How far along were you when you told your KIDS that you were pregnant?

[1+1=5]

Did you make that decision based on the age of your kids?

I'm thinking of telling my kids when I'm about 5 months pregnant or when I'm starting to really show. I'm scared of losing bub and I don't want my kids to experience loss just yet. I don't have a history of m/c, but you never know.

Anyhoo it would be great to hear what others have done

[Ffrenchknickers]

We told them as soon as we found out....showed them the tests :) They were the first ones we told...our parents we didn't tell until later.

I figured if something bad happened we would all go through it together anyway as they would know something was up.

[Areca]

We told my kids when I was about 7 weeks. Didn't want my three year old (at the time) blurting it out but wanted her to know before my dating scan at 8 weeks.
I agree with Frenchie and DD1 loved being a part of it and she understood why I was sick for etc.....she was so helpful. DD2 was a bit young to really get it.

[MummyHas3boys]

When we fell PG with #2 DS was only about 16 months old, we told him mummy had a baby in her tumy but he didnt get it, untill i started to get bigger and he would point to it and say "baby"but even then i dont think he understood!

We are TTC #3 now and when i get PG I dont plan on telling the kids untill 12+ weeks for the same reasons as owen&noahsmum, if something happened i know it would break my oldest DS heart.

[1+1=5]

I think Owen would love the experience of seeing the HPT...I never thought of that. I'll chat to DH tonight about it and see what he thinks. hes such a party pooper and wants to play things safe. :rolleyes:

[purplecat]

We told them as soon as we found out....showed them the tests :) They were the first ones we told...our parents we didn't tell until later.

I figured if something bad happened we would all go through it together anyway as they would know something was up.

exact same for me, we told them straight away (aged 8, 10 and 12). If we experienced a loss then they would know something was up and we'd just explain it. Its sad, but its life. Kids can actually handle that type of loss better than adults half the time! We were very excited about the pregnancy and wanted to share our joy with them too, and we would have hated for them to hear it from someone else accidentally. Plus knowing I wasnt feeling that great and why meant they were very helpful around the house and in getting ready for school. DD even offered to cook dinner!

[Teegzie]

We still haven't told DD and I'm 21 weeks along. She is only 18 months old though and I doubt she would really get the idea if we tried to explain. Maybe closer to my EDD we'll tell her about the baby in my tummy, just so it isn't a total shock, but I still think until the baby arrives she won't quite get it.
We got a puppy and she is still surprised every morning when her dog in bed where she was the night before! :p

[Billy]

Rhianna is 3 and we haven't told her anything yet (I'm 11 weeks). We talk about being pregnant and 'the baby' in front of her all the time but she hasn't put 2 and 2 together hehe. We are waiting until I am showing more so she can really understand it, plus she has very little patience. If I tell her we're doing something on the weekend I hear about it Every. Single. Day. Lol. So the idea of her asking me everyday "Is the baby coming today?" for the next 6 months does not sound too fun lol. :p


If she was a bit older and had a better understanding of it all I would have told her immediately. :goodvibes:

[Areca]

We still haven't told DD and I'm 21 weeks along. She is only 18 months old though and I doubt she would really get the idea if we tried to explain. Maybe closer to my EDD we'll tell her about the baby in my tummy, just so it isn't a total shock, but I still think until the baby arrives she won't quite get it.
We got a puppy and she is still surprised every morning when her dog in bed where she was the night before! :p

You'd be surprised...dd1 understood at 18 months.

[elwoodgal]

We waited until the 20 week Scan & took her with us. My DD is 4 & a 1/2.
Didn't want to tell her any earlier for 2 reasons, 1. in case anything went wrong
2. I knew she would get excited & want to see the baby now!

[mimsie]

We told our kids because I was concerned about them worrying if I was super tired/sick/sore etc. But we told them that there was the beginnings of a baby in there but that we didn't know yet if it would stick around/grow properly etc. DD was always talking about 'if it turns into a baby like me' lol.

