2yr old tanty --crazy

[alabama]

Hi Girls,
Well i am really frustated with my 2 year old now.He does not listens to me,whatever i ask him to do just says "no".Also now a days tantrums r on a high note and increased frequency.what should i do to control himn keep my calm?


Also i see a problem -he has a very short attention span.whatever he is playing with, he gets bored very quickly(even within 1-2 min) n goes on to another play.Does not pay a heed to anything i say ,however hard i may try.Even in front of friends he does not listen to what i say n just showing themone thing after the other.Is this normal with 2 year olds?Does ur kids also behave the same?

Please advice as i m desperate!

[shed]

I don't have kids yet so I am no expert, but he sort of sounds like every two year old I have ever met in my life.

Isn't that what they're supposed to be like?

[mich71]

this is the time when they test bounderys and acert them selfs time out will work but not for eva best solution is not to give any reaction when they behave like that do not yell dont touch them walk away which is what i do when there finshed talk to them and give them differant solutions like saying im mad im angery or even sceam into a pillow to let that frustration out hope this helps

[KarniF00l]

I have a two year old DS who is actually the same as yours except when he doesn't get his own way he drops to the floor and bangs his head constantly :banghead: luckily he has a very hard head :laughing: It is quiet normal for some children to be going through the 'terrible' stage and unfortuantly it's not only the "terrible 2's" it's the terrible 3's,4's 5's and so on.

The only thing i can suggest is ignoring him when he throws a tanty and if he doesn't listen to you take thing's away from him. Put them up high where he can't reach them but where he can see them. Explain to him he isn't getting it back until he's a good boy. By putting the object/s where he can see them it reminds them why he can't have it. If that doesn't work, put a chair the corner of the room and make him sit on it. Start off with two minutes then if he continues to be naughty make the length of time longer and longer. Just a few suggestions for you.. Let us know how you go, Goodluck :fingerscrossed:

[kirstenriley]

mine is a little younger but i tend to do the same as Mich- just walk away and ignore it, they soon learn that you wont pay attention to that sort of behaviour.
My DS and I spent 45 mins yesterday in a nappy change stand off....little sh@t....lol....but i did win in the end.

[amxine86]

i have a 2 year old son who always is having tantrums where ever i go sevral times i have had to walk out of the shops while grocery shopping and just leaving the trolley to go home thats how bad he is now days he does not come if he dosent get his own way or has to share he can become a real little monster im not sure if this is normal but your not alone he is a handful and always is telling me no :shame:

[Elfin]

This is all normal 2 yo behaviour however you could try eliminating preservative 282 from his diet if you haven't done so already. 282 is found in a lot of bread products, crumpets and refridgerated pastas. I eliminated it from my daughter's diet and it did have an improvement. It takes about a week. MIL recently gave her some bread with 282 in it and she went feral for a few days. My daughter is very intolerant of it.

It doesn't work for every child but it helps a lot in others so it is worth a try and not that hard to eliminate.

[rynosmum]

I agree completely with Elfin. We eliminated 282 from our DS's diet when he was 14 months old and the uncontrollable tantrums stopped within a week.

My MIL has been giving Ry some lovely fruit bread unknowingly recently and it was easy to identify why he was a little more 'unsettled' than usual.

Apart from that, consistency is key. If my DS throws a tanty because we are going to change his nappy for example, I will hold him calmly and ask him to calm down. When he does eventually, I might ask him if he wants to have something to eat/play in the sandpit/go outside etc. He will choose something and I'll say 'Ok, let's do this calmly and then we'll do what you want'. It really does work.

He also knows that 'No means No'. We don't smack but he knows by my voice and look as to when I am serious. He does have a very short attention span with toys though, I'm sure that's completely normal - it's a very exciting world when you're 2!:D