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KaM
26-07-2006, 08:31
Wasnt sure which topic to put this under so thought here would be okay.

I will start from the beginning but be brief. Basically my little girl's father lives in America. He was out for about 10 mths and went home july last year. A few week later I found out I was pregnant. We dont have a relationship anymore, we are just really good friends. We talk most days online and the occassional phone call. He seems really interested in knowing whats going on but as yet hasnt really put his money where his mouth is so to speak. He still hasnt paid any child support and nor has he sent over any presents/gifts etc. Now the money doesnt bother me really cause I can look after that on my own but its more the principal of it I guess, if you know what I mean. Anyways. . .back to my question. I have been wondering what I am going to tell my little miss when she starts to get older and starts to ask questions about where her daddy is and that kind of thing. I mean . . sometimes I will put the phone to her ear so he can say something to her but how am I going to explain it .. that her daddy is just a voice at the end of the phone? . .I know he isnt the most responsible person on this earth but he has a good heart and he is her father. I cant take that away from him. .plus I made a promise to him I never would . .. anyways .help??

KaM
26-07-2006, 09:27
Just wanted to add something . .

I know my little girl is only 4 mths old and she really has no idea whats going on there but I guess I worry as she grows . .I have my dad around and also my brother .. so there is a male influence. . but Its not really the same ..

jessgray
26-07-2006, 09:52
its a hard situation to be in. i grew up without a biological father in my life (i had a stepfather from age 4-10). so i can understand what you mean with your worries.
i think you should ask him what he wants out of this. does he jsut want her to know who he is? or would he like her to spend summer holidays when she is older in the usa? i think once you have said to each other waht you both expect you wont be as worried.:)
good luck:hugs: :fingerscrossed: