Hubby is keen for more!!

[Ryally]

Hi,

I was interested in seeing the other post under the 'should we have another baby' heading about a dad who's ducking and weaving around the issue.

My problem on the other hand is my man wants more.

We are expecting our second (a boy) on October 3rd and I said that's enough for me. I know we were thinking four would be good but this pregnancy hasn't been all roses and our toddler is a handful. I think now we have a boy as well as a girl we're done with family planning. His response is always "We'll see".

He did say to me the other day that he would get a vasectomy if I don't change my mind in a years time. My concern is falling pregnant during that time, he's not one for stopping to put something on so I guess I'll have to start the pill up again as soon as our baby arrives.

Not sure if any of this is a problem. Sometimes I feel worried about it because I just don't think there's enough of me to go around for anymore than what we've got now. Other times I think it's kinda funny that he loves being a dad so much but then he gets to go to work during the day and I get left behind with the munchkins lol.

[nemosmum]

hi, I'm in the same situation as you....we have a little boy whose just turned one and my dh is very keen to try again! in fact he already has names picked out, thats right he has two more boys names picked out and one girl coz thats how many babes he wants. I on the other hand hated being pregnant the first time round and am only now starting to forget all the problems with being pregas and the birth not to mention the bf and the sleepless nights, the crying OH MY GOD I'M SO NOT READY FOR ANOTHER ONE!!!!!!!

No, no I do want one more... a girl this time like you to even things up, yes that would be perfect and I wouldnt want anymore than two.
Like you I think its alot of hard work and even though I love the fact dh LOVES being a dad and his a really great dad but I cant go through that three more times i just cant and no one can make me!!!!

I just think I'm more practical than my dh and think things thru more....he just looks at how happy our son has made him and how amazing it is to be a parent and doesnt really consider any thing else....like me or the money it costs etc

Any way good luck with your pregnancy :)

Sarah

[mummyb]

hi i would love to have more but we just cant aford it ,
i think two is a realy good number . i have two boys and im realy aware that my two lovely boys will one day turn into two teenagers and i like it that they dont out number us :)
whatever you have or dont have i hope your as happy as i am with my family
love mummy b

[Melissa1983]

Hi
I'm in the same boat, my husband wants another one soon. We have two girls already, but he wants a boy. I don't know when i want another, both pregnancies i was sick all through, and don't think i can handle that, besides look after two toddlers (that are a totally handful).
I dont know what to do either

[ThomasMum]

....he just looks at how happy our son has made him and how amazing it is to be a parent and doesnt really consider any thing else....like
Sarah

I think my DH is like that! And he has so much love in his heart, that he kept saying that Thomas is the symbol of our love. He totally adores Thomas and I and how many time did I hear him saying that he'd love to have a dozen of children!

I know its not an easy decission to make as I wouldn't be able to say no to my DH if he wants another one, knowing that he's been so helpfull and loves me even more esp since Thomas was born.

Not a very easy question to asnwer eh...

[Sandy]

I am in the same boat but have given in. I was adamant after having Kate that no way was there going to be another. And I was blessed with a good child - perfect pregnancy, perfect breast feeding (loved it!), baby slept through from 4 weeks of age, perfect toddler (at the moment). I missed my free time, my exercise, my life. But as Kate has grown I have softened to the idea, more for Kate than anyone else. I am an only child, as is my DH, but I want Kate to have a sibling, even if they end up hating each other. And where as I used to picture life without a baby when I had one, now I look at my toddler and can't imagine life without her.

But its YOUR body. I truly believe that its your decision. Stick to your guns girl!!

[RuthK]

I know where you're all coming from. And to make things worse my husband is an Irish Catholic, so he won't agree to a vasectomy, even though he knows I can't take the pill and have had a few gynae problems and am not comfortable about IUD's etc.

I wish I could get him to experience the constant nausea, heartburn and exhaustion each of my 3 pregnancies have given me and I'm sure that, even after just a week of it, he'd change his mind!