Very hurtful comment :(

[MissMetal]

i dont know if im over reacting as it was probably only a joke (and yes i am quite a sensitive person) but my flatmate yesterday commented on how DS looks like a white ethiopian child :gloomy:
im doing everything i possibly can do get DS to gain weight... and so are the proffesionals :(

[TurnedBatty]

She probably didnt mean it has hurtful, but I get the feeling. I used to get so hurt, and still do, when people make comments about BS'S ribs sticking out. Yeah, it looks gross, nothing is changing it though!

[zephani]

Oh honey that isn't a joke (even if it was meant that way)! That's just plain cruel!

H is lucky to have you and everyone knows how much you do for him and how much you worry about him! Real friends should be supportive! Not making comments like that!

:hugs: :hugs: :hugs:

[MsMummy]

That's a really ignorant comment to make.

Although from your previous posts, she sounds like a moron.

[EmPowering]

even if she was joking thats just plain mean:hugs::hugs:

[JiminyCricket]

Thats horrible, I had my workmate tell me my ultrasound pic looked like an alien and it really ****ed me off.

Does your flatmate have kids? I think some people who are childless have no idea how hurtful comments like that are.

Next time she says it give her some payback, tell her she looks like a oompa loompa or something that would make her feel like ****, then she might think twice about making nasty comments.

[MissMetal]

she has a weird sense of humour...
she thinks amputee's (sp) are hilarious & yesterday while she was out she sent me a text laughing her @ss off saying how funny it was that all these old people were dropping like flies... due to the heat :(

she calls DS starvin marvin :crying:

[MissMetal]

oh yes, she has a 4 year old DD... but regrets having her :(

[MsMummy]

she calls DS starvin marvin :crying:

She doesn't appreciate any irony when she's feeding her child M'n'Ms for breakfast?

From all your previous posts, she sounds quite awful.

[Areca]

You know I have a warped sense of humour and can find some things funny that others simply don't but I would never make a comment like that. We've made it ourselves about DD1, as a bit of a joke and she's just super skinny kid who for a long time had a rather bloated tummy. I'd never say it about someone else's child, especially when I knew they were struggling with weight gain. She sounds like a moron.

[Myztiks#1Fan]

:hugs: what a horrible thing to say to someone, let alone someone you live with. i hope you can get out of there asap to save not only your own sanity but also before little H gets hurt

:hugs:

[MsMummy]

You know I have a warped sense of humour and can find some things funny that others simply don't but I would never make a comment like that. We've made it ourselves about DD1, as a bit of a joke and she's just super skinny kid who for a long time had a rather bloated tummy. I'd never say it about someone else's child, especially when I knew they were struggling with weight gain. She sounds like a moron.

I agree. I have a dark sense of humour, but wouldn't say something like that to another parent, particularly if you know they are sensitive about the weight issues.

[Lillynix]

*sigh* I know EXACTLY how that feels :hugs:

I had MIL say (and SIL agree) to DH and I that DS "looks sickly like one of those third world malnourished kids" when he was a baby.

It was extremely hurtful and all sh*t hit the fan there for a while. Sure he was a skinny baby (5kg at 6 months) but he was healthy at the same time. They all though (they being the in-laws) that I should be bottlefeeding him because obviously my breastmilk wasn't good enough and they didn't think I should continue breastfeeding, especially when *gasp* he was feeding 2 hourly overnight, heaven forbid a baby night wakes for a feed!

Anyway, I don't think you're being oversensitive or overreacting at all. It was an extremely hurtful comment and one that should never have been spoken.

[Lockiesmum09]

:eek::hugs: OMG! What a mean and nasty person she is!! i wouldnt be friends with her anymore! Ask her what makes her DD so perfect?? im sure your DS is just gorgeous no matter how skinny he is :hugs:

xox Cort xox

[sahm]

There is nothing worse than when someone makes a joke at the expense of your child, particularly when it's an area you're already sensitive about, like weight gain.

I know how you feel. Say something if it's something she does on a continuous basis, but maybe she just doesn't realise how much she hurt you.

[lizzymcfizzy]

she has a weird sense of humour...
she thinks amputee's (sp) are hilarious & yesterday while she was out she sent me a text laughing her @ss off saying how funny it was that all these old people were dropping like flies... due to the heat :(

she calls DS starvin marvin :crying:


oh yes, she has a 4 year old DD... but regrets having her :(


what a B!tch
she probably likes the reaction she gets

[RoarsomeMum]

:hugs: Indeed what a B*tch.. and seems to me would make fun of anything..

