ready to give up?

[motherlylove]

help my four yr old is driving me nuts...... She talks back swears knows everything and can't be told. The doctors try and tell me it is normal behaviour just an age please I think it is more then that wish they could come spend a day at my house.

[BoyCrazy]

sounds like my 4yr old DS :yes:

does your DD go to daycare at all? maybe something to consider to give yourself a break and get them ready for prep.

also im starting good behaviour reward charts..if he behaves well during the day he gets a stamp on his chart, when he reaches a certain no of stamps he is rewarded with a small toy or an outing to a place he would like to go (usually the lagoon or a play centre)

maybe thats something to think about.

does sound like normal 4yr old behaviour to me :hugs: i know exactly what ure going through!! trust me, i want to run away to a tropical island BY MYSELF!!! :laughing:

[melbryan]

it's a long shot but have you removed all colours, additives in her diet I did and it made a hell of a difference. There is a site google fed up with food additives by Sue Dengate.

[crazymuma]

I think if things are that bad then you need to set aside a full week to dedicate to getting her calmer - it will be the longest week of your life. You will need to mentally prepare to get strict so that you don't cave half way.

Try the reward chart - I personally use rewards but also punish bad behaviour/swearing.

Be consistent - set rules and follow them 100% of the time - if you threaten to take something off her NEVER give in.

Also if the swearing is coming from home make sure no one swears around her - if this is what she is hearing at home then you can't really expect her to talk any differently.
If the swearing is coming from daycare just make them aware that it is turning into a problem.

Possibly try a diet change - works for many people.

Also just curious whats her sleep like - is she getting enough sleep at night and a little rest of a day - I know a few people whos children misbehave alot and I think it has something to do with the 10pm bedtimes and 5am wakeups - its just not enough rest.

[OJandMe]

Sounds like my 2 four yr olds.

i'm not handling it very well either. I know the KNOW the right way to behave... they are just really making some very bad behaviour choices.

When I call them aside and ask them "Can you tell me.,... are you behaving in an acceptable way" they will say "no" and can list the things they SHOULD be doing and verbalise the things they are doing which ARE NOT acceptable....

yet, they keep persisting in the non-acceptable behaviour.

I'm just trying to weather it out and will on Janurary 27...... come on Prep.

:hugs: Just wanted to let you know you're not alone. :hugs:

[jenwaters]

I am a mother of a 3yr old (4 in march) and am pregnant with my 2nd (due on 1st july 2010).
My lovable, adoring daughter has been going through a stage which is making it impossible for me to enjoy a day with her. :crying:
She argues with me, swears and disobeys requests and orders.:thumbsdown:
My husband and I are very active in her life, but I have her 90% of the time.
I lost it the other day and burst out crying just wanting to enjoy a day with her without punishing her or stressing out over things she does.:crying:
She just went through a week with waking up at night and crying for me through the night constantly, not wanting me to leave the room. Since birth she has been a fantasic sleeper so this came as a shock. This seems to have passed (thank god) but the tantrums and naughty behaviour has stayed.......:hair:
I need help and support from parents going through this as well, and I know im not alone. :fingerscrossed:




help my four yr old is driving me nuts...... She talks back swears knows everything and can't be told. The doctors try and tell me it is normal behaviour just an age please I think it is more then that wish they could come spend a day at my house.