Toilet training under2-how did you do it?

[Kimbles]

with all the different tecniques out there, I can honestly say I am confused! dd is 20 months and we started a week ago, and i just took her out of nappies and let her be nude cos she was showing all the signs. she used the potty and only made 2 mistakes on the first day. day 2 was great also as she started going by herself. DAY 3- REFUSED TO GO NEAR POTTY AND MADE A HUGE AMOUNT OF MESSES! I really tried too stay calm but she wouldnt go near the potty. so I then introduced m andms! now if she sits on there for a while she gets a treat and loads of praise when a wee comes. now we seem to be back on track but I dont want to take her out yet and we are too afraid to go out. I am hating this period and want it to be over but dont want to go backwards. am I on the right track? how did you do it? any advise?:confused::confused::confused::confused:

[V8]

Firsty i wouldn't worry about them being 'trained' at this age, my DS is also 20 months. Lots of nappy free time here, he knows where the toilet is and gets the seat out and puts it on the toilet and will happily do a wee and poo when he needs to. I just let him do it, he's been going since he was 16 months old, not in full time jocks or anything cause i can't find any small enough, but i'm just letting him go with the flow and not rush him. I find that he doesn't wee much overnight either so he's got great control.

I think it should be more about familiarisation then actually training. My first DS didn't go till he was 3, we tried every few months and he would not have a bar of getting anywhere near the toilet, even though he took so long to finally do it, he only took 3 days and he was toilet trained through the day, night times he still isn't but this is the last packet of nappies i buy him then he'll have to start wearing jocks, he turned 4 in Nov. Don't stress or worry about what other kiddies are doing as i would worry so much with DS1 and they do eventually get the hang of it :D

[Mum2Imi]

Hi,

I am going through the same as you kimbles going down the path of the whole toliet training. I am about to start training my dd who will be 18 months soon and is showing all the signs. I do believe there is alot of pressure out there to tt your child by a certain age i agree with you V8 they need to do it in there own time. They have little minds of their own and they know when they are ready to learn.

[davisbabyblues]

I am so glad I am not alone...although, Kimbles, you are pretty darn lucky! My DD is 21 months and I am trying to potty train her, because she has just had such severe nappy rash, that I decided to bite the bullet and try and get her used to panties......

She has not made a single trip to the potty voluntarily! I even put the potty near where we were playing, because by the time we got her to the potty and her pants off, she was all done!

This is day 4 now and still no progress and no support from my husband, he is happy for me to potty train her, but doesn't understand how stressful it is!

So, being peed on a few times during the day and still not wanting to go to the potty, even though she is dancing around and I know she needs to wee, or she will tell me she has got poos....but won't do them on the potty.....

I am interested in listening to all the advice and see how other people cope. It is not so much as I am desperate, but more that, if I am going to do it, I might as well do it properly.....and if it means no more nasty nappy rash, then that would be great too.... I just don't know how people do it though. With my DS I stop started with him all the time, but when I put my mind to it, I did it for 2 weeks, until he eventually cottoned on to the whole potty training thing, but we had several previous attempts at it and he was older...so right now I just wonder, is she still too young, is she not going to get it, am I just wasting my time.

Sorry to hi-jack your thread Kimbles, but I am interested in listening to positive stories with children my daughers age or younger.

[Kimbles]

my girl just turned 20 months this week, and we have been toilet training for 8 horrible days now. the first few were great but now she only goes on the potty after a good wee on the carpet! she just doesnt seem to be getting it and it is sooooo stressfull. I have to constantly be with her and I find it so hard not to get dissapointed or angry with her. I have just had a baby and quite often she just wees infront of me when im feeding! I think im going to put her back into her cloth nappies and try again in a few weeks. I was determined not to go backwards and to persist but this is going nowhere and stressing us both out. I dont want her to feel anxious about toileting. I am tired and deflated!:no:

[missie_mack]

Perhaps try the pilcher style training pants so she realises how unpleasant it is. Nurture nappies sell them. Otherwise at this age it does take time and often involves putting them on the toilet by the clock which ends up training you more than them

[sweetseven]

My lil one is almost twelve months old and is showing an interest in the potty.

