Perth Modern attachment Mum looking for the same - not a hippy

[Mum2Jai]

Hi All - calling attachment Mummies in Perth

I practise attachment parenting pretty much to the tea mainly because thats the way i instinctively feel about the way I should treat my son who is now 1.

I have a great group of girls in my mothers group who do support my child rearing decisions but still feel like i need more support from those like minded Attachment Mummies who truly understand what I am going through.

I have attended a natural parenting play group once but found i did not fit in there, don't want to be judgemental but they were very hippy like (lol) and I am just a normal Mum choosing to raise my son with the attachment parenting pricipals - I use disposable nappies (was scared to change his nappy whilst at the group for fear of judgement...lol.... one of the babies did not even wear nappies at all), don't have dreads, my son does not wear knittted or hemp clothing and we bath daily ha..ha..

But seriously...am looking for other Perth Attachment Mummies who like me don't fit the "all natural" profile who want to catch up to chat and support each other, I am happy to arrange venues et et...let me know if anyone is interested ..

hope i did not offend anyone...this was not my intention just looking for similiar people to catch up with

Thanks

[geobabe]

Hey, I know how you feel! The rest of my mums group think I'm a wierd hippie because I use cloth nappies and don't like leaving DD to cry. To be honest I don't actually know what attachment parenting is, but I think it might be pretty much what I'm doing. Cloth nappies is a separate issue entirely and I wouldn't judge anyone for their decision on cloth vs sposies.

Now I'll see if I can be clever and work out how to PM you so we could arrange to catch up...

[aphrodeity]

I could have written this post! I too have a good mothers group but they are not really coming from the same place as me. I have tried meeting up with professed 'alternative' mums but they are all a bit too alternative for me. I'm just a modern Mum too. I use the Continuum Concept as inspiration for my parenting, there's all the stuff listed in my sig that I do, but then I also use mostly disposable nappies (I have 2 cloth nappies for the cuteness factor), birth at a private hospital, and shave my legs!

I have been feeling frustrated for much of the past year because I feel I am too alternative for my mainstream friends, and too mainstream for the self-professed 'alternative' crew. I don't know anyone on my wavelength. I would love to catch up too, can I be in on any PMs about catching up?

ETA geobabe am I reading your post right? People think you're weird because you won't leave your 14 week old to cry? Yikes!
I think it's important to have support networks around you that are coming from the same place as you, it helps normalise your choice. I find when you're isolated it's easy to fall into the trap of second-guessing yourself all the time.

[Mum2Jai]

thank goodness that you ladies replied. I sent that post a while ago and got no reply....I am exactly the same - too alternative for my family and some friends and too "normal" for the real alternatives. Who would have thought that breastfeeding, sleeping cuddling your bubba,wearing him in a sling and not letting him cry himself to sleep was the weirdo thing to do???Everyone else is the weirdo I think - I have done a lot of research into this whole attachement parenting thing and I sometimes think if only people knew what they were doing to their children - i guess ignorance is bliss....but still i am made to feel like the weirdo... Really needed to meet other Myms like me. Where do you guys live?? I am in Success. How old are your babies. My boy Jai is 14 months in a few days. We are off on holiday on Monday to KL and Bali so will be back on the 29th so we can arrange a meet up after that?? Let me know.

[geobabe]

ETA geobabe am I reading your post right? People think you're weird because you won't leave your 14 week old to cry? Yikes!

Yes! You share my confusion and dismay with these people.... when I told them I was having trouble getting DD to sleep in her cot during the day, the response was pretty much that I was wrong to go back to her every time she cried because then I was teaching her that I would always come if she cried. And this was apparently a bad thing because then she was learning to manipulate me. Or something. :confused:

Would love to catch up, I'm in Como, happy to travel wherever. Mum2Jai hope you have a nice holiday :)

[milklady]

Hey you lovely people sound just like me!!

I live in the hills (Parkerville) with a 9 year old boy and a 1 year old boy. Both are AP'd kiddies :D

[Mummy-2-2]

I have attended a natural parenting play group once but found i did not fit in there, don't want to be judgemental but they were very hippy like (lol) and I am just a normal Mum choosing to raise my son with the attachment parenting pricipals - I use disposable nappies (was scared to change his nappy whilst at the group for fear of judgement...lol.... one of the babies did not even wear nappies at all), don't have dreads, my son does not wear knittted or hemp clothing and we bath daily ha..ha..


hope i did not offend anyone...this was not my intention just looking for similiar people to catch up with

Thanks

Hiya Mum2jai,

I think I was the unwashed dreaded hippy you talk about :wave:

No offense of course, cept I do wash everyday and use disposable nappies also.

Perhaps if you are afraid of being judged, you get to know people first, instead of judging them yourself.

Hoping you find some lovely girls who are more normal than I :confused:

[Nowhere]

Hiya Mum2jai,

I think I was the unwashed dreaded hippy you talk about :wave:

No offense of course, cept I do wash everyday and use disposable nappies also.

Perhaps if you are afraid of being judged, you get to know people first, instead of judging them yourself.

Hoping you find some lovely girls who are more normal than I :confused:



HUGS how upseting to read someone sayng that about you on here.

to the OP I dont gve my parenting style a name It doesnt need one, I parent acording to what seems most natural to me ( well apart from the needed medic stuf). IF you judge others they wll judge you, if you dont they wont.
mummy 2-2, If you want another parent to meet up with let me know
xx

[Zoey]

I attend this play group and my babe wears disposables, was formula fed (the only babe there drinking from a bottle and wears store brought clothes (target, k-mart, punkin patch etc)... and I've never felt anything other than acceptance & support from the lovely women there.

I think it's unfair to label people because you are feeling insecure about your parenting decisions.

[katieinwa]

where is this natural parenting playgroup?? sounds interesting!! where abouts is it located?

[geobabe]

Oh dear, this thread seems to be going a bit off the rails. I'm sure the OP did not intend to offend anyone. I'm sure we all have moments of doubting our parenting decisions (I know I do!), and we all need to find a group of like-minded people for support and friendship.

Going back to the original point of this thread, I'm still keen to meet up with like-minded mummies.

[Mum2Jai]

Hi
no you were not at all who i was talking about...and i know that you shower was just poking fun which i understand was insensitive upon reflection was just trying to point out i was more mainstream but obviously chose inappropriate words so my apologies. - i honestly have no issues with disposable nappies either am considering them for my next one...

I am glad that you have found the other mothers in that group and seek comfort in their support - i just want this as wellas i am sure you understand how tough it can be being an attachment Mumy.

take care


Hiya Mum2jai,

I think I was the unwashed dreaded hippy you talk about :wave:

No offense of course, cept I do wash everyday and use disposable nappies also.

Perhaps if you are afraid of being judged, you get to know people first, instead of judging them yourself.

Hoping you find some lovely girls who are more normal than I :confused:

[Mum2Jai]

Hi all


Once again my apologies in choice of wording...it was not my intention to offend at
all but merely to highlight that i neither fit into the natural parenting or alternative style yet neither mainstream - it was meant purely as a point of reference and not judgement but again my sincere apologies to those i may have offended.

Now to all those who responded in wanting to meet up with like minded Mummies like myself - I have returned from my holidays and am keen to meet up soon. Please email me guys on distinguishedenterprises@yahoo.com.au to let me know you are interested and what days and times are good fro you and I will get a group email going and make arrangements - please no hate mail ha ha just JOKING....lol..

Seeya

[benjaminjamesmum]

I am a first time mum with a beautiful 1yr old boy. Hubby and I have instinctively followed an attachment parenting style and I would love to meet more like minded people.

As a first time mum wanting to do the 'right' thing it has been hard to feel like I am 'bucking' against the norm. I have found myself not sharing with others how I stay with my son until he falls asleep and how he spends most nights sharing our bed. There is so much pressure on being a mum that to be viewed as 'weird' or heaven forbid spoiling my son has been hard to handle at times.

not sure how this works or if you are still online but would love to hear from you :)

I have just seen your email address so will try that :)

[milklady]

I understand how you feel, we felt the same way for a long time with the comments about our parenting style from family etc for a long time, until we realised that we were DOING IT RIGHT! So whatever anyone else thinks doesn't matter. ;)

You sound like wonderful parents, good on you for following your instincts and giving your son what he really needs.

Our group never did end up meeting up, but as I have said all along I would still very much love to meet up if anyone else would like to. We live in the hills (Parkerville) but can travel anywhere, we have an 18 month old boy and a 10 year old boy (who was also attachment parented as a bub), who has just started homeschooling (or "unschooling" to be precise!) which we are very excited about! :smiliedance:

So if you have any interest in natural learning for your children in the future, perhaps we can share some of our newly aquired knowledge of that too! :D

Cheers

Sharon

[trishalishous]

I'm glad I found this thread! I'm in albany, but come to perth 1week every month :)

[wais]

I'm glad to have found this thread.

I'm new to this forum so please be gentle with me.

I had no idea what natural/attachment parenting is until now and I have looked up.

While I don't do everything, some are similiar :iagree: and I would also love to meet and hear from other parents who believe this. I haven't joined any mothers group so I don't even know what anyone is like.

I live in Kelmscott (SOR). I will keep following this thread.

[MumofFahryn]

Hi ladies,

Just thought you'd like to know that there's a "Natural parenting mother's group". I don't have the details sorry but if you call South Coastal Women's Health in Rockingham (9550 9000) they'd probably be able to help you. I saw the flyer on their bulletin board.

Have a great day =D

[tinkerbell87]

Hey mum of fanryn are you based in Rockingham, I'm after some new mummy friends as I'm a first time mum and feeling rather lonely, do you know a good mothers group around town?

[cluttermum]

Hi ladies!
There are a group of mums who meet at Darlington Family Playgroup on Tuesday mornings and they are so relaxed, non-judgemental, into raw foods, recycling and natural parenting. If you want to find out more then you can email the playgroup for more info: darlingtonfamilyplaygroup@hotmail.com
Happy parenting to you all! xox

:flowerz:

[M2James]

Hi all

I'm into natural parenting and keen to meet up with other like minded mums. I'm not a hippy - I shower everyday and use disposables. It's just that the other mums I know aren't into co-sleeping and nutrition and that kind of thing so if there is anyone in the Fremantle area with similar styles of parenting, please give me a yell! I have a gorgeous one year old who is recently into walking, playing hide and seek and having a tantrum here and there!

Cheers.

[trishalishous]

Im a bit further south than you (haha) but come up regularly :)

[trishalishous]

Im just outside of Albany :)
My DD is 16 months.

[M2James]

Im a bit further south than you (haha) but come up regularly :)

Hi there. I tried to PM you but that didn't work, nor did the conversation. I didn't want to post more info about myself on here. Maybe you could try to PM me? I'm new to this forum and don't quite know how it all works. I'm so new to forums I still don't know what DS and DD means!

Ta!

[trishalishous]

you need 10 posts in the forum to use PMs :)
DD and DS are darling daughter/son