Things have started!!!!!

[FOURtunate]

On Wednesday I went for my first of two Counselling Sessions at SIVF. I was apprehensive, as C and A had been the day before, and had become quite emotional during their session. I had to fill out and sign a form, then the questions started firing at full speed.

I must admit that I did become emotional, and really hadn't prepared myself for some of the scenarios that the Counsellor put forward. Would I feel used at the end? What if C and A feel that they no longer want to retain contact? How would I feel if the process is unsuccessful?

And, when you answer these q's, the Counsellor wants to know the reasoning behind them. It is very hard to describe to somebody why I want to donate my eggs to C. Nobody understands that I want to do this for her, and for A, just because I want to.

Some of you know that I was presented with an offer from C and A, of a rather large gift (not monetary). When I tell people that I refused, they simply cannot believe it! Now all I hear is "What are you getting out of it". I wish I knew how to answer that.

All I know is that, Counselling has made me more determined to see this through. And I am even more convinced that C and I are a perfect match!

This Week:
Tuesday - Ultrasound
Wednesday - 2nd Counselling Appointment
Friday - Nursing Interview and Joint Counselling Session

Aaaaaaaarrrrgggghhhhh!!!!! :smiliedance:

[PMS]

Hi angeldoula. Excellent news; and well done for standing your ground and getting through your first counselling session.
What do you get when you donate to C and A? Friends for life, the satisfaction in yourself that you can help them create a new life; the list could go on! If people cant grasp the fact that this gift of eggs is exactly that; a gift then I dont think you can say anything to explain it to them.
Anyway; well done hon. The best of luck for your next counselling session and your other appointments.

Take care, Peta

[mauve]

Hi Angeldoula
Just popping in to say I think you've done well. :thumbsup: How can you explain such a priceless gift? As a potential recipient, I know I can't explain to anyone outside the ED community just what that gift means. So, can completely understand where you're coming from when it comes to your reasons for just 'knowing' it's what you want to do.
Good luck with the rest of your appointments this week. That's all the red tape formalities out of the way and hopefully you can just get down to the 'real' stuff.
Good luck.

[jenmatt]

Good on you for having such altruistic reasons. I guess all you can do is be honest at the sessions because it shows your true feelings.

Good luck for your joint counselling session, may it go well.

Jen

[ace_rarity_girl]

Hi Angeldoula,

Thanks for posting about your experience thus far! Hopefully I will soon be going through the process at SIVF (I'm the recipient) and will direct my potential donor to your posts cos I'm sure she'd find it helpful to have some idea of the questions they ask at counselling.

All the very best of luck and look forward to hearing your story!

Cheers,

Ace

[FOURtunate]

Hi Everybody

Today I went for my Ultrasound at Sydney Ultrasound for Women. Busting to go to the loo, and with an internal probe making matters worse, the Sonogragher asked me if I was already on Fertility drugs. Ummmm not yet. Why? So she went off to get the dr.

I was feeling pretty gross, and a little bit concerned. Turns out I have more follicles than normal (I am a freak. No wonder I'm always knocked up). The sonographer asked me to count the follicles with her. We both came up witht he same number - 29. Is that more than I should have?

As soon as I walked out of the office, I phoned C and told her it was over. Hopefully when we get the results we can actually start dreaming about this baby.

On Friday I am meeting C's Sisters and Niece. I hope that they don't make a big deal of me. I am starting to feel bad every time C and A call me their angel, and that I am special etc etc It's nice, but I'm not doing anything that anybody else wouldn't do if they got to know C and A.

So now I'm waiting for Dr Livingstone to call me with the results and the go ahead.

Counselling tomorrow. :no:
Nursing Interview Friday. :yes:
Joint Counselling Friday! ::no:

[babydreams]

Wow Angeldoula, you are what's known amongst we who struggle to conceive as a "freaky fertile"! LOL But seriously, it's wonderful to hear that things have begun and that you are so excited.

What an amazing person you are. As a soon-to-be recipient I am constantly blown away and very touched by the generosity of our beautiful donors. It's one thing to go through the indignities of IVF on your own behalf, but to do it selflessly for another is truly special. I see you've experienced the joys of the internal ultrasound...or as we call it in the trade, "dildo cam" :p

Our donor has also recently had her first counselling session with SIVF over the phone (she lives interstate). I was exceedingly anxious about it because ealier this year we had a different donor lined up who went to her first counselling session, freaked out and changed her mind. You can imagine my worry! Anyhow, it seems to have gone well with our donor-angel and made her think about all the possible scenarios, which is important. Babysteps towards our babydream.

Thank you for sharing your experiences, I'm sure there are many Bubhub members (and lurkers...we know you're there!) who are very keen to follow your journey. It can only help to educate and promote understanding about the issues involved as well as to support you, which is the main thing.

Rest assured that we'll be here to cheer you on. Here's your own little personal cheer squad.....
"Give us an "A" ............ "ayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy" :smiliedance:
"Give us an "N" ............ " eennnnnnnnnnnn" :smiliedance:
"Give us a "G"............... " geeeeeeeeeeeee" :smiliedance:

Well, you get the picture

Best of luck...hope the news from Dr Dreamboat is good.

Babydreams xx

[FOURtunate]

Hi Aijent -

I would phone Sydney IVF, and speak to the Donor Coordinator Nurse. I would also speak with your GP. It would be best to find out if you are able to donate before you fall inlove with a recipient. Of course, you never know if you can do it until you are already in full swing, but it certainly makes more sense to get the basic info earlier in the piece. Please keep in touch, and keep me updated on where you are at!

Hello My Babydreams Babydreamer -

You are by far my biggest Cheerleader. Thanks so much for all of the encouragement you have given me over the past few months. You know I am cheering for you too :hugs: I PROMISE to keep you updated throughout the entire process. And, so glad you have your angel.

P.S. mmmmmm Dr Dreamboat :yes: