I would like to be a surrogate

[SunshineCoast]

This topic has been on my mind ever since my class discussed in when I was in year 11 at school. I'm 21 now and I have 2 beautiful daughters, my eldest is nearly 3 and my youngest is 6 months, I have been with their father for 6 years in September. Although I know that I'm not finished having a family, I do think that having a baby of my own just now is too soon for me. I don't know where to start looking for information on surrogacy, so I thought I'd ask what others thought first. I don't smoke or drink and both my pregnancies and births have been trouble free. I think having a baby is a blessing and the pregnancy and birth is just Amazing, I'm honoured to have my 2 little girls and my heart goes out to other women who can't have children, that's why I'd like to help. I'm situtated on the sunshine coast in Queensland so if anyone has some info or has any opinions or advice please feel free to let me know.

[Pinkzy]

I don't have any advice or know much about surrogacy, but I just wanted to say that I think it takes a very loving, open, caring and strong individual to offer to do something so selfless for another person. I think it's just beautiful and really respect and commend you for wanting to help others who can't have children of their own.

I hope you get some helpful replies with lots of advice about being a surrogate and wish you all the luck in the world in being able to help someone else have a child :)

[charli100]

Hi Sunshine Coast

I dont know much abour surragacy, or legalities of it all. But my husband and I are at the stage that surgacey may be our last hope. You must be an amazing person to even think of doing it all. how does your family feel about it?

:yelclap:

[moozle]

Wow, what an amazing gift to offer someone. I have no idea where to go to get information but I'd assume you could call a fertility specialist in your area? They would at least be able to point you in the right direction. I think it take such a giving, strong person to do this - good on you for even considering it! :thumbsup:

[SunshineCoast]

Thankyou all for your replies. It's all only in the early stages thus far, i'm trying to get ad much information possible then put it to my partner. Just after I first posted I mentioned the subject to him, and he didn't seem keen, but i'm pretty sure it's because he doesn't understand or know anything about surrogacy, to be honest he probably thinks that I would carry a baby for complete strangers that we've never met, that in the end we could be left to raise someone elses child ect. He doesn't understand how it all works so that Is why i'd like to get all my information together then put it to him again.
I couldn't imagine not being able to have children, it would feel as if I had no purpose in life, it would break my heart, so I'm thinking, well I can have children, and I've been blessed with 2 already, so why not make other peoples dream come true and help them have children.
Once again if anyone has any information that'd be great, especially on the process of becoming a surrogate, being a surrogate or if this has become an option that you are looking at what is your personal during the process and wishes for the birth ect. Feel free to pm for a more private way to communicate. Thanks.

[bfkel]

Claire, there was a committee that put a proposal to QLD govt about decriminalising surrogacy in QLD. It was the same as a private adoption.

I don't think it has actually passed and the new laws written but it is in progress. So that is good news.

You're right about NSW though. We're in grey law. No laws covering it so that means no laws banning it.

Commonwealth law says that commercial surrogacy is illegal so that one is valid everywhere in Aust. It just means parents can't pay a fee to a surrogate. There's some leeway with compensation for wages, medical fees, clothing, child care etc but it's not very clear.

Sunshine, there a 2 different kinds of surrogate. Do you know which one you'd be comfortable with? Could you donate your egg as well as your womb? (A traditional surro) Or babysit a bub not genetically related? (A gesational surro).