Annoying situation

[sockstealingpoltergeist]

This is more an issue with friends and family.


My DH has a friend, and I am friends with his wife through forced assosiation.:D

We had a falling out a few years back for various reasons, biggest being that she is fibber Mcfibbington pants.

Then she and my sister became best friends. So now I just see both of them occasionaly and try not to have a whole lot to do with them.

Anywho, my sister has a pattern of being in destructive relationships and has a lot of other issues.

Last year my sister met someone who seems very nice, they moved in together and myself and my husband really like him.

The issue is my DH's friend and his wife, keep bagging him out all the time.

I am pretty honest and say "I like him" etc, but I am over the back stabbing and rubbish.

My sister and the new boyfriend have no idea they are being bagged out all the time.

How would you habdle this situation?

[crazymuma]

Honestly I would probably say something to my sister - she is family after all - but then again I am really close to my sister. How will your husband react if you start a war though??


You should never be friends with a fibber mcfibbington pants - they're the worst kind :D

[MimiGrace]

slightly unethical, but could you record fibby mcfibbington saying the bad stuff?

Just, i don't know the relationship you have with your sister, and i wouldn't want it seem to her like you were trying to break up a friendship for whatever reason.
Whereas if you go with a video or a soundrecording of the sh!t being said, at least she can't convince herself your just telling fibs?

I would definitely at least say, 'hey, just so you know, she's been telling me some stuff about you guys that i can't imagine you want people who don't love you as much as i do to hear' or something to that effect? Nothing worse than someone badmouthing your friends and family to your face :thumbsdown:

[WorkingClassMum]

I'd put the cow on notice - tell her you don't want to hear cr@p about your sister so you'd appreciate that she kept her b!tchin' to herself.

I'd give your sister the heads up a little - tell her that you have had a conversation with mcb!tch about bagging family members, but not necessarily what mcb!tch has said

I bet you a pound to a penny she's bagging you to your sis too ;)

[Emmi]

I'd say some to mrs fibbington. She is saying stuff about your sister after all. How stupid does she think you are?! I often wonder about some people...

[Myztik]

Tell them straight out you will not tolerate listening to someone bad mouth your sister or her partner. If they start then walk away.

[delirium]

If it were me both my DH and myself would make it clear to them that we liked him and weren't interested in hearing their bagging of your sis and her man.

If they kept it up I'd tell my sis

[Love is all you need]

Tell them straight out you will not tolerate listening to someone bad mouth your sister or her partner. If they start then walk away.
:iagree:

And :iagree: with Delirium too

[sockstealingpoltergeist]

I know she bags me out when I am not around, and my sister and I are not close at all.

[Bubmum]

If this was my sister...we would be having fisticuffs with the silly woman...
But if you're not close to your sister, honestly, I would just let it ride. Some people are just mean on the inside. They don't even see it themselves, normally. They're silly. But damn, do they manage to get a lot of attention for it.

[Mrs Nietzsche]

i generally say something like 'yeah i dont really want to hear that aye' or 'oh okay well to be honest i reall y like him and i dont feel comfortable talking behind his back' etc or similar, as suitable. In this situation you arent really invested in any party and can be pretty easily take the moral high ground I'd have thought.

[SassyMummy]

I would tell them that they can think what they like, but you don't really need to listen to people b*tching about your sister and her partner. It's not the time or place, so could they kindly stfu?

[sockstealingpoltergeist]

Thanks, will do. I can be very blunt and didn't know if I was doing the right thing.

Of course I don't want my DH's friendship to suffer, but I just can't listen to rubbish like that.

[BabelFish]

Fibber mcfibbington pants.

That is the best thing I have ever heard.

[bada]

I'd put the cow on notice - tell her you don't want to hear cr@p about your sister so you'd appreciate that she kept her b!tchin' to herself.

I'd give your sister the heads up a little - tell her that you have had a conversation with mcb!tch about bagging family members, but not necessarily what mcb!tch has said

I bet you a pound to a penny she's bagging you to your sis too ;) ^^^ yep that!

[sockstealingpoltergeist]

Fibber mcfibbington pants.

That is the best thing I have ever heard.
I try.:D

And bada, best advice ever:p.

[Justboys]

Originally Posted by Myztik http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/images/buttons/viewpost.gif (http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?p=4478010#post4478010)
Tell them straight out you will not tolerate listening to someone bad mouth your sister or her partner. If they start then walk away.

:iagree::iagree::iagree: family is more important!

[Boobycino]

fibber Mcfibbington pants are the worst!

(though best saying, I shall be using it in future :thumbsup:)

I dont understand why people lie about anything, I completely understand not telling the whole truth, but people who just completely make things up... i dont get it!!! Is your life THAT boring!! (my SIL is a MASSIVE fibber mcfibbington pants! She's so bad her partner is afraid to answer questions directly, because he doesn't know what she's lied about, so he will be cagey if you say "whatcha get up to on the weekend?" he wont give us a straight answer, because THATS how much she cannot tell the truth :rolleyes:

I agree with others, I wouldn't tollerate someone bagging out a family member, or their partner, so I'd tell her so - and maybe give yourr sister the heads up, I agree not WHATS she's said, but that she's been saying negative things about her. because, ya, if she bagging your sister out to you, I totally agree she's probably bagging you out to your sister :rolleyes: