Mik01
27-12-2009, 14:15
Anyone else had a crappy christmas? :) I can laugh about it now but I wasn't very amused while it was all happening.
Because the doctor told me that my immunization for rubella was low, DH and I cancelled our travel plans this christmas (we were meant to go overseas and spend christmas with my family) and decided to stay home. The GP also said to stay away from kids and babies (we've had some conflicting advice on this, with one GP saying to stay away completely because rubella is airborne and you don't know who has it and the other one saying that rubella is spread by drop contamination iow direct contact so being around children and babies is fine as long as I don't get too close), but because this is our first and just for peace of mind, DH and I decided that I'll skip christmas lunch with the inlaws. That suited me just fine as I was looking forward to some peace, anyway.
DH and I celebrate christmas on christmas eve (not christmas day) and open presents at midnight after a nice dinner and I was looking forward to that.
We told PILs that I was skipping christmas lunch this year and FIL made a huge deal of it because he wanted everyone there at christmas lunch. We told him that our decision was final and that he should respect it.
The next day, he told SIL we were pregnant and that we were going to be spending christmas here instead of overseas and also that I have to stay away from kids and babies.
In MIL's words, SIL "went ape****" and started yelling that they might not as well come down to spend christmas if I wasn't going to spend time with her kids.
My reaction: huh? We weren't going to be here anyway so that really doesn't change anything and I don't know what the big deal was. She and I are not close and never have been; we barely talk. Plus, I didn't think they were coming all this way just to see me, especially when we were going to be away anyway. So I thought that was a bit funny.
On the 24th, after much prompting from MIL, FIL lets us know that instead of having a big christmas lunch on christmas day, they've decided to have a family dinner that night instead and just have a cold lunch on christmas day. We had to tell them that we usually celebrate christmas on christmas eve and that I already had dinner going when they let us know. Of course a big deal was made out of that and DH ended up going over there for a drink to keep the peace.
When he got there, SIL tells him "we haven't told the kids that Aunty Mik is pregnant and why she's not here because it's not our news to tell. So you have to explain to them why she's not here."
MIL then corners DH and says "you have to tell the kids, you have to tell the kids now."
DH, tired of all the drama where there should have been none, decided to go home if that's all that was going to be happening while he was there.
I said, well SIL didn't find out from us in the first place, so this whole "it's not our news to tell" BS is a bit moot, don't you think?
I honestly do not know what the big deal is and I don't know where all of this is coming from.
Because the doctor told me that my immunization for rubella was low, DH and I cancelled our travel plans this christmas (we were meant to go overseas and spend christmas with my family) and decided to stay home. The GP also said to stay away from kids and babies (we've had some conflicting advice on this, with one GP saying to stay away completely because rubella is airborne and you don't know who has it and the other one saying that rubella is spread by drop contamination iow direct contact so being around children and babies is fine as long as I don't get too close), but because this is our first and just for peace of mind, DH and I decided that I'll skip christmas lunch with the inlaws. That suited me just fine as I was looking forward to some peace, anyway.
DH and I celebrate christmas on christmas eve (not christmas day) and open presents at midnight after a nice dinner and I was looking forward to that.
We told PILs that I was skipping christmas lunch this year and FIL made a huge deal of it because he wanted everyone there at christmas lunch. We told him that our decision was final and that he should respect it.
The next day, he told SIL we were pregnant and that we were going to be spending christmas here instead of overseas and also that I have to stay away from kids and babies.
In MIL's words, SIL "went ape****" and started yelling that they might not as well come down to spend christmas if I wasn't going to spend time with her kids.
My reaction: huh? We weren't going to be here anyway so that really doesn't change anything and I don't know what the big deal was. She and I are not close and never have been; we barely talk. Plus, I didn't think they were coming all this way just to see me, especially when we were going to be away anyway. So I thought that was a bit funny.
On the 24th, after much prompting from MIL, FIL lets us know that instead of having a big christmas lunch on christmas day, they've decided to have a family dinner that night instead and just have a cold lunch on christmas day. We had to tell them that we usually celebrate christmas on christmas eve and that I already had dinner going when they let us know. Of course a big deal was made out of that and DH ended up going over there for a drink to keep the peace.
When he got there, SIL tells him "we haven't told the kids that Aunty Mik is pregnant and why she's not here because it's not our news to tell. So you have to explain to them why she's not here."
MIL then corners DH and says "you have to tell the kids, you have to tell the kids now."
DH, tired of all the drama where there should have been none, decided to go home if that's all that was going to be happening while he was there.
I said, well SIL didn't find out from us in the first place, so this whole "it's not our news to tell" BS is a bit moot, don't you think?
I honestly do not know what the big deal is and I don't know where all of this is coming from.