In the morning, I'll take her nappy off, then give her a feed, after which she sits on the potty and normally does a rather large wee. Lots of praise, then breakfast, then back on the potty again, and often she'll do a bowel motion.

She gets some nappy free time, and some time in a nappy, during the day, with the potty out in the living area. If she shows interest in the potty, then she'll be placed on it (and nappy removed) which seems to have about a 50% chance of her producing something for the potty.

We do have messes, which is why nappy free time is limited to the hard floors, and she always has a nappy on the carpet.

She is in no way toilet traned, and still learning the assosiations. My girls all started off this way, and were toilet trained (daytime) around 13 months.

Another thing I used to do when she was younger (around 9-10 months), is when I went to the toilet, I would sit her on the potty outside the open door, facing me (sometimes even still wearing her nappy). It was just to encourage the assosiation with the potty, and also to keep her still whilst I was attending to myself. And no, she was unlikely to produce anything at these times.

[Kimbles]

she loved to sit on her potty with me on the loo until we started training. she even grabs toilet paper und wipes herself and tries to do me! she insists on wearing knickers, even over her nappy! she just hates the potty now, hopefully we can start again in a few weeks. today she went back into nappies and we actually spent some lovely time together with out me asking if she needed to wee a billion times and her getting upset over accidents. this is soooooo hard! what the hell do you do if your a working mum? im onto it 24 7 and it sux big time. I cant remember how my son learnt 9 years ago, but it was easier than this!!! when she wees on the floor she gets paper towels and cleans it up, if she can do that why cant she use the potty!LOL!

[iamLilysmummy]

hii..

my DD is 2 n a half and toilet trained day and night at 26 months..

i didnt use the potty. just the toilet. i got her a special seat.. sticker chart.. and lots of praise..

in the day time she wore knickers. nappys at night. even tho she would wet herself 10 times a day.. i still kept to it..

there no problem going to shopping centres and that. coz they have kids toilets.. and just take a change of clothes.. or many changes of clothes..

i suggest knickers so she noes that shes wet. and it feels yuck. take her every hour. and ask if she needs to wee..

im lucky tho. my DD was ready at about 18 months..i had 8 months of wet knickers, frustration and suprise... and magically at 26 months. she toilet trained herself fully day and night. its now been 4 months and she is doing so well. mayb have a accident twice a week. wen shes not quick enuf to go to the toilet.. :) so proud

so goodluck and i hope u can be lucky to and she trains herself quickly..

[iamLilysmummy]

1 more thing..
i also made a huge thing if she done a poo or wee on the toilet..

if she done a poo. i would be like "oh wow, thats a big one" or "did u hear that" or "ooh is there any more.. ohh"
i felt like a idiot doing it and it seem to make her continue her bussiness.. LOL

and mayb sing to them.. make up a song!!

[Sarahlou]

I started introducing my DD ( at her instigation) to the toilet at around 20 months and putting her on the toilet throughout the day when she asked - but she seemed to just want to play and read rather than actually do anything. My husband always gets her up and noticed that she was generally dry in the morning so started sitting her straight on the loo first thing and she would generally do a big wee (toilet seat rather than potty). Then we all got viruses including the runs and then Christmas/NY arrived etc and after all the excuses ran out and she had turned 2 (3 weeks ago) I bit the bullet and just stopped putting her in nappies. She spent a day in some towelling training pants but I reall think they are too absorbent and she didn't actually even realise she was wetting herself so we went to a nudey bum or normal knickers. Ther was a good 2 days where she did not one wee in the toilet but by the end of the second day she was telling me as she was doing it - which seemed to be progress!! I continue to out her on the toilet (inluding while out and in pull-ups) periodically if she hasn't asked and gradually she is doing more of the asking than I am which is a positive step. Actually far fewer accidents than I expected with very few wee's in her pants and only 2 poos in the wrong spot - all occaision she asked to go but it was too late!!
We used books on the toilet in the early days to encourage her to stay there long enough and of her own accord she has now ditched them and gets straight down to business!! I feel quite positive about it so far and it's actually not nearly so terrible as I had anticipated - and very rewarding!! Good luck!