When to tell?

[Wannabe]

Just wondering if any of you have already told anyone that you're expecting.
If you have, then who and when?
If not, then when and who?:detective:

Obviuosly I told DH straight away, and one of my closest friends after a week. I plan to tell my parents (and in-laws) on my birthday in 2 weeks when I'll be 7 weeks gone. I'll probably tell my sister then too as she's studying midwifery and has been hanging out for me to get pregnant. We'll tell all other friends and collegues after the 12 week scan.

[Soldierette]

My partner was home (woke me up at 4:30am before he went to work) on the 4th July to do a HPT - POSITIVE!!!

I told my twin sister the following day and he told his Sister that day also.

We were a bit anxiuos about telling our parents as I'm 20 and he is 23.
I wrote on a beautiful card and handed it to my mother 2 weeks after I found out saying "What are you plans for next March?..........Feel like meeting your First Grandchild?"

She was very shocked and very thrilled (a huge relief)
My mother told me Father and he said he was a stunned Mullet but is already busy planning for their grandchild and what they will buy and how they will help. It's really a God Send.

I told my Boss the first week I found out as my concentration has not been entirely on my job lately and we are close and I did not want to lose her trust with a Review coming up soon....

Good Luck with your Announcement, we were going to tell everyone after the 1st Trimester but I must have told EVERYONE I know by now :smiliedance:

[kirstenriley]

yeah we pretty much told everyone - couldnt keep it a secret (except for work ppl), figured if anything happened then our friends would know about that as well so.....

[tyler's mum]

i told my mum, dad, sister and a close friend the day i found out oh and my nan she took me to see the doc,

i wanted to wait till i was 3months, i found out when i was 6weeks after my scan at 8weeks i told everyone i couldnt wait to share my very skocking news as tyler was not plan and i was goin to be a single mummy

[monique13]

i have told my family my mum , nan my sister havnt told my dad yet but we are going out for dinner on friday so i will tell him then after that i think everyone will know cause my dad cant keep hes mouth shut :laughing: i think its just up to the person when you tell everyone i dont think there is really a time frame unless you have lost a baby early then you would wait until after 12 weeks to make sure bubs is going to stick.

[Ryan&MatthewsMum]

We have pretty much told all our close friends and family. I just am so excited I can't keep it a secret (except from work where I will wait until my first scan has passed and all seems okay around the 12 week mark...)

[AquaDevil78]

My partner told his dad/brother and his dad's g/f , then a couple of days later i told my mum, and also my close cousin, but that is it now, until i get to the 12 week mark.. i just want to make sure i am having a healthy baby first and that all is ok before i tell the rest of the world.. hehee

That leads me to another question.. i was made redundant back in january as where 20 ppl due to a company restructure, anyway now i have a baby on the way i am even more eager to get another job.. have a few opportunitys up my sleeve at the moment, (when it rains it pours LOL) so fingers crossed i will get a job within the week .. my concern is, ok i know i am pregnant (6weeks not showing etc) and i really need a job now more than ever so when should i tell my new employer i dont want to do it before i secure a job as depsite anti discrimination laws, lets be honest they would proably tell me to go get u know what... should i just keep it a secret until i start showing? and after the standard 3 month "trial" period .. ? then just say i didnt know until recently...

What would you do?

[leilani07]

Aquadevil78 - I would keep it a secret until you absolutely have to tell your employer. If you are the right person for the job, being pregnant shouldn't deny you the position, but lets face it a lot of employers would prefer to have someone who is not going to take maternity leave on them. You need a job and you will do a good job, so you don't need to tell them until the time is right for you. Good luck!

And back to the original question...who did I tell? Well, I told my DH (naturally), and sister the day I found out! DH was so excited on the day we found out that he told a lot of people at his work that he was going to be a Daddy! Both sets of parents were told the very next weekend. We rang DH sister in Sydney and told her too on the same weekend. I have told my boss because I have quite a physical and sometimes volitile workplace and was concerned....plus I told a few people I work closely with because they had already noticed my changed attitiude to work (not so confident....) Plus we told one couple who have been our close friends for a few years and have been dying to hear when we got our BFP!

We will tell eveyone else (is there anyone left to tell? :laughing: ) after the 12 week mark.

[Fitmumma]

Me & my DH were the only ones who knew about it for the first 14 weeks that I was pregnant with my now 2.5yr old DS, then we told everyone!!!
With my baby girl who is now 3 months, we didnt tell anybody until I had my 12 week scan, we had suffered a M/C prior to having our DS so it wasnt hard to keep it a secret at all.:yelclap: