Awful night

[Hokey Pokey]

Was in lots of pain, bleeding heavily and all I wanted was to go to bed and cuddle my partner. What does he do, has a friend over and drinks beer like nothing even happened and told me that the world does not revolved around me. I'm not talking to him this morning and right now, I don't even want him anywhere near me. :crying:
I felt so angry last night that I told him to F off and drop dead.:crying:

[Bron]

Oh Kristy, I am so sorry. :hugs:

I think we all deal with things in a different way. Maybe his way of dealing is to pretend nothing actually happened, and although this might help him, it doesn't really help you.

Have you tried telling him, calmly, how this made you feel? Don't tell him that he's done something wrong, because that it argumentative, rather say "last night I felt very sad and lonely and it was very difficult for me" (or whatever you did feel). "I statements" like this are very helpful when you are trying to get your feelings across in a situation like this.

Hugs to you.:hugs:

[InSaneOne]

i just wanted to give you some :hugs: :hugs: :hugs:

[Percy]

Sorry you are going through such a hard time. I hope your DP comes around. I think sometimes they just dont realise how hard it can be on us.

:hugs: :hugs: :hugs:

[~EmsMum~]

oh hunny
i am so sorry
:hugs:

[Adria]

Oh Kristy, im so sorry for you. Sometimes they just have no idea. I hope things pick up for you.:hugs:

[Hokey Pokey]

I told him as soon as he get home. That I was in alot of pain (panadol did nothing) and that I wanted to go lie in bed. He then got on the phone and I whispered to him " you are not having visitors are you?" and he shook his head :no: Then I heard him mention it again and I said Justin please, I want us to be alone .... and he then proceeded to tell me that the world does not revolved around you and told his friend it was "that time of the month"

I do think it was selfish of him, but then again, he is not the one who was in physical pain so what does he understand....

[LA62]

Just wanted to send you Big Hugs:hugs: O&B

Thinking of you & hope things get better soonX

[Tea Lady]

Big :hugs: to you Kristy. Sometimes men just don't get it do they?

[cheezelkat]

:hugs: to you. Sometimes men deal with things in ways that aren't what we like, or expected. :crying:
You poor thing. Is there a close girlfriend somewhere you can give a cuddle too?

[Starlet]

Oh hun *hugs*, men just have no clue do they?

Thinking of u!

[Hokey Pokey]

I only told one friend, we did not tell anyone we were pregnant incase this happened. I just want to be alone anyways while I'm still a bit fragile and teary. A friend called last night and he handed me the phone but I didn't want to talk as it just upsets me more. I didn't expect a big sympathy from him, but would like to have a little space you know what I mean... I didn't want people over because I just wanted to put the kids to bed and go to bedmyself... and have a hug with him.
I didn't mean what I said, of course I didn't but the moment he persisted to go against my wishes it really really upset me and made me so god damned angry.
I will be ok, thankyou for listening and for all the lovely concerns, this is more of a vent to get it off my chest and it has helped. :)

[Mischief]

Oh Kristy, you poor thing! :hugs: I'm sure your DP didnt mean to be so awful, but he is probably dealing with it in his own way.

You have every right to be hurt and upset sweetie. Its you its happening too. I hope you feel better soon!

[Funkychicken]

:hugs: These are the times that we feel most vulnerable and lonely but I honestly don't think a lot of men get that sometimes. When Hamish was 2 weeks old, DH decided to have people over for a BBQ. I asked that it just be a couple of people but it turned into about 20! I was still in my closeted post-birth world and although it was nice to see people, I went to bed at 8pm with the baby.
Keep up the posting Kristy. A problem shared is a problem halved-and in the case of Bubhub, I think we then each get about 0.0000000001 % each. We can cope with that.:D

[~Danni~]

:hugs: :hugs: big hugs to you during this tricky time:hugs: :hugs:

[chicken]

I think you are perfectly entitled to be upset with your DF - that was extremely insensitive and if my DH had done that, I wouldn't speak to him for a year!;)

I know exactly what you're going through, and if I hadn't had the support of my DH at the time, it would have been a million times worse. Big :hugs: to you.

[Briannabear]

Big hugs for you Kristy. :crying: :hugs:

[Kaileysmum]

Oh kristy Im so sorry, big :hugs: and :kiss: for you. Your dp shouldnt have done that, he should have respected your wishes. But thats (some) men for ya!!! You have every right to be upset with him, Id be the same in your situation!!!

[LittleBoysRock]

:hugs: Sometimes men have no idea how difficult things like this can be for us physically and emotionally!! Mother nature is cruel...men get off easy!

Thinking you you!

[Hokey Pokey]

Thanks guys, feels alot better to get it all out :thumbsup:

[kymmy]

:hugs: Kristy.
Sounds like something my husband would say.
I want to cry for you.
How is it that we are selfish for wanting support
but it isn't selfish for them to ignore us and do their own thing?
:banghead:
Sorry this gets me so angry....

[shelle65]

:hugs: :hugs: Kristy I am so sorry you are going through this. Make sure you look after yourself if your DF won't, you definitely deserve some TLC right now :hugs: :hugs:

[Hokey Pokey]

Well I am feeling much better this afternoon than I did this morning which is good. Thanks for the well wishes. :)