17 year old Mum To Be

[Isabella]

Hi, my name is Isabella I'm 17 years old and i have recently found out im pregnant with baby number 1. The father and i have been together for 2 years now and have decided to keep it. The father is 20. It's so scary. But at the same time it is so so beautiful and amazing.

I have always loved children and I was about to start work in childcare but im going to put that off for a while now.

My parents were very, very mad at me and my dad will probabaly never forgive me for it (at least until the baby is born! I hope then he might turn around... people have told me most father's do). However, my partner's parents are really happy for us, sure they have their concerns and are probably very scared for us, but they too see a baby as the miracle of life and think its wonderful. They have offered us all the support in the world. I think my mother is slowly warming to the idea... inside i think she is probabaly very excited because she has always said she can't wait for us to have kids... but still... she probabaly didnt expect a grandchild this early!

My baby is not due until next year, but me and my partner have already been thinking about names!! Its so exciting :) For a girl we like Paris Isabella or Tahlara Mikaylee. My partner loves the name Delta though, but im still a bit unsure on that. For a boy we like Jarvis Ryan and Jarryd Aiden. What do you think of those names??

I currently am living at home (NSW) to save a bit of money, but me and the father are moving to queensland within the next few months. Does anyone know of any support groups in the Gold Coast area?

Thanks for all the help!

Isabella 17
Simon 20
Baby Due in March 2006.

[Ffrenchknickers]

Congratulations on your bubba - how exciting! From your post you sound very realistic and sensible about it all. :) I dont know of any groups on the coast but I am sure someone will. Good on you for thinking about that already - it's so important.

I love the name Tahlara - never heard that one before :D

Good luck with your pregnancy, how have you been feeling so far?

[mummyb]

hi sorry dont know of any support groups in qld but i wanted to say with such a great attitude your sure to do well .
and i thinkits true about dads and babies my dad wasnt into at all till he saw my ds in the hospital .
the second time round he was in to see us afterabout an hour after the birth.
grandads are great but mums are what realy matter.
have fun enjoy your bub and yes whata mircale each baby is !!!
love mummyb

[brooke]

hi isabella,
congrats to you and your partner. thats great news you 2 must be so excited.
i too like the other girls believe that you are being very mature about the whole thing and your parents should be very proud of you for that.
My mum had me at 17 and we are now very close....
not so close when i was younger im sure it was cause my mum was also still growing up at the same time.
all the best and good luck with the move to the gold coast... im so jelous! :)
luv brooke

[Isabella]

Thanks everyone for all the help :) One of my good friends' name is Tahlara so that's where i found the name :)

I've been feeling okay... bit funny in the tummy some days but most days are okay :) Mum didnt have any morning sickness so she thinks im taking after her hehe!!

I've been thinking about the baby bonus money of $3000 and what to do with it. Simon wants to put it in the bank so it will turn into more money to help out with education or a car for the bubs when he/she is older !!! What did you do with it??

Isabella 17
Simon 20
Bubs due March 2006 :)

[mumof2girls]

Hi Isabella;

You and your partner sound very mature in the decisions you are making. I'm glad you don't have morning sickness I had it 24/7 for 7 1/2 months (YUK!!!). Love the names, once you look at your bub you will know what name suits them, but nice to have them picked out early :)

I think the money issue depends on what your needs are at the time, some people use it for private medical when they had their baby, some use it for baby needs, others use it for bills and others save it for the children, I guess it depends what your family needs are at the time!

Good luck and I hope you have a great pregnancy :)

[Isabella]

Thanks for all the help :)

Did any of you find out the sex of your baby before the birth? I don't know whether i want to find out? Im so confused about this one. A part of me reeally wants to know because then we can start buying pink clothes or blue clothes, boy toys or girlie toys, but then again I think it will be great to be a surprise!!! I can't make up my mind. We both are torn on this one. My partner doesnt know what to do either!


Isabella 17
Simon 20
Baby due March 2006

[nemosmum]

Hi Isabella,

I really wanted to find out the sex when I was pregnant but my dh wanted a suprise....however at the 18 week ultrasound my dh saw our sons penis so we found out any way :p
I like you wanted to get started on purchasing all those too cute baby clothes!

I really like your names youve picked out....my all time favourite girls name is funnily enough Isabella but if we have a girl next time my dh wants to name her Iris after his mum who passed away of breast cancer 4 yrs ago. I cant really begrudge him his wish, any way I think its beautiful to be named after his mum, she was a very strong, brave lady.

look up activities on the bubhub site and it will take you to different links eg playgroups in QLD and early childhood health centres usually run Early Bird mothers groups were you can go and meet other mums.

Good luck

Sarah

[indian_rose]

Hi Isabella,

I fell pregnant not long after my 16th birthday. I had only been with my partner for 6 months, and my parents didn't even know about him. My father disowned me and my mother didn't speak to me for 6 months.
My mother changed her mind and was at the birth, as well as my sister-in-law who is a photographer and took some amazing pictures for me.
My dad instanty changed his mind after that and was at the hospital by the next day (he lives a few hours from me) with about $1000 worth of presents.
I'm now married, and both my parents wish that I had had a better outcome in life, but can see how happy I am.
I'm 19 now and expecting my 2nd child.
I left school in grade 9, and I'm finishing Greade 12 this year, by homeschooling, and it's amazing how many other tafe and Uni course can be done by corespondence.

When I was pregnant I went to a young mothers parenting class, for women under 19 years old. It was the biggest source of support for me while I was pregnant.
I don't know of any support services in the Gold Coast, but I had a wonderful nurse come to my house every day for a week, every week for 2 months, then every month for the first year of my son's life, since I left the hospital early. Since I knew this option was there, I purposely left the hospital 1 hour before the time was up, which is 72 hours from the time your child is born. Not that I would recommend this if you're not ready to leave the hospital, but it's a great option especially for first time young mums who have little or no family support in the beginnig.

I hope all goes well with your pregnancy and with the birth, and that you and you're partner are both happy with your new bundle of Joy!
(it's okay to be corny about babies when you're a mum)

[BigW]

Hi Isabella,
I live at the southern end of the coast so thought I'd share a few options with you regarding support groups. I have found my area (tweed) to be excellant concerning support.
I go to a new mothers group on Wednesday afternoons at Tweed hospital, and I know that there are these groups at Robina and Palm Beach. I also know that Tweed hospital runs a young mothers group late wednesday afternoon too, so would assume that the same again would apply for Robina and Palm Beach.
Once you get here and find a doctor, they should be able to give you some comtact details for community health centres where you will take your bub once born, who in turn should be able to provide some details of these pre and post natal groups for you.
PM me if you need any further details - phone numbers etc - only to pleased to help.
Take care and enjoy your pregnancy, it's an amazing journey. :)
P - mum to Izak 12/05/2005