helping himself to their fridge etc.
But at times can be extremely shy.
I just dont get it i mean i raised his brother the same way (who also had alot of medical problems) and he is and was very well behaved.
Do you think i should be taking him back to a paed (we have moved so will need a new one) or is it me doing something wrong?
tia
sue
To make a story as short as possible ds2 was born with a medical condition affecting his breathing. he didnt sleep thru till 2.5 and when i say didnt sleep thru i mean up 20+ times a night.
He also had afew lenghty seizures the first at 3 months old went for 20 mins, which can affect the brain causing delay however mri ruled out anything major.
And other stuff included like he couldnt walk for a month they thought he had cancer of the bone.
Maybe because of all this i caved in too much when he was little and wasnt firm enough that now he is a right pita at times.
His speech is really far behind. he says 3 word sentences at the most and hardly anywords come out correctly.
he is a very big boy, wears size 6 clothes and towers over his peers.
He is naughty at kindy including hurting other kids.
he does not listen at anything i say. i say no he laughs and does it anyway.
Time out is a joke. the only way i can keep him in his room is hold the door shut which he belts the other side with any object he can find.
We are trying a good behaviour sticker book atm. sometimes it works mainly not.
he tries to hurt his brother (8) and his friends all the time, throwing any object at them he can find sometimes its scary big objects.
he is obsessed with knives and stabbing his brother and the dog (be it butter knife or fork.) bigger knives are strictly out of reach. he can reach the others due to his size.
He is now refusing breakfast. its a fight all day he wants to graze all day and not eat proper meals.
Taking him out is an embarrassment. he will run the aisles in shops, run amok at friends houses hurting their kids helping himself to their fridge etc.
But at times can be extremely shy.
I just dont get it i mean i raised his brother the same way (who also had alot of medical problems) and he is and was very well behaved.
Do you think i should be taking him back to a paed (we have moved so will need a new one) or is it me doing something wrong?
tia
sue