Genetics

[Linda01]

hi all,

I havent posted in a long while but i've been hovering. I hope you all had a great Christmas and New Year. I just wanted to get my thoughts out there as I think i'm going mad in my own mind. For those that dont know, my son in nearly 2 and has a chromosome 1 deletion and developmental delay. DH and I have been talking about having another baby, so I arranged an appt with a genetics councillor to put my mind at ease about the possibility of future children having the same condition as my son. They said it is very unlikely however cant guarantee (which i understand, they couldnt guarantee anyone wouldnt have a child with an abnormality) they said however that they do not expect us to have another child with the abnormality. I know it sounds positive and it is but i cant help but worry about it. I guess as its our first child and the first in the family with any condition I cant help but wonder. Maybe if he was the second child and the first was ok it would be different as I would know I was able to have a child that was ok if that makes sense. Anyway I just wanted to get it off my chest, it might help me. I know I def want to have another baby and so does DH its just scary.

[BeatoNo3]

Hi there, It would b scary and I understand your concern. We had our first bub at 26 weeks and he has mutiple disabilites one of which he is profoundly deaf but now has two cohlear implants. We had genetic testing done n nothing came back. However they said with his hearing we have a 1 in 4 chance of having another deaf baby. How 2nd son was born at 42 weeks n a healthy weight n his hearing is fine. But I was so scared when they took him for testing... But more to the point.. DP n I said well if he is deaf or has other disabilites like ds1 then if u can do the road once u can do it twice, no matter how bumpy n hard the road it.. and so be it we did it n he is fine n now we expect our 3rd n final bub in 5 weeks and only time will tell with this little man.... best wishes.. stay positive..


That probably wasnt much help, but just hoping u stay positive....

[Linda01]

thank you so much for your encouraging words. I know we'll give it a try but it will be a very worrying time, especially the first 3 months until we have some test results. Thank you

[gizmoduckus]

I know how you feel. What my DS2 has is genetic and it is possible (especially if we have another boy) that any other children we have, might have it too.

I agree with BeatoNo3, the thing that reassures us is that we have been there before so it will be less daunting if we have to go through it again. We don't ever wish that we didn't have DS2 and I am sure that it would be the same for any other children that we will have.

[Bel1978]

I have just had my ds assessed by his paed it looks like both dd & ds have ASD of some type...

I wouldn't change them for the world