how do i know

[mytwoangelsC&A]

if i want another baby or just the thrill and :cloud9: of going through birth? Does that make sense, i am not sure if i actually want another child or just want to go through the amazing experience of having a baby again

[2made3]

I know what you mean!

I pondered this for quite a while too. But the thing that made me believe it was a genuine want for another was that months after that initial thought I still could not think of anything else!! I became obsessed with it.

So, alas, #3 is due in a couple of weeks. My friends with 2 think I'm mad!

I talked to everyone about it too to make absolutely sure it's something I really wanted. Other mother's said they felt the urge but it passed after a week or so, then would come back, only to disappear again. They were sure that at the end of the day, what they had was more than enough - and couldn't imagine having to "go through it all" again.

Whereas I felt a longing to go through it all again - the good and the ugly IYKWIM.

Give yourself some time. That will tell you soon enough :yes: Good luck!!!

[alexsmom]

I am in EXACTLY the same position as you... I have two(similar ages as well!) and youve described exactly how I feel! I love the anticiaption of having a baby, the new bubs, getting the two lines... but kids are hard work!! I think Ive decided I definitely want another baby but not another kid. not sure how its going to work LOL!!!

obviously I have no advice to give, but im glad to know there are others like me :)

[NUBA]

I thought i was just being silly, but I have become obsessed with having another 1 too!!

I've even started pulling out ds's old baby clothes and stuff, and then both dp and i look and go "aww that is so cute":yelclap:

we're definitely on the same page to have another one, but on the days when ds is being a little brat, i wonder how i will actually cope with 2 or more..

i love it that ds is becoming a little mumma's boy tho!! he just loves helping these days, sweeping is his favourite.. sweep, sweep, sweep.. cutie. :smiliedance:

still, ttc and im sure i'll be fine when the time is right.. :fingerscrossed:

[Out To Pasture]

Yep, I am totally in the same boat.

I think, am I ready for another one? I know I shouldn't think about it, I think I do!
But WAIT, do I want another baby? Or do I just miss the excitement of being pregnant?

I have no idea how to answer any of those questions. But I honestly, can't stop thinking about it. My son is 6 months old! And I never thought in the world, I'd ever warm up to being pregnant again. But I look back on it now, and get all clucky thinking about the ultrasounds and the first kick, heartbeat. Finding out the sex, and picking names!

Have NO idea how to handle it, or who to talk to, cause everyone would think I was crazy!

[gidygirl]

since i was little i've always wanted 4... so far i've got 1 and 1 now otw... we might stop after we have 3 but that will be a decision we will have to make at that time...

your mum might be a good person to talk to or dp's mum. but its really a decision you and your hubby need to make. it took hubby nearly 3 years to decide we'd try for a second and then it surprised us... we were ttc and nothing was happening so i went back to work and then after 5 months of working it accidentally happeded:D and were so excited. funny thing is ds knew before we did he kept coming and touching my tummy ( we thought it was somthing he picked up at school)

[kel262]

HI,
I have the same feeling right now. DS has just turned 1 and it feels like we "should" be trying for No 2 now, but I dont know if I could cope, particularly on a bad day! When I think about how excited we were with my pregnancy i would love to do it all again, but then i think about having a newborn and a toddler :hair: and it freaks me out a little.
I feel a little more pressure also in that If we have a 2nd baby, I dont really want a huge age gap, but since we did IVF to concieve DS, we dont know how long it would take to concieve another. It might happen straight away, naturally or it could take ages with IVF. SO do we start trying now or wait?? Such a mixed bag of emotions. I really hope we fall by Accident, then the decision is made for us!!