Just dont deserve it

[heymamma]

Ok so we are doing a cleanup in our house ...i mean the whole house & garage.
So anyway i went out the backyard to clean up all the toys..& i was so frustrated at the kids...mainly alyssa & phoenix cause ethan doesnt know better....But there was toys out there that should not be outside toys...now they have left them in places i couldnt see & it had rained over night...so now i had to throw them out....Im talking expensive toys here!!
I also found a bratz bag which contains all of DD's dolls clothes & accesories. I said to her "What is this doing out here? Now its all ruined & muddy!" She said "Oh well i dont care i dont play with that anyway!" :eek:
I said "So i dont care Alyssa you cant just treat things like that....there is so many kids out there in the world that would love to have just 1 of the toys you have & you couldnt even apprecitate one of them".

But i couldnt belive the amount of stuff they had taken outside & ruined in the rain...i just bought Phoenix these superman books the other day as he is crazy bout superman...& of course what did i find out there...the superman books!!!:mad:

I said to DD "well i think i know what i have to do here: She said "What?"... I told her " Well i will have to inform santa not to bring anything to this house as the children here dont deserve toys" I was shocked at her reply..it was "Oh well ok then"
I cant win!!
Do you think i was to harsh?

[KarniF00l]

hmm.. why does that sound all too familiar :rolleyes: My kids do the same thing hon and i dont think it was harsh at all what you said to your DD. By the sounds of it she is testing you and probably has it in her head that you will give in and there will be christmas.

[heymamma]

Yep...i think she is to the age now...where she knows she will get somthing for xmas...if not off santa from family.

[porridge]

Go through their toys together and ones that they don't want, give them to charity, or maybe you could go shopping together at christmas and buy a gift for a child on one of those christmas trees (kmart, target have them I think) -

I don't think you were being harsh, it would be annoying to find so much stuff outside, especially if it's expensive :banghead:

[KarniF00l]

:yes: spot on :thumbsup:


Looks like you'll have to think of something else as punishment lol

[LilShenanigans]

Just do what my 'evil' mother used to do, anything I left out or on the floor she chucked in a bag and said she threw it out, if I didn't ask about certain things she gave them to St Vinnies... Can't say I missed that rubix cube!! lol

On the thought of the KMart/Target wishing tree thing, keep it going, at Christmas time tell your kids that because they didn't pick up all their toys, your buying them new ones .... To give to someone else!! :devil6:

LOL It's completely evil but as someone with this type of upbringing I ended up as a 20yo going through a lot of nice toys I had as a kid to give to my brothers and now my daughter!!

[*Chels*]

oh kel.kids aye?:rolleyes:
i dont think you were being harsh.kids have to learn if they dont look after their stuff it will get ruined and they wont get any new stuff!!
I would take away their stuff so they learn you are serious:devil6:

[heymamma]

Ok yep Kel serious mum here look out kiddies!! :eek:

[reAllytee]

You could always teach them a real lesson & thats getting them to pack up some of the toys & actually take them into the salvos or vinnies. This teaches them real consequences harsh yes but sometimes thats what kids need to be shown.
Im so looking forward to this stage .... Honestly i am :rolleyes:
I just repeat to myself " parenting is rewarding " im just hoping one day i actually believe it :p ;)

[mumslilspunks]

I agree with the others.
'back in my day'(:laughing: ) my mum would just take all my toys of me and wouldnt give them back till i 'earned' them or she would always say that she is giving them to other kids who dont have toys who will look after them.

[Angelmist♥]

Oh mate, I'm going through exactly the same thing at the moment.The boys really just do not care about their toys and it drives me crazy.We weren't given much as kids so I suppose when we were, we looked after it.

I think I'm going to do what Allyoo suggested!I try and tell them about other kid's in this world who don't get anything and they just shrug it off or don't understand.I have been thinking about sponsoring a child too, so they can see a real person with nothing.

Anyway if anyone else has some more suggestions please let me know!I don't want my kids growing up to be spoilt brats.

[heymamma]

Yeah DH said to me whilst we were at the toy sale ...why dont you get one of those brat dolls for alyssa...because there where these bratz dolls..called midnight dance or somthing..& i thought they were so awesome they look like lil goth dolls...they rock...but she doesnt take care of them...so i said nahhh forget it.:shame:

[Ana Gram]

I am incredibly mean, so I would have gone a bit further and cleared out her room of all toys and taken away ALL privliges. No TV, no food treats, nothing to do, nothing to watch, nothing fun to eat. But I am mean.

[mumoftwoboys2005]

When DS#1 got a gameboy for his birthday last year, I bought him a little back pack to put his assorted gameboy games etc in. He was told to put the gameboy back in the backpack every time he was finished playing. Most of the time he doesn't so I have taken to putting it on a shelf that he can see but can't reach. He goes looking and I tell him where it is. He can see but can't reach. Cracks him up to no end, but he's learning his lesson. I am also going to put parental restriction pin numbers on the foxtel. That will fix him and his dad. :laughing: (cackling with evil laughter)