babyshower help needed!

[Baldie's Mum]

So i have approx 70 ppl that i would invite to my baby shower! (that is no small children!!!!!!!) That includes parents, gransdparents, aunts, cousins, and friends. And there is no way it could be cut down without feeling like i was cutting family out...........

So, i have my family (both dh and mine) and they are equally as wonderful and i have alot to do with both! there is 50 there.........

Then i have approx 20 friends that i would like to invite.

So............if you went to a baby shower with 70 people, how would you feel???? Would it be like i wanted more presents....cause i am considering putting "your presence is presents enough" on the invite, i want to actually thank people for supporting us through our IVF journey!

So what would you think..............is it too much?????? :o

Should i have 3 seperate smaller babyshowers??????

2 sets of friends, and then family?????

[Jess988]

Ekk I'm having 20 and I thought that was huge. I think maybe u should spilt it up, have lunch with ur friends and then a baby shower with family? I just think 70 ppl is just too big. But that's just me.

[Myztiks#1Fan]

i think maybe split it up as well ains. have a family one and then have a bunch of friends together for the second one. means you can have 2 really awesome days as well :D

[missie_mack]

I would do a seperate family one to friends. And really you might find they all don't come anyway. Babyshowers are considered secret womens business for the most and others tend to celebrate once the baby arrives with naming ceremonies/baptisms/ arrival parties

[Baldie's Mum]

Well my mum thinks its just a bit tacky........but MIL is ready and willing! She wants to throw it for me...............

For me, its just a thank you for your support morning tea/lunch!

So maybe i will have nothing till after the baby is born! LOL! Like a naming day thing!

[Greenhorn]

awww you need a baby shower!!

Just have three!! Split into DP's family, then Your family, then friends??

They'd understand!!

[Love is all you need]

awww you need a baby shower!!

Just have three!! Split into DP's family, then Your family, then friends??

They'd understand!!
:iagree: Definitely have one and split it in three - and if your mum thinks it's tacky just tell her she had her time not to have a baby shower and you want one to celebrate this beautiful bubba (or the other option is she thinks it tacky she doesn't have to go - that way you won't have someone with bad vibes there)

[Jess988]

Oh u need to have one :-) ur mum might think it's tracky to have 70ppl altogther?

I'm lucky alot of my family are in nsw same with dp.

[CrankyAndTired]

Honey - babyshowers come in all shapes and sizes.. if you want to have a big one, thats your prerogative!!! You are the mumma-to-be, its your party!! :yes::D

I think its a great idea to have a big celebration after all you've been through to get here.. Don't stress about it, dream about the day you want and then make it happen..

So happy for you.. :yelclap::)

[tootiredtosleep]

Part of what I loved about mine was been able to sit and talk to my friends/family, look at the presents and just relax. I had about 15 people there and it was just enough! Its great to goo and ga over baby stuff and everyone will want to get you something.

I'd probably throw a big party for your family as a celebration that you are pregnant, and then have a smaller shower with friends and close family.

[flicker]

i come from a big family too.
The best solution for us was to have two. We had one that was a ''baby bbq" where it was just a big celebration for us entering our family journey. It was boys as well, as after all it is them having a baby too. Then I was able to have a separte small shower that my friends organised at their house. It was good because it kept numbers down and because i was not throwing it, she did not have to invite family;)

what an excellent problem to have:D

[Looshkin]

Do 1, 2 or 3 if you want lovely, do whatever you want and what you will most enjoy.

You could do a baby shower with friends, with family and then have a blessingway (http://pregnancy.about.com/cs/blessingway/a/aa102202a.htm) with your close mates rather than a baby shower?

I would do 3 smaller ones I think, because I like the closeness of smaller circles.

As it is I think I will end up doing similar, having 2 baby showers one with family as my sister will want to do that and all of us have a luncheon and then I know my more mainstream friends would want to do a morning tea together


I then have some homebirth people who would hold a blessingway for me to pamper me and etc massages etc like we have done for others and bring me a bead and a candle for a birthing necklace, maybe do a belly cast and henna yanno blessingway stuff.

I guess this is part of the huge amount of people you meet along the way who are happy for you and want to celebrate with you when you have been really long term TTC.. :p

[Baldie's Mum]

a baby BBQ sounds great!!!!!!! Sounds like a wonderful idea!!!!!! Very our family!

I love the idea about a blessingway! :bee: A belly cast, henna......oh amazing!

[peanutbutter&jelly]

I'm with Zel on this one!! Though don't expect anyone to ACTUALLY not bring presents.
For goodness sake, Brett, you know, possibly the worlds most disorganised person when it comes to presents, has told me I can basically buy whatever I like for you :laughing: :goodvibes:

[Baldie's Mum]

I'm with Zel on this one!! Though don't expect anyone to ACTUALLY not bring presents.
For goodness sake, Brett, you know, possibly the worlds most disorganised person when it comes to presents, has told me I can basically buy whatever I like for you :laughing: :goodvibes:


See but MJ, i dont expect anyone to buy presents...and i dont want a shower for the prezzies. More about a thank you for me to say to all of my family and friends for the love and support they have shown josh and i! :yes:

[peanutbutter&jelly]

Oh, I completely agree.
Just don't get irritated when everyone does show up with pressies :) Your little baldie could be changed 12 times a day and probably still not go through all of his/her stuff!

I think 3 small gatherings would be nice hon, if it were me, I'd also be more relaxed with smaller gatherings, less to stress about etc :) If that helps!

[Baldie's Mum]

Oh 3 ones sounds great.......or 2 actually....1 friends and 1 family!

[Jen3910]

Firstly, congrats on being preggers :0)
It's mostly up to you whether you think you can handle that many people at once

[SimplyMum]

I'd go a BBQ at a park and people bringing their own salads and things. I would also say 'your presense is present enough' but only because it leaves the door open for people to bring presents or not- there not obligated to but they are not not welcomed.
You can also say your thankyou spiel if you like.

[Jen3910]

BBQ @ the park's not a bad idea, particularly if any of the guests already have kids.
Not much they can break/hurt themselves on @ the park, and it keeps them amused.

Weather depending, of course.

[Luckyus]

Im new to all of this! But when i wrote a list for my baby shower i had over 40 people.


To others the amount of people you want to invite may seem extreme. but when i read you have gone through the whole IVF journey... Girl this is more than a baby shower for you and you partner!!


This wouldn't just be a baby shower..but also a time for everyone to celebrate some long awaited great news and the happiness you now feel about becoming a parent.

Im in my early 20s... and i could not imagine what you have gone through.

So i say dont worry if its 15 people or 150 people!

If all these people are ones that have supported you and you want to celebrate with them..then do it!!

and if you get that many presents then half your luck..and people should not feel obliged to give gifts..but its tradition firstly..and up to the individual if they do get you a gift. If people think you invited many people just for gifts then they dont know you very well.

Goodluck with everything..and best wishes xxx

[kuddles]

I had 3 baby showers for the one bubba.

One at my Mum & Dad's, one at DP's Aunts and one at my house.

It worked wonders. Made it more of a celebration where I could actually talk to all my friend's and family. Mine weren't about gifts but about celebrating bub's life.

Do whatever you feel like doing. Celebrate however you feel like it. :)