Super Nanny Technique

[Lisawa]

Has anyone tried the super nanny technique to get child to stay in bed, sit in the room with head down and daily gradually move further and further away till your at the door?

I am worried that it may create the need to have us in her room to fall asleep.

Its not only bedtime that is the issue, as she wakes maybe 2-3 times a night and wont go back to bed by herself.

Thanks

[BlessedWithBlue]

Well i don't watch super nanny but when i was trying to get my ods to stay in his bed at 2 years old (he's almost 3 now) i would stand near him but face towards the door so my back was towards him and i would get closer to the door every night. When i actually got to the door i would just sit there for a few minutes with my back towards him until he got drowsy then i would creep out and he wouldn't notice i was gone. Although he never woke up during the night so i am not sure what i would have done in that situation?

[sopolicha]

I wouldn't trust the methods of any women who leaves a child screaming and alone in their bedroom until they vomit.

[jessgray]

nope havent tried it. i have seen some of techniques like reward charts used well before her show came on tv lol.
i cant do controlled crying (i'm a softie) as ds gets that worked up he vomits and will have an asthma attack. i rather him want a cuddle then be stressing out coz he is spewing and crying :(

[BlessedWithBlue]

I wouldn't trust the methods of any women who leaves a child screaming and alone in their bedroom until they vomit.

Oh no! that's awful, i never have seen this show 'cause we don't have aerial for regular tv that connects to the foxtel. I'm a softie too lol just can't stand to hear the kids cry :( and i would certainly never leave them in their rooms til they vomited :(

[Lisawa]

I have honestly never seen her leave a child to cry but then I have not watched all of the shows.

The stay in bed routine is quite story time, in bed/cot tuck in say goodnight and sit on the floor, head down and no eye contact, if they get out take them back and sit down again. after a few nights move a little further away etc.

[Lisawa]

I have honestly never seen her leave a child to cry but then I have not watched all of the shows.

The stay in bed routine is quite story time, in bed/cot tuck in say goodnight and sit on the floor, head down and no eye contact, if they get out take them back and sit down again. after a few nights move a little further away etc.

[jessgray]

i have seen an episode where a child got that upset at bedtime they vomited. i felt so sorry for the parents coz you could tell they were pretty upset by it all

[the_queen]

I think that if a parent gets their parenting advice from a TV SHOW then they should probably re-evaluate their priorities.

I hate watching SN, ever since I saw an episode where the parents had co-slept with their child all it's life and SN comes in and says "right that's not asseptable, child must be in 'is own cot" and this 2 yr old was screaming "mummy i want you" over and over and over and SN made the mother sit on the floor and listen to it. :crying: SN did not even suggest that perhaps there are ways to make co-sleeping less stressful for mum, she didn't even acknowledge that it is an option for night-time. She doesn't have children of her own - she doesn't even have childcare qualifications! She has a funny accent, she's commercially viable, and THAT is why she has a TV show.

[jessgray]

i remember that episode. i often tell DP i would love to see SN work her "magic" with a bunch of teens lol

[the_queen]

I must admit though, now that I'm thinking about it, I did see one episode where there was a little girl who was an absolute terror, and it was basically because her parents didn't know what to do with her. She was biting, screaming, tantruming - and she was 9 or 10 years old (or thereabouts). Remember? She corrected SN's words LOL. Anyway SN was just really gentle and didn't react when she bit and hit her, she acknowledged the girls feelings and empathised with her, and eventually the girl did seem to get what she needed, ie positive attention and real love.

I still hate the "naughty corner/step/mat/room" stuff. I think she starts with the "time out" strategy WAY too young.


See, I said I hate watching SN but the truth is I do watch her, sometimes I think she's done well and other times I just yell at the TV. I do think that the focus should not be on the "terrible children/little monsters" etc, it should be on the way the parents have "failed" (for want of a better word). Because SN is not really there to "whip the kids into shape"; she's there to teach the parents how to parent their children effectively. Which I still think she can't do properly, seeing as she doesn't have children. She can teach adults how to nanny their children, she can't teach them how to parent their children.

[bindiloo]

I believe Lisawa simply asked had anyone tried the technique she is talking about not what you all think about it and trying to make her feel like a horrible person for wishing to give that SN technique a go.

If its something you'd like to try Lisawa then give it a go,its your child and how you wish to raise them is your business. I dont think it is going to kill your child and lets face it SN cant be that bad,she has her own tv show the rest of us dont.:thumbsup:

[the_queen]

Just because something isn't going to kill your child, doesn't make it good for the child.

But point taken, so in response to the OP: I have never tried that technique because I've never had a problem with staying with my children until they fall asleep. :)

[bindiloo]

It was a figure of speech;)

[kirstenriley]

Hi, we put DS in bed and stand by the bed so he can see us, but we dont respond when he sits up and talks, every couple of minutes we move closer to the door. He soon realises that is definately sleep time and lays down again. We try to leave the room before he is actually asleep so he doesnt get too used to us in there. Mind you this doesnt always work (nothing ever does), but its definately worth a go.

P.S-sometimes this takes 5 minutes, sometimes 20-30 minutes

:thumbsup:

[Elijahsmama]

I think supernanny's way is a good one if you are prepared to do it correctly and know that it wont happen overnight. I hav'nt had sleep problems with DS but he will still cry to sleep every now and again, i just dont have a problem listening to it! But i am a nanny and the parents got a child sleep therapist in when they were 12mths old and she basically went over the same things as SN does. I dont think anyone humane (sp) would leave a child to vomit and then not do anything, i knew a girl at the daycare who would vomit everytime she cried so it's not that serious in some children.
Goodluck.

[sopolicha]

its your child and how you wish to raise them is your business. I dont think it is going to kill your child and lets face it SN cant be that bad,she has her own tv show the rest of us dont.:thumbsup:

Damn straight bindiloo it is Lisawa's call and she was asking for opinions and she is getting them.

Just because this woman has her own television show, doesn't mean she is right.