Looking for a Special Someone

[kandd]

:wave: Hi to everyone,

We would like to take this opportunity to introduce ourselves and make a very special request.

We are Keith (37) and Diana (40), and we have no children. We have been in a loving relationship for almost 8 years. We are currently residing in regional WA where we own and operate our own business. We have a great love for life and everything that it has to offer. We enjoy travelling and new experiences. We have been attempting to have a baby for the last two-three years. A specialist has advised us that we are not elligible for IVF as Diana's eggs are no longer viable. We had basically given up all hope of fulfilling our dream and having a child, until the other day, when we stumbled upon this and other similar forums.

And so, (as we hold our breath) we make this request - we are looking for someone special, someone who is willing to give us the greatest gift - the gift of life. If you are that someone, and you are willing to provide a donor egg, please contact us at our email address mysticalheight@westnet.com.au.

We look forward to sharing our information with you.
Keith and Diana

[Melanie&Lucky]

Hi Keith & Diana

I just wanted to wish you good luck on your search for an egg donor. I am travelling the same road as you and also have an ad on this forum. I understand the pain that infertility causes and the thought of growing old, being childless and sad & lonely scares us to the bottom of our souls! So :fingerscrossed: :fingerscrossed: :fingerscrossed: for the both of us, that we find our angel soon and achieve our dreams of holding that precious little bundle of joy in our arms.

[kandd]

Thanks Melanie for you thoughts...

We are both new to these types of forums and we are feeling extremely vulnerable at the moment.

We are finding it difficult to express our thoughts and feeling about our most private pain, so pubicly. Your support and understanding will help us to continue to open ourselves honestly to everyone.

We wish you the best of luck in finding your Angel.

Keith and Diana:fingerscrossed:

[sarahstarfish]

Hey Diane and Keith

Welcome to Bubhub - is a lovely calm place full of very supportive women, and is a great place to jump into forums and have a play.

Your ad is beautiful - I hope someone is motivated to send a PM or email you in the hopes of taking things further.

Are you considering an interstate donor as well? Sometimes our WA friends decide to find a donor in another state due to WA's six month cooling off period...so is another (expensive) option, but another option nonetheless.

To be honest, in the internet world of forums which allow wonderfully intimate, timely and careful communication with other people, I personally think the best thing you can do to help get a donor besides your ad is to just get out here and talk. Donors are generally Warm Fuzzies - they want to donate to give someone the feelings they have about their children and share the wonder of being parents - and part of that sort of personality is wanting to know more about you and to see if you might be someone they might possibly click with. This is especially so here in this forum where you are basically looking at personal contact between the two of you in the first instance anyway, regardless of how the relatioship might pan out in the future. So be very brave - you have already survived the very awful part of putting your heart out there - so take your time and answer some posts, maybe even START some posts and let those looking get to know you a little better. At the very very worst, you'll get a bit of support along the way. There are some nasties out there but have yet to hear of any in this dear little community. So come out and play!

xxx

[sarahstarfish]

Hey Kandd

How are you going - just bumping your ad.

xx

[leisurly]

Yes KandD

how are you going been a little quite

hope all is well

Lx:kiss:

[kandd]

Thanks everyone for your support.

Haven't had a chance to play on our computer last week, but now we are back.

We were not aware of the 6 month cooling off period that applies in WA. When we started our journey into IVF we were actually residing in QLD and our specialist is located there. We would be more than willing to travel interstate.

We have not said so before but we will pay for any expenses that are incurred by anyone who wishes to be a donor for us.

Best wishes to everyone.
Keith and Diana:smiliedance:

[jo-anne.36]

[quote=kandd]:wave: Hi kandd and welcome to bub-hub forum i hope you find your special lady soon as iam unable to help both of you it turn out iam looking for a special lady to and i like to say good luck to you both jo-anne

[kandd]

Hi everyone,

Miracles can happen :smiliedance: . A little over a week ago we were contacted by a "someone special" who had seen our ad on this website. Although it's only early days yet, we feel more hope than we have in a long time :fingerscrossed: :fingerscrossed: - that we may one day be able to hold the precious life of a child in our arms.

