Views on donating embryo's

[leisurly]

Last week President Bush used his veto power to stop embryo stem cell
research in the USA and pushed for more 'Embryo Adoptions'. :idea:

In Australia it is called 'Embryo Donation' and I was wondering what your views are on Embryo donation.

Having completed your family what would you do with your remaining Embryo's. We hear about egg and sperm donors but not so much about embryo donation.


DH and I are presently looking into this after failed IUI and IVF

Thanks Leisurly

[kirstenriley]

wow i have never heard of that, how does it work? Do they inseminate the egg and then freeze the embryo or do they inseminate and then inject into the female straight away? I thought that was what IVF was....would be interested to know as my brother and another friend are going through IVF at the mo.

[bobby]

hi , no i am not up to date with embryo donoation mainly cos i am only am doing iui at this stage. saying that and knowing the amount of years i have wanted another child i know the longing and HUGE emotional wanting one goes through that if I had a spare frozen embryo and I didnt need to extend my family futher that YES donating is DEFINATELY an option..
Why waste such a HUGE resource to make someone happy. If I could help I certainly would. I just cant do this for myself first!!!

[leisurly]

Thanks for the replys

Just a recap Kirsten, when you go through an IVF cycle you produce eggs these are then fertilised and form embryo's. A couple are then put back in to the uterus, the others are often frozen. There can be several frozen. When an IVF coule have finished having their family, there are sometimes embryo's still frozen, I was asking the ladies on this forum being those who go though IVF for there opinion on what to do with these remaining frozen embryo's one option is donating then to someone else who is unable to have children of their own:D

Leisurly

[Cupcake]

:wave: I have sent you a PM

[JnA]

Hi

We will have to make this decision when we are done making our family. At this time (and I may change my mind) I would not donate an embryo. I would, however consider donating an egg only.
I know this sounds selfish, but to me, the thought of having a child that is mine and my partners being raised by others doesn't sit well.

Having said that, I am not completely shut off from the idea under a special circumstance.

If I change my mind when it comes to it.... we'll see.


There are totally selfless people out there with no such thoughts of my own and would donate their embryos at the drop of a hat.. the very best to you and your quest.

[Melanie&Lucky]

Hi Leisurly

Both my husband and myself have fertility problems. I am currently onto my 8th IVF cycle, TTC # 1 and we are also looking for an egg donor. We have an ad on this forum - as per the web link below, under my signature.

We would also consider using donated embryos if we were lucky enough to come across another couple out there who has been through IVF, finished their family, understands the pain and heartache that infertility causes and wanted to donate their excess embryos to us.

So you raise a very valid point. I know that donation is a HUGE issue and many people out there have different views on this, each to be respected, but my point is, that if it wasn't for the kindness and genorosity of a donor, either by egg donation or embryo donation, then we may never be able to experience the joys of parenthood and have a baby and family of our own. How sad would it be to grow old and lonely and never being able to have children to share our love with? The very thought of this scares us to the bottom of our souls.

[debs]

Hi,
We will be snow bub donors soon. Just some paper work and bits & pieces to go.
We done IVF twice, worked both times. Have two embies on freeze. Decided 2 kiddies was enough, so why not let someone else have a chance of what we have?
If all goes well, we want some contact, like a card at xmas, just to see how the new family is going. Alot of people do not agree with any contact, but this is our wish, & have found couples that think this would suit them.
We are not finding it hard to "let go" just excieted to be able to help.
:wizard:
from debs

[Cupcake]

Hey Deb :wave:
So have you found a home? What's snow bub?
Oh & happybirthday to L for the other week:party:

[Asha]

I love the idea of embryo donnation, partly because it would mean I had babecicles/:snow: snow bubs left over after being successful myself!

Now that the selfish bit is over, I am still for it. I have no doubt that anyone who has gone through what we are going through now would be loving parents who really value their child.

My hubby is not so sure, he worries that a child of his could be unloved or abused and he would have no way to know or no way to help.

I guess I am more trusting of the world and people and since I assume embryo donnation would only happen after ailed IVF cycles I expect that the couple taking on the embryo would be desparate for the child.

I hope we will be successful on this trip of the merry go round and that we will have embryo's available to donate.

Asha

PS Not sure about staying in touch, I suspect that might lead to a whole other set of emotions, that I am not sure I could handle. Perhpas just having the agreement that the child would be given our contact details so that if they ever needed us they could find us.

[kccmylife]

I have always struggled with what we would do with any embies we may no longer need. I now only have one left in storage but have managed to fall pg naturally, so after this bub is born we will have to decide what to do!

I must say though that I am a little like Asha's DH and fear that they would never be looked after and loved the way that I would as their bio mum.

Or another fear is that one of my kids would one day meet and even possibly fall inlove with this person that would be there full blood sibling. The last one is a long shot but still possible.

For this reason I think my decision will be to donate to research, at least that way any info gained could still help another couple!

[Bearbear]

Looking for embryo donation might be one of the options for us. We are on our last tries with our own embryos, with donor sperm anyway. Only one further step to have donated embryo.

In a way it is close to adoption. I have been reading an adoption book that even treats kids with one donor parent as partially adopted. But then the role of the mother in pregnancy makes it one step short of full adoption of a born child... still have that birth mother role though not biological?

All support to those who think about it and can happily support others to have a family this way.

[canibeamum]

This is something that takes alot of through
AT first i was, of coarse donation them, I will not be needing them.
Then you think about it, my kids will have a full blood sister/brother/s that will be given our details.
I do not think i could cope with a child of mine landing on my door step asking why we gave it away????

[my babyemmy]

i would love to do embryo adoption with the 16 that i have left but my hubby and the rest of my family dont think i would be able to handle it, so im not sure if we will do it or not

[Shadek]

I have also thought about embryo donation.I do think it would be something we would look into if we had embryo's left over.
I have a friend that has been through IVF/ICSI 3 cycles on the 3rd they got pregnant with twins but loss one of them...Now she has fallen pregnant BUB #2 all by themself with not need for IVF.She called her clinic the other day asking about embryo donation for their other 2 on ice & she was told they do not do that you can either just let them go or donate them to research....