Anyway when we lost it, it was extremely easy to tell them. We had spent a lot of time preparing them for the chance that it may not eventuate in a baby, or that until it was actually born you can never be quite sure, and so it was 'ok, well next time it might turn into a baby'..

Using pics of embryos and stuff helped for them, we did push that this early one it's not a baby like they are thinking of yet so they didn't feel like we'd lost an actual baby.

I don't know, maybe I just knew it wasn't going to turn out well, or something, the whole 2 1/2 weeks I knew I was pregnant I didn't feel right about it.

[anewme]

WE told our kids ours straight away, when we had m/c's we told them that too. WE named our babies and grieved for them as a family.

[Pinkzy]

I was in a strange situation..still am..about the other kids knowing about our baby who's due in 2 months.

I have a 7 year old daughter who lives with her dad and who I see regularly, usually every 2nd weekend or sometimes more. My husband sometimes sees her if he is home with me or not out and about.

Hubby has an 8 year old daughter who he sees every 2nd Saturday - she used to stay here every 2nd weekend up until about 6 months ago (I stopped the contact she had here as her mother was causing too many problems and the weekends she spent here were an absolute nightmare due to her mum causing so much trouble).

I told my 7 year old pretty much straight away and she's only just getting excited now - I don't think it was "real" for her until I started really showing which was about a month ago. She can't wait to meet her little brother however she's not over the top so to speak, for instance she won't get impatient and say things like "are you evvvver gonna have that baby, mum???" like so many other kids her age say hahaha :D Her father (my ex) is also very happy and supportive of this pregnancy so he only has positive things to say when my daughter asks him about my pregnancy.

Hubby told his daughter a few months ago and she'll sometimes mention the baby to him but most of the time she won't. When she first found out about the baby she only really repeated the negative things her mother would say about her father and I having a baby. She found out a couple of months ago that daddy is having a baby boy in February next year yet she stills asks him "are you having a baby?" and "is the baby going to be a boy" most times she sees him, I think she's pretty confused about the whole situation to be honest...who can blame her.

I'm seeing his daughter for the first time in a VERY long time (at least 5-6 months) on Xmas day as he gets to spend Christmas Day with her this year. I'm not sure if she'll be inquisitive and excited about the baby or if she'll kind of be resentful towards me about it...it's a little nervewracking to be honest just because I haven't seen her in so long and also because she's had no involvement in the pregnancy where as my daughter has. I guess time will tell.

[1+1=5]

hmmm, interesting POVs. I would like to tell DS#1 but i might hold off with DS#2. as Billy said, he will asking 'is the baby coming yet?'.

[tonyamanda]

We told the kids once i had my first scan at 12 weeks.. i even showed them the scan.. my son said "thats why you are getting fat mum" :laughing:

[1+1=5]

well, after reading all the posts I had a chat to DH and we decided to tell DS#1 about the baby. he was so excited....issue is, he is so excited that he tells everyone that will get into conversation with him! :eek::o

[skyla6161]

Rhianna is 3 and we haven't told her anything yet (I'm 11 weeks). We talk about being pregnant and 'the baby' in front of her all the time but she hasn't put 2 and 2 together hehe. We are waiting until I am showing more so she can really understand it, plus she has very little patience. If I tell her we're doing something on the weekend I hear about it Every. Single. Day. Lol. So the idea of her asking me everyday "Is the baby coming today?" for the next 6 months does not sound too fun lol. :p


If she was a bit older and had a better understanding of it all I would have told her immediately. :goodvibes:
I understand this, my daughter is 3... 4 in April and we've told her Mummy has a baby in her belly, i think i'm about 8 weeks, unsure yet as i had a implant then a small bleeding 2 weeks after and nothing since then, so we are very unsure. And as for ultrasounds we have to wait til we get back from holidays in two weeks. But my little one is like "Is the baby coming today" and i'm like oh gosh it's going to be crazy waiting 9 months with Emma asking that everyday. Apart from that she's very excited to be becoming a older sister.