Thanks to everyone for their support so far - without you we would'nt have made it this far. We will keep you posted as to our progress.

Best wishes
Keith and Diana
:kiss:

[Chanelc]

Call me curious. You have made me wonder there are obviously many woman looking for a donor.

Can woman donate their eggs at a place or is it between the parties that seek a donor and the person that donates? Is there a counselling service attached as obviously to donate is a big decision.

[kandd]

Hi Chanel,
I'm not sure that I am the best person to advise you on this subject as I am only so new to the forum myself. But here goes....

In answer to your question - there are many couples that due to infertility issues are unable to have a child. Some of these couples require the generosity of a special lady to donate their eggs and provide the precious gift of life.

It is as you have suggested not a decision which should be made lightly. There are many excellent websites that provide information on the subject. I highly recommend reading posts in the Bubhub Forum - Egg Donation Issues. You can also obtain information relevant to your state by contacting a local fertility clinic in your area.

Before each party - ie. the donor and recipent go through with the egg donation procedure each party receives counselling. There is a lot of support for both parties.

The supply of donor eggs in Australia is very low and the "normal channel" is to go on a waiting list for donor eggs which can take many years. These eggs are usually donated by ladies who attend a fertility clinic and donate anonymously.

As I have recently turned forty we did not feel that we had the time to wait and so we advertised on Bubhub.The experience has been wonderful. We have received so many emails of support and we have been lucky to make contact with a very special lady who is willing to give us the gift of life.

We have shared a good deal of information with our donor - although we have had to maintain a level anonyminity as we live within the state of WA. We have chosen to be in full contact later on - as that is what we all wish to do. This is not the case with all donors and recipients - some prefer to remain anonymous.

The issues are many and they are complex - but the rewards are great.
I hope that this has helped you and answered at some of your questions.

:hugs: Cheers Diana

[staysn]

Congratulations, I hope it all works out for you.
Thank you also for the added information, I have been thinking seriously of donating myself for some time, due to my sister's struggle with conceiving. She is fertile however, otherwise I would have already donated to her.

[leisurly]

Congratulations Diana

:fingerscrossed: it continues to go smoothly, I live in qld, and although I realised the 6 mth wait in WA, I didn't know you had to have a level of anonyminity, would this mean relatives couldn't donate. It really is a confusing world with such different rules from state to state.

Hi Chanel - Just a little more about donating, the clinic you attend would be a decision between you and the recipient. Unless you go with a clinic then the recipient would be from their own list and everything would be done through that clinic.

If you have a known donor, they might prefer the same dr to treat them but most are good at cooperating with other clinics, with having a child you'd probably prefer being closer to home and therefore the logistics would need to be worked out. If you read some of the other threads you'll see even between NZ and Australia, donor/recipients manage to work it out.

lx

[kandd]

Hi Leisurly,

Thanks your wishes.

I think I may have caused some confusion in my last message that I feel I should clarify for others looking for donors or considering to donate in WA.

If the donor and recipent are known to each other there is a three month cooling off period, prior to the procedure going ahead. This is to ensure that the donor is not under any undue pressure to donate.

However, if the donor and recipient are unknown to each other this cooling off period is waived. We have communicated with our donor via email using aliases and so remain anonymous to avoid the three month cooling off period. It was our donor that suggested this path so we avoid the delays - she is so supportive. :hugs:

After we have attended separate counselling sesssions it is my understanding that we can than reveal ourselves to each other without undergoing any further delays. (I still need to check this out...)

Once the eggs have been collected from the donor and fertilised they are frozen for a 6 month period (a 6 month waiting period ). The donor is then retested for HIV etc. If all is OK they are than transferred to the recipient.

I hope this makes things a little clearer.

Cheers Diana

[jo-anne.36]

hello kandd i just poped in to see how your search is going iam still seaching for my special friend to come and knock on my front door take care jo-anne:wave:

[kandd]

Hi Jo-anne,

Thanks for your bump...

