update on bullying at pre school

[suemp]

well for those that read my previous post my son has been bullied at school to the point of on school days he cries from the moment he wakes up till the time i leave him at pre school, and i was less than impressed with his teachers responce when i approached them about it.

anyway the day after i approached the teachers the main bully was spoken to and he was told to appologise to my ds. but today when i dropped ds at pre school my friend came up to me after we left and said did you see what the bully did to her son and his friends this morning. i hadnt as we were running late, so she told me the 3 friends were trying to get on a tyre swing and the bully punched one of the boys fair in the face and scratched my friends son (all these boys are in the other pre school class) and a teacher saw and told the boy off but IMO shouldnt a punch in the face warrent time out? it made me furious that they obviously know this boy is trouble and are doing nothing.

i got the schools principals email address today and am about to send him a email..a bit woosy i know but if i talk to him i know i wont really say what i want to say. wish me luck :fingerscrossed:

[sunnyflower]

i think that is pretty poor on behalf of the school,personally i would be really hesitant to even leave my child in a school that doesn't have an anti bullying policy.i hope you sort this problem out.have you spoken to the mothers involved?

[xkwzit]

Hey Sue
Don't feel like a wuss for writing down your thoughts and emailing, rather than speaking to the principal in person. It will help you to be really clear and not leave anything out. You can also make sure its not emotional. I think that writing is the best way to communicate, especially if you are a bit angry.

If I get angry and frustrated, I always cry - and I hate that so much. You can't take a grown woman seriously when she's sobbing her eyes out.

At least once you've put down your thoughts and he/she has read them, you've had some time to process, they won't be as raw to you either. It's also a handy record if you get nowhere with the school and need to escalate to the next level.

Best of luck

[Elfin]

Sue I think the way I would approach is, email the principal but don't go into the ins and outs of the issues just say you would like to arrange a meeting to discuss it further. You just need to be careful what you put in writing.

I hope you sort it out and bullying just must not be tolerated.

[mich71]

good luck with everything talking to the director of the preschool is the best way to go but as a mum with kids in school from primary to high school not enough is done only in high school are they jumped on that hard it really does sink in that there doing something wrong

[talon]

while the email is a good idea, I would still recommend making an appointment with the principal.

I reckon if you are worried that you aren't going to be able to say everything you want to to the principal's face, then write out the email and send it (that way you tell him/her what's what) but also at the end request an appointment to discuss it further and to discuss what options can be/will be taken to sort this out.

This behaviour is totally unacceptable! Good luck with it.

[suemp]

i sent principal an email leaving my phone number. he called back and has organised a meeting tuesday before class with me, the principal and jakes teacher (the head of preschool) i so dont know what to expect and i know his teacher will make it out to be trivial making me look stupid. :o

[PhAnToM]

I would get your friend who witnessed the punch to come along to that meeting.
Can't suggested that TWO parents who have children who have experienced bullying and witnessed physical assault of their child, to be trivial.

Really, if you go in there saying "another parent saw... and told me" they will dismiss it and say "obviously she wasn't concerned enough about it if it happened, cos she has fronted up about it." iykwim.

It's crazy, but unless you have numbers, generally all places will try to cover themselves by suggesting you are being trivial, otherwise they would have dealt with an issue like that.

Good luck and go in knowing you are in the right to protect your child. If your son suddenly stops wanting to go to school, there is a reason for it. If they don't think it's a bullying issue, then they should be able to provide an alternative reason, since your son is not happy going into their care!