Don't take it on.. keep up the GREAT work and remember, she is a Mole...

[sockstealingpoltergeist]

She sounds like a person of little brain.

[Ruby Slippers]

even if she was joking thats just plain mean:hugs::hugs:

:iagree::hugs:

[gizmoduckus]

Gees, she sounds like such a nice person...:rolleyes:

You are not over-reacting. That is an extremely mean comment. Just trust in yourself that you are doing the very best you can for your son. He is lucky to have such a devoted mum such as yourself. :hugs:

[xxchloexx]

i think my DS looks like one to! but i only ever say it jokingly, cause he can eat alot and not put on weight! i wish i had his metabolism

But if it upset , maybe you should talk to her and tell her that u don't like her saying things like that!

I think if anyone said something i didn't like about my son i will have words with them! but everyone is the opposite with DS, they tell him how beautiful he is, haha and it has gone to his head! for a 2 year old he is obsessed with himself, he loves looking at himself in the mirror and saying woot woo!

[Phyllis Stein]

How unbelievably insensitive and ignorant, not just to your feelings, but to the literally starving, dying children she's comparing your DS to. Yech.

[bella77]

Seriously, how can people have no idea about the things that fall out of their mouth. Bah to ignorance. :thumbsdown:

Big hugs to you :hugs::hugs::hugs::hugs:

[Veritas]

R - she's a twit..... an insensitive and immature so and so.....

She lives in the same blooming house as you, if anyone should know exactly how troubling H's weight is for you it would be her.... but clearly she has her head so far up her own bottom she can't see anything but herself....

:hugs:

[sandy cheeks]

Even if it was a joke it was rude and nasty and what type of friend says something like that.

I would have said something back about her uncontrolable and evil dd.:devil6: oh and her lack of parental input.

[pennylane]

what a cow! My eldest DD was a very small premmie bub (1152grams) and shes 3 in June and still only weighs 10kgs.Luckily for us shes perfectly healthy and eats like a horse but we just cant get weight on her no matter what she eats,shes just always going to be small it seems and the fact that shes forever running around doesnt help much either lol.

If anyone said that about my child they'd be lucky not to get a smack in the mouth.How rude and insensitive!

[Boobycino]

:no: not a nice thing at all.

Could you tell her it was a hurtful and inappropriate comment?

Some people think they're funny and they're most certainly not!

DP's bestmate left our house last night in a bit of a huff because he was trying to be funny and I told him, very firmly but politely I wouldn't tollerate racist comments in my home and particularly in front of my son. He said he understood, apologised but then stood up and left, shouting a goodbye to DP, but he didn't turn around, and ducked straight out the door. :rolleyes: pfft... whatever.... he needed to be told.

[ManekiNeko]

Total bish... Are you moving out?

[Larski]

I hate your flatmate hun, you have to get out of there! That was such a cruel, ignorant, stupid thing to say - and you dont need people like that in your life - you and H deserve better!

xxx

[Me]

I can't wait to hear that you've moved to the sunshine state where the lovely people are!

That woman is absoutely horrible to you in so many ways, and wha she said is totally uncalled for. I feel like crying for you because it's so horrible.

You are doing a marvellous job with your ds and please don't let anyone ever make you doubt that.(((hugs)))

[Nowhere]

HUGS your flat mate is an out right tw@t i know thats a horrible thing to say but seriously she is, Where does she get off comenting on ANYONES child when she feeds her M and Ms for breakfast.

I know how you feel as i have had the same thing said about DD, and starven marven is also one of them, and loly pop as she looks like a stick with a ball on top etc, It totaly p*sses me off.

Try to not let it upset you i know its hard but some d*ckheads wil never get it n

[SPC]

She's probably trying to make herself feel better about her disturbed child by putting your child down. You don't need that. You deserve better than this.

[mumma sienna]

My DD is also very skinny, but it is just her build and the fact that she is so active! People for the past 3 years have always made comments about my DD and make comments to the effect that i am not feeding her correctly.. which i do!! and by the way, she is gorgeous the way she is (my avatar)!!

my comment to them is, "i guess it's a good thing becasue she won't have a body like yours and health problems when she is older". yes, very very rude, but so are their comments and most of the time from complete strangers!!! tell her to get a life and let her know how her comments make you feel. she may not realise that she is being hurtful?!?