We think that we may have found our Angel. We are in the very early stages but everything seems to be going OK.:fingerscrossed: :fingerscrossed:

We should probably close this thread - but we would like to keep everyone informed of our progress so that we can give others hope that their Angel may just be waiting around the next corner.

Is there somewhere more appropriate for us to post our messages?

:hugs: LOL Keith and Diana

[jo-anne.36]

hi there donna if i was you i would'nt closed the thread yet just in case things changewith your angel this all ready happen to a ladie i have been talking to now she is let in the cold and i would like to say good luck and my:fingerscrossed: for youand hubby i hope my turn comes soon take care and lots of:hugs: hon jo-anne

[kandd]

Hi Everyone,

We are again searching for our special someone - unfortunately arrangements with our special lady seem to have fallen through. Although this is a difficult time for us - we believe that everything happens for a reason. We are hopeful that there is a generous lady waiting for us - who is willing to offer the most precious gift of life.

Due to our unique situation we have access to clinics both in Queensland and Western Australia.

Should you be the one willing to make our dreams come true, please do not hesitate to send us an email to mysticalheight@westnet.com.au. We will answer any of your questions.

LOL
Keith and Diana

[jo-anne.36]

:wave: hello kandd iam sorry to here your news iam thinking of you and i hope you do'nt have to wait much longer for search to be fulfilled and see i told you not to closed your thread over 1 a week a go that was a good thing that you do'nt closed it take care lots of:hugs: xxx hon good luck jo-anne

[sarahstarfish]

Hey Diana

I am so sorry to hear it hasn't worked out, hope you are picking up the pieces OK.

I just wanted to touch on the bit in one of your previous posts about waiting times in WA etc with regards to fresh/frozen cycles...is the frozen cycle the only option your clinic will do, or will they consider a fresh cycle at the end of the cooling off period and quarantine period? A lot of WA girls go for the fresh option for the 'better' chances of a fresh cycle. Not prying, just wondering if it's a clinic preference, and I guess with some donors, other commitments make it better to donate now and freeze.

Good good good luck with your search - fingers crossed this next one is the one.

xx

[kandd]

Thanks for your support ladies. :hugs: Its not been an easy time. Our donor had to withdraw her generous offer due to illness. In addition to our own severe disappointment we have been deeply concerned for her and her family. :crying:

Its been extremely difficult to find the strength and the hope needed to return to this forum and start the search again for our special someone.

I am afraid that I am unable to answer your question with any certainty. During our discussions with the staff at the clinic we were given the impression that WA legislation required the fertilised eggs to be frozen for a six month period. However, our specialist did say that "fresh was best". Perhaps if we had progressed further we would have been provided with the other options.

LOL
Keith and Diana

[kandd]

Hi ladies,

The saying "everything happens for a reason" has never meant so much to me as at this stage in my life. As you know from previous threads we lost our donor due to extremely unfortunate circumstances.

Firstly, we have been so very very lucky and been approached by another special lady who has offered to be our donor. We recently met with this lady and her family and everything was fantastic. Its hard to find the right words to describe how we feel that this lady should decide to select us to offer the precious gift of life - honored, priviliged, so very lucky... Due to the fact that this lady has recently donated to others we will not be entering into the process for 6 months.

Secondly, we have discovered that my FSH levels have dropped dramatically and that I am able to attempt an IVF cycle for myself. Something that we thought would never happen. Although the Doctor says that I am borderline he feels it is worth a shot.

So - I am going to give one IVF cycle a go for myself. If all goes well than there will be much to celebrate. However, if it does not succeed our special lady will be waiting to assist.

If we had not been contacted by our first donor we would never have continued our journey - the rest seems as if it is just meant to be...

Thanks for all your support. Watch for our posts elsewhere on bubhub.

Heres hoping that you all find your "special someone".

Diana

[jo-anne.36]

:wave: hello daina that good to know that you and hubby can have one more shot with your own eggs and i hope it works for you and if not its good to know that you have found your angel and she is willing to wait for you and when you are starting are cycle good luch i will lookforward in following your jounrey take care hon xxx jo-anne:)