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Sheer Bliss
19-01-2010, 19:53
8month old DD2 won't go to sleep pretty much unless she has a boob in her mouth. And if I try and put her in the cot too soon she wakes, if I keep her with me, the noise from the other kids wakes her, or DS2 wakes and I need to disturb her to feed him.

I had a tresillian nurse here a couple of months ago, and we had her re-settling herself OK, but now she is back to the same old thing. It is driving me crazy. It is so hit and miss, if i get her at the right time, she can sleep for 2hrs (IMO proving she CAN self-settle). A couple of times she has woken while i an feeding DS so I left her a couple of minutes as he was almost finished (the lessor of 2 evils, as otherwise i'd have had them both awake at night) and she went back to sleep for another hour. Now I try the patting/shhing tequniques we used and they don't work. She developed the same dependance on patting she had on rocking, and now on the boob. I don't want to CC her, although have a couple of times when DH was at work and I had the other 3 to get off to sleep, and I was just so desperate.

I don't know what else to do with her. She hasn't had longer than 30mins sleep in the day for ages, and as a result is sooooo tired and wakes 2-4times a night (and not at the same times DS2 is waking, so I am up about 6 times) We can't co-sleep as we often have DD1 &/or DS1 come into our bed at some time, and I don't trust them not to roll on her, and I am getting up a couple of times a night to feed DS2 anyway - so she'd probably be disturbed then anyway.

What on earth can I do? Patting, rocking, shhing, feeding and combining all of the above have not worked so far.....

Sheer Bliss
22-01-2010, 11:55
bumpity bump...

Any suggestions? :hissy:

SuperGranny
22-01-2010, 12:15
hi charlismum, Im just thinking what I was doing when my girls were eight months. They were having three meals a day, so could you just increase the amount of veg or whatever. would a dummy be a thought, ?? might help to just settle, it shouldnt be too hard to get rid of it later. I think the little one it too old now to swaddle, but it might work. There isnt much else, the patting and shushing can sometimes work. I dont think it is hunger, but just comfort feeding. you will know best, Marie.

mum2alex1
22-01-2010, 17:57
I feel for you I have a 6 month old (yes only one!) who is dependant on the boob for sleep we got a full 1hr 50mins over night last night. Yes that was the biggest sleep other than that it was every 1hr 5min or as little as 45 mins! Cant imagine having that little sleep and having other kids to look after.

So really i cant offer any advice to help just wanted to let you know you are not alone and hopefully we will all get there eventually!

Hope it gets better soon for you